@MrMazda:
With more squared frames, the lenses themselves would not only be that slight little bit larger, but I think they would also help to bring out your cheeks better, and would look like they're better fitted to your face. This would not only help to give you a sophisticated look, but I also think that they'd help to work with your facial features, bring out your cheeks more without making them appear to be so rounded, and most of all, would make them look more like they belong.
I appreciate the long winded response.
For a minute, just reread what you said above. This could actually be a very valid point. The problem is, I am not so sure most people are looking at a picture and thinking that deeply about what they see. It is typically a "I like it" or "I don't like it". They might go back, study the picture, and come to the same conclusion as well. This though would come after an introductory message has been responded to, or sent off. I never receive that message.
Realize… There is a reason why we live in a swipe right / left dating culture. People want to weed through and get what they want. I might be wrong, but I don't think they take part in many pre-decision analytics.
@MrMazda:
I know it's hard to deal with at times, especially with the constant rejection, but don't let that discourage you from trying. I know all too well what it feels like to just give up trying to connect with people for fear of the rejection. I know all too well that you can only get rejected so many times before eventually, it begins to hurt, and you can't help but wonder if you're either ugly, or have some kind of unsightly skin condition like Leprosy, and after a while, it becomes one hell of a bitch of a blow to the self-esteem.
I really don't have a fear of rejection. I have been rejected so many times for dates, friendships, and jobs, that I have become most times pretty numb to the process. Sure, it still bothers me, but it never really puts me off from trying again.
The second thing you said is more accurate. After about 10 years of doing this with zero success, you really need to start evaluating yourself. Lets be honest.. there is only a certain degree that you can blame others. And when you have reached the level of dating failure that I have, it is almost obvious that something is going wrong on your end. It might not be that I am ugly, but it is a question that needs to be asked, even more so since family, friends, and supporters are typically not honest about the answer.
I am in therapy (for various reasons), and who I see now is someone that has tons of experience with LGBT couples and dating. I had him as an expert look at my dating profile and pictures, where even he told me that he can't find anything wrong with what I am doing. I have consulted other people as well. No one can figure it out. So this isn't an as much crying in the corner saying "why me", but instead an overwhelming frustration, because I want to fix what is going wrong.
I have lived in Chicago and West Hollywood, two very gay cities. I have gone out to bars in each city, and received very little attention. I have even created fake profiles on dating sites, displaying my actual profile content, but with fake pictures. While I do not respond to messages (I never meant to catfish), they get tons of activity without me doing anything. So really.. if I am not ugly, why are lack of results being determined based on attractiveness?
Maybe it is because I'm into young twinkish guys. I just find it hard to believe that none like an older guy.