Posts made by lostalone

Glad to hear that, and congrats

Mmmm, coming out does have that chance of changing our actions and behaviors. From my own personal experience at least, I become much more willing to talk about certain topics. I'm also becoming somewhat less guarded, and both will change people's perception of me.

On the other side, people can very well develop their own false perception about you. They start reading patterns out of nothing. Suspicions started to born from actions that have no meaning.

And new information always have that chance to change a dynamic, yes.

I don't know about you, but if you feel you're not changing in any way, then the most you can do about it is communicate everything on your side clearly.

"Look, I noticed that you seem to act differently around me these days. For example,

The whole point about coming out is opening ourselves to let others inside a previously hidden part of us.
By that definition, we also invite rejection and avoidance.

As long as you're not harming others (by having a double life, say), the only metric you should use is how comfortable and free you are with your life decisions.
If you find yourself enjoying a more subdued life without being out and proud, then by all means, you do you.

At the same time, I find myself questioning the idea that being out in any way = being shoved in a certain box and treated accordingly. I don't think you're giving your friends enough credit.

If you're married and secretly having homosexual affair in the side, then yes, I do think you should come out for the sake of your wife and children.

But outside from that, coming out should be a matter of YOU. Do you feel trapped with the way things are? Do you wish others can know you better?

I like early SeanCody. These days I feel like it's been decreasing in quality and the stars aren't my type.

also, IconMale and its sister site, NoirMale. YAY FOR PORN WITH FEELINGS GODDAMMIT.

@demo3:

@Kipowen:

good reaction from the porn stars is of no value if they are not goodlooking. daigo, manato, naoki are some of the hottest porn stars.

Good-looking and good reaction are not mutually exclusive though. Chiba Yuto, Keito and Keisuke Ikegami are both good looking and enjoy having sex.

I hate Atsushi Daido. He's like a Greek sculpture: he has a gorgeous body but is always stiff like a log. I don't like anyone doing gay-for-pay

BIG MOOD.

Atsushi Daigo is….

...sigh.
So handsome.
So disinterested.

SIGH.

I think there's also another (Latino) porn stars who are like that...

insofar as big names are concerned, I'm much more preferring Masaki Koh. He can certainly elevate his bottoms-- even Atsushi Daigo.

Thank you for the recommendations, by the way! I'll definitely check it out.

Scat, golden showers, bloodsports, fisting. Yep, no thanks.

Racist and homophobic overtones aren't my jam either. I'll forgive it when the sex is really hot, or when the guys are very attractive, but even then my enjoyment have been decreased.

Also, passionless sex. Sex where people are just sticking tab A into slot B and ah ah ah AH OH YES OH YES OH FUCK FUCK YES– yawn Again, I'll forgive it when the guys are very attractive, but EVEN THEN.

These days, after reading the news, I'm enjoying cop fetish and harassment-based sex videos less and less. Some parts of me are becoming more aware that IT WOULDN'T HAPPEN LIKE THAT IN REAL LIFE

Twinks and Bears, I tend to like 'em mixed. Size differences ftw.

If it works for you, go for it.

For me, it's 70:30 on it being a turnoff.

Pro:
Done well, it can take away the sting of humiliation, leaving just the lewdness. And sometimes I do want filth and dirty talk.

Con:
For me, those who use it just sounds like they're trying too hard to be a MAN. Insecurity and desperation is very unbecoming (and ironically, not very manly)
Its effect is based on humiliation. I don't particularly enjoy humiliation.
Worse, its humiliation is based on femmephobia, or the idea that you're somehow 'worse' for being feminine or having a pussy.

The permanent one is scent. Oh, and also size difference.
And I'm more of a face type of person rather than abs or ass or anything.

The rest..it comes and goes.

Hmmm.

Brandon from Sean Cody.
From the same studio; Brodie.
XL
Robert Axel
Daymin Voss
Marcos Rezende / Apollo from TheGuySite. so yum.
the late Arpad Miklos, may he rest in peace.
also the late Masaki Koh, may he rest in peace.
A couple of Latino porn stars, too, from Mundomais and such.
maybe Zeb Atlas.
maybe Jeremy Walker.
maybe Brad Kalvo.
maybe Ryan Bones.

Let's see–

what are you enjoying when you watch porn? Do you like the act? Do you just like the aesthetics?

Have you ever felt sexual attraction? To whom? Under what sort of situation?

Have you ever crushed on someone? Who was it? Are you close with them?

Basically, this may be a kink (for example, maybe you can only feel sexual attraction under very specific circumstances or scenario).
OR you might be asexual. Some ace people can masturbate or orgasm or even enjoy sex--those are just physical function. What makes someone ace is the lack of sexual attraction towards anyone. (Think of it like this; when you're hungry, you can eat a bowl of oatmeal and be filled, but you may not necessarily be happy. That's basically what asexuality is)
Alternatively you might be demisexual, as in, you require a certain degree of intimacy to be able to lust on them.

The bottom, maybe?

Except I might faint in the middle. This looks so EXHAUSTING and I salute all the bottoms being able to take that many guys.

Gosh, I wish them luck.

I'm mostly sad because all of his 'patients' are basically being tortured for a lie.

…if I don't know his face, I MIGHT go for him? But at the same time, guy looks basic as heck.

I feel like a lot of everyone are reading more than what the article is stating, and that's….

....a bit sad.

For me, the matter is very simple:

1. What is your preference?
2. Where does your preference come from?
3. Why is GamoraWhy do you think X type of individuals checks that box while others don't?
4. Where does this standard come from?

That's it.

You're not at fault if you liked macho guys, or guys with broad noses, or long-haired guys.
But if you think every macho guys must be Japanese, or all Afro-Caribbean guys will never have broad noses, or long-haired guys are never Swedish, then it MIGHT help to stop and think, "why?"

People are varied, physically and psychologically.

I used to say no.

And then I looked around.

1. I'd seen some really hot trans men. like, if I don't know they are trans, I'm going to drool on them. And they are MANLY.

2. At the same time I know a couple of trans women. Some of them do have dicks because operating is a pricey affair, but do I want to fuck them?

….no.

3. And then these days it's a bit easier to find fictions starring trans men. Whether that's Tumblr art or comic or fanfiction, you can easily see how trans men are depicted in more variety than ever before.
   And reading some of them, I can say with perfect certainty that yeah, I am easily swooning to some of these characters, dick or no dick.

.....
So.

At least I'm going to try. IF we're having problems with the sex, then I'll cross that bridge when it appears.

oooooh. I'd seen his picture before (when looking for pics to sketch with. Yes, I'm serious), so thank you for this!

Will be waiting.

A lot of people seems to be defensive here, and that's….quite sad.

I mean, the least all of us can do is try?

I have preferences. So far I am unlikely to fuck, or go out with people beyond my preferences.
But if I immediately avoid people because of my own preferences-- that is my responsibility alone. That is me being an ass, and people do have a right to call me out on it.

Having preferences is one thing, using that preference to immediately block people is another thing, and waving that preference like you had a 12-inch dick is a whole different thing.

I think there's a fine line between jokes based on one's identity vs jokes based on one's behavior. A.k.a laughing because you're acting silly vs laughing because you're gay.

If the creators are smart, they will shift the joke based on actions, not identity.

And I think this is good. This makes creators evolve beyond lazy stereotypes.

stares at some Japanese porn

hmm.

But I must say I'm a bit thankful for never seeing the worse ones. Most I've seen are the fake as heck ones.