Posts made by hw597

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Given enough interaction, you will always be able to tell.
The thing is that there isn't some hard ad fast set of rules. "Gay guy's do this and straight guys do this" will just get you in trouble. Just pay attention and most importantly, trust your instincts! Reading people is a natural human instinct.

If you really struggle with this, I would suggest reading a good body language book. Its interesting you will should be better and picking up on subtle cues of attraction and flirtation. If someone is presenting them at guys…

A lot of the stereotypical "camp"/ effeminate characteristics are actually just overt flirtation actions. "open wris movements" etc.

Honestly can people stop nitpicking. The "98% comment" is obvious hyperbole.
the fact remains that (speaking for London) drugs are used a lot in gay culture. Hell just log into grindr and that lets you know how comfortable people have become with it.
"PnP BB?"
"420?"
the strangely measured - "What are you into?"
And by drugs I obviously mean the mind altering type. alcohol, weed, LSD, Meth etc.

I feel like I should be saying "lose the insecurity" etc  but honestly, I wouldn't be cool with this.

You need to have a sit down and explain your feelings.
Don't accuse him of, or insinutate any cheating. That would just be your jelousy talking and will push it into a fight. If he really cares for you he needs to respect you enough not to be maintaining such a close relationship with his Ex.

I know it's a horrible thing to ask and i'd even admit to that but I would still need it to happen.

Recently had a one nighter with an older friend. im 28 he is 41
Tbh age itself doesn't mattter . What you look like does for me.

I will pick a hot 40-something over a meh 20-something everytime. And yes shape does come into it a bit (though not to "kill yourself at the gym levels")

Not entirely certain but I can ballpark- more than 15 less than 50
And if I had to settle on a number I would say about 25

For context, I'm 28 years old though I have only really been sexually active since 25 and all but 3 of them were in the last year.

Is there any other reason?

I think that is what it all boils down to in the end.

Wrong or not you will be in good company . I am pretty certain that is reasoning behind most births (most likely your own)

@1mmortal:

@hw597:

omg would people stop justifying this with "the mouth has more bacteria".

There's no need to. While colon is, indeed, susceptible to a number of bacteria, including the ones that are usually found in mouth, the latter, however, is much less so. Mammal's digestive system is designed to take in relatively huge amounts of food, which is always a result of another living being's life cycle. As you can imagine, it is filled with different kinds of unpredictable microorganisms, primarily bacteria and their countless strains. A sloppy dick isn't the worst thing in this scenario, really.

I'm not Dr but I am pretty sure that I am much safer kissing someone than dining on the contents of their anus. Evolutionary respsonses don't happen without reason.
All of that is moot though, certainly not going to advocate it and pretty confident I am better off sticking to a good old fashioned kiss.

@RainbowCloud:

In other words I'm fucked unless I spend thousands of dollars that I don't have.

I might as well just kill myself.  You know.. I obviously don't mean anything to any guy now, so it's not like they will miss me.  They can go on dating and loving all the people they would even with me here.

I'm not being literal.  I'm just saying that I might as well.  What's the point?  I'm not good enough as I am, yet most people can just be themselves and get dates.  You are telling me to be something I am naturally not.  That's fucked up.

No. I'm not saying anything like that.

I will give a bit of an explanation based on myself. I'm okay looking- not runway model but decent enough that I am not nervous. I recently  got into pretty decent shape. It was an unintentional side effect of training towards an obstacle course.

I never imagined I would be a guy that people would describe as gym rat. It still feels bizarre but the thing is I am still me.
"changing who you are"- That is complete nonsense.  If you gain 1kg you willl still be insert name the same counts if you loose 5kg.

You shouldn't be so bothered by being alone. I am alone  atm and will probably remain so for the next two years. I am not bothered in the slightest and neither should you be.

omg would people stop justifying this with "the mouth has more bacteria".
Yes that is true however keep in mind that the type of bacteria that are supposed to live in you colon are very different to the type that are in your throat.

Hell there is even a difference between the intestine and the colon.

And no for me. That's a little too hardcore.. Thought he last guy I was with did do it and I didn't say anything.

You got a thumbs down because HIV hysteria does a lot of damage and has a far reaching footprint. That being said I don't think the question was actually derrogative.

for my answer:

I am negative (conicidentally I last tested 2 about weeks ago).
My ex boyfriend (for a year) was positive.

Sex questions:
Oral sex
Dick -Yes and Nobody uses a condom
Anal/ Rimming - Yes and no condom
Anal Sex- Yes and condom only (I was always top)

We both saw Dr's and talked about the risks, they really aren't that high if you are sensible.  He actually hadn't started meds yet either.
off the top of my head

Unprotected Bottoming with HIV+ top 1/70 Chance of transmission- This is the real danger
Unprotective Topping with HIV+ bottom 1/900 chance of transmission - Probabilty is higher if uncut
Oral- The Dr never outright said it couldn't happen but the chances are neglible. What she said that put me at ease "There hasn't beena documented case of HIV transmission through oral sex alone. (Not impossible but obviously, not going to happen)

Please double chck with your Dr's as I am going off memory.

In the end we did break up because of the status thing (not that I told him that; I didn't want him to feel bad). I just couldn't imagine using condoms for the rest of my life and testing like every month (not that I needed to).

Be careful. Frankly, I don't believe that is posssible and with the amount of ways that a video can be adulterated I can't imagine the torrent will change my mind.

17cm is fine. Yes there are size queens in the world  but trust me you don't want to be with any of them- They are usually fucking mental!

oh please, in todays world it's basically your only option.

I don't know about you but he idea of meeting someone at a bar seems ludicrous to me. I don't talk to anyone lol

about 6.5 inches
btw I'm black- I feel cheated dammit!

Yeah,

I'm going to be real with you.
Focusing on you're looks is not everything but it will help massively. The thing is that most of the change will be internal and as you feel more comfortable and confident it will show.

So yes, I am going to say spend the energy on looks but do it for yourself.
Start first with fitness and health. You will feel like a new person, I guarantee it.

yes, get the contacts (I'm sure you will find some comfortable ones eventually) or laser eye. Or some glasses that don't have the "magnfy effect"
and yes sort out the teeth (that maybe more of a long term goal but it should be on the cards.)

The gay world is crazily visual.
If you do take my advice the first thing I will say is not to go to a gym witha  goal of looking better. That shit rarely works. Train like an athelete.  Book and pay for a run/ obstacle course with plenty of time (4-5 months) the goal is then to get your body ready for the challenge then.
The changes will be a side affect.

Background info for context

Live in London,
28
Looks- im okay. I have a decent body I suppose

Okay last year I decided to actually start exploring the more "scen-ie" side of the gay world. Sauna's included.
First time was a bit nerve wrecking but it was fun.
I went in bursts but roughly about once every 1.5 - 3 months and i'd still go.

At least in London each place has a very distinctive 'vibe'. You definitely need to go on a few different nights as they pull in different crowds. And I much prefer cruise bar's/ underground clubs.

Mix is usually comprised of middle aged, tourists/ new immigrants (that haven't built up a circle yet), Chem boys (majority).

BB sex- Yeah it happens but it certainly doesn't have to. nobody is forcing anything. but you will be tempted.

Warning though most suana's have a cubicle structure. s you only really go in when you see someone you like. This usually means there is a lot of walking!

blowjobs- i wouldn't know. I'm really not that interested in them

rimming
My ex had a very slight beard. It was more like stubble really.
We would occasionally rim me and rub his chin up and down (quite hard) on my rim. Felt fucking amazing

I've done it pretty much everytime since and always got a great reaction.
Though keep in mind everyone is different. I tend to find rimming often feels ticklish the change in sensation was like a god send to me

I was hoping I could get some advice.
I am pretty much silent during sex. i don't see that as a problem necessarily but it does get a bit awkward when I'm with a verbal bottom.

one of my exes remarked that they would find it a bit more reassuring that I'm actually interested.

my problem is I have no idea what to say. Everything in my head either sounds either
creepy, pornesque fake or awkward.

Any tips?
Even moaning seems a bit wierd to me.

if you live in a city with a gay sauna you will be able to find all the bb chemsex in the world.

i live in London and have been to a few sauna's. on the occassions I've been I would say conservatibely- 80% chems and maybe 60% BB.

Not into chems myself though.

Is sex really that much better with chems?

Depends on who it is with.

But rule of humb, real sex much better and more more memorable.