Posts made by hw597

Im from the UK. London Specifically, and I certainly can't complain about the Legal system. Of course people will still be people but generally speaking its very welcoming. I can only speak for big city life though

What worked for me was to exercise towards something.

I booked myself and a friend to do "Spartan Race" (A tough obstacle course) and had 5 months to train for it. Focusing on an event that you need to be fit and strong for worked so much better than vanity.

Its almost a side benefit that you look much better at the end

You don't.
Get your stuff together and move

I am only half joking lol.

I live in London so culture isn't too much of an issue.

But I would always wait.  To be honest I would only ever want to bring it up to someone that I felt close enough to have a discusssion about sex with. Otherwise it's irrelevant.

I usually get asked though (which I really prefer people wouldn't do).

Hmm
I'm not conviced they actually are.

I think they may appear more obvious about it. Though most of that is just machismo (in my opinion). By violently rejecting homosexuality they are confirming to the figurative audience (and themselves) how much of a man they are.

Tbh I often find myself uncomfortabe around straight guys. Everything feels like an act. Compare a guys behaviour amongst fellow "lads" against what the are like with a girlfriend. Ther is usually a stark difference. I am usually friends with this same girlfriend and she wil hand on heart say that she knows the "real" him.  To me that is just creepy.

I am usually only friends with heterosexual guys where I don't get a sense of acting.

Oh he probably alread suspects.

Be careful, there is nothing so obvious as a crush. Particulalrly as if they are as fit as you say (and one is gay) he is probably hyper aware of it.

okay I am going to be the spoilsport that says. Nope, bad idea cut it out.

This isn't bashing, there is a logic to this in my head. Basically it will only ever likely be some light "fun". Worse still it will be "secret light fun".

That kind of thing just gets n the way of meeting the person where things mean something. It also just makes things awkward most of the time.

Its not so much because its incest, but mainly because I think "casual sex" in general should be used cauiosuly and be kept away from your day to day life circle.

Friends should be off limits as well, if it isn't gonna mean anything.

I know, monk behaviour. But I have truly had my fill of friendship sex drama and if I could go back I would totally avoid it. This is pretty much the same sort of thing.

@ orginal poster.  It sounds like a bad idea all around. It being a "gay fantasy" is probably reason enough to steer clear of it. Fantasies usually should stay just that.
I have definately had the situation/ opportunity crop up before but I have never taken the plunge. I can't even properly express why except to say I always feel uncomfortable. Irrespective of how cute the straight/ curious guy is.

@ Have you done it with a girl.
Nope. Though I have had the exact same situation crop up with curious straight girlfriend. Strangely I think I would have been more likely to do that except that the friend in question is crazy high maintenance. That is just drama waiting to happen.