Posts made by Grotomode

I think a lot of people move in the "spectrum" of their general political viewpoints in such a way in order to mirror what their imagined opposition is doing.

Almost out of spite. It's like being as radical/extremist/loud as possible makes you more visible.

You can see it in content engagement throughout any social media platform. I've noticed consistently that moderate discourse that stays away from snark, insults, conspiracy theories that pop up just to top the previous most popular at the time, low blows, ad hominems etc tend to get less feedback whether positive or negative.

Whereas if you say something shocking, controversial, snarky etc you both get much needed attention and its easier to form easily digestible identities (I'm patriotic and you are not, I respect tradition and you do not, I am woke and you are not etc).

They might actually be. I can not think of a reason why so many guys would just claim to be straight while they are actually gay in order to do gay born in the 2021.

I mean they are already recorded doing stuff so it makes no sense to assume they are ashamed to admit they are gay.

In any case it is a huge turn off for me, thats why its been years since I've watched a Corbin Fisher video… bleh...

I dont want to rent someone, whether they are a pornstar or just an non-famous escort.

It takes away from feeling that the other guy is really into you in my opinion.

I literally feel nothing exciting when someone is touching, rubbing, fingering, licking etc my asshole, so… yup.

It took me a while to develop a "fetish" for rimming though.
The weird thing is that when I was still a virgin and highly inexperienced, I thought I was definitely going to bottom, but I was probably influenced by the nonsensical stereotype that gay guys bottom for other "straight"/bi guys.

@raphjd:

@Grotomode:

I do not have to have an explanation for something you claim, dude.

But that was scrutiny is. You make a claim, people express their reasonable doubts and then its on you to prove your point. Prove it then.

No honey, this is you turning every disagreement into a political "debate".

I get it, its an easy way for you to dismiss anyone that calls you on your baseless claims, but you have to grow out of it at some point, dont you think?

And yet again, you claim I'm wrong, but you can't explain why I'm wrong other than you don't like my explanation.

You didn't make any REASONABLE doubt, you just said I was wrong.

Maybe you should just link me to AOC's Instagram page so you don't have to spend so much time typing gibberish non-sense.

I am not making a claim dude. Get your head straight.

You claimed that one person preferring another person of their own "race" is "natural" (and you further clarified that for you natural = the way we are wired, alluding of course to genetics).

I asked you why you claim that. You provided some studies thinking they support your claim, but they dont.

Its as simple as that. If you actually have read those studies, I am sure you will be able to quote the part where they support your claim that the conclusion is some sort of genetic predisposition is at play, right?

Unless you have no idea what the studies actually conclude, which would make sense, since your first and only "rebuttal" to me stating the obvious (that the studies' findings do not support your use of the word "natural") is to say that the disagreement is about finding racism everywhere.

Again, try to leave logical fallacies outside, and actually present data that support your conclusion.

Alternatively, you could tone down your commentary on social and political issues by using modifiers such as "I believe", "in my personal opinion", "maybe", "perhaps", "I could be wrong but…" and so on.

I do not have to have an explanation for something you claim, dude.

But that was scrutiny is. You make a claim, people express their reasonable doubts and then its on you to prove your point. Prove it then.

No honey, this is you turning every disagreement into a political "debate".

I get it, its an easy way for you to dismiss anyone that calls you on your baseless claims, but you have to grow out of it at some point, dont you think?

I had the exact same fear when I was 15 about those white spots, I was terrified and went to a doctor to check lmao…

Oh man, how inadequate sex ed is in most countries, right?

Hm not sure if it qualifies as a rosebud/rosebutt/whatever but I do like it when a hole is loose and the lips are exposed.

The sensation is awesome!

I'm 1.76 (5.8" I think). So not very tall.

I am experienced though…

What about you?

Hmmm… short, smooth, big nipples, good kisser, experienced (I cant stand to feel that I am causing pain to someone even in the first thrusts), and I do not care that much about body type so long as they have ample butt and  thighs.

For sex that is.

In general, I could not tell you, all my previous relationships differed quite a while. The only common denominator is the height I guess. I go for guys shorter than me.

@coscar:

It depends on the individual, the diet, the time of the day even the anxious levels

But, can we just normalize it?
sometimes shit happens and it's ok

Exactly.

Even if its a hook up I always calm them down and behave normally, cause I can imagine the embarrassment, plus its natural.

For a lot of cases that is true. However I also see that homophobic (and in general bigoted views and behavior) seem to increase as people's own problems increase. Its like a trigger to turn against others (usually the ones who are physically, socially, emotionally less powerful) in order to feel powerful and forget one's own problems or vent for them.

This could show issues with emotional awareness and possibly issues with what is considered traditional upbringing for most people.

The last bit you mentioned is always very heart warming.

A friend of mine recently came out to his parents at the age of 40+ (which means his parents are way over 60), it went surprisingly well and it was an opportunity for them as a family to talk sincerely about how they feel in general, which goes to show how being open to someone about being gay is working towards openness in general. Something I am guessing a lot of people find difficult, whether they are gay, straight, trans etc.

Therefore you concede I did not mention racism and that you put words in my mouth?

"Natural as in the way we are wired" implies something inherent and/or genetic.

The data you present (with no sources but it does not make a difference) do not justify the conclusion you are trying to peddle as obvious.

You made the claim to begin with, therefore you are the one that has to prove it. Not the one who expresses doubt.

Its how argumentation works. If you do not like it, I suggest you stop commenting on issues that have nothing to do with your -it seems- favourite polarizing view of the world that everything is liberals vs conservatives.

Can you quote me where I said anything about racism before you brought it up?

You are a terrible commentator on pretty much anything because you fail to define the words you use even after someone asks you to do so. And that is disregarding the fact that you just tried to attribute to myself something that I did not say. Might wanna be more careful.

So to the topic at hand: What do you mean by "natural"? That it is not inherently bad? Sure no problem there.

Do you mean natural as in the dichotomy of nurture vs nature?

If so, the data you presented simply do not justify the use of the word. Simple, no?

The rest of the stuff that you blurted out are, again, completely irrelevant to what I just said, and is a consequence of you trying to find baaaad liberals/leftists to anyone who challenges anything you say. Good going dude…

@raphjd:

It seems some people want to make everything about racism.

So in order to not be accused of following the racism bandwagon, the reasonable conclusion is that the data you present support a "natural" preference?

Absolutely no bush.

At the very least somewhat trimmed. Even if you have a hair fetish or like the "natural look", when that thing gets curly it becomes a huge tangled mess, I tell ya!

Our old house when I was living with my family used to have one but we never used it.

So I have never used one in my life to this day.

It seems kind of useless because (a) I am guessing you would still have to set the correct temperature which is a waste of time and (b) I will still need to use toilet paper or a towel.

So I might as well go on doing what I do now which is to use baby wet wipes.

I am sure the researchers behind the study did not intend for their audience to go about and call anyone exhibiting any sort of homophobia "stupid".

Trust me, in my own personal thoughts and private discussions I will often call homophobes stupid (or worse obviously), but what I do in my personal discourse is completely separate to what sort of discourse an actual study aims to initiate, even in the possibility that the authors are biased on the subject and/or the actual findings are debatable.

Plus, it will be interesting to see how they define homophobia and which instances of homophobia they include in their conclusions.

Hm, I do not know any of them.

The only openly LGBTQI artist that I have in my phone and listen to is Anohni (formerly Antony and the Johnsons).

Well it depends… my ex was definitely always 100% clean but he had to get cleaned thoroughly.

A friend of mine claims they do not have to prepare and they are usually clean.

So it depends on the individual I guess.