Posts made by fitzr

There are two aspects to this: one is alleged pay discrepancy for different genders in the same job performing the same duties (which yes, I do believe is still an issue), and the other is alleged discrimination in hiring for higher-paid positions (which yes, I do believe is also an issue).

I consider myself to be an "average" person.  I was in upper management at a government agency that oversaw a predominately male industry (oilfield).  So there are arguable reasons why the regulatory agency would have discrepancies of that sort, I honestly don't think them particularly valid.  YMMV.

Where's Church Lady when you need her!

Nice to see a fellow Texan on here!  Welcome!

Married for 3 years, together for 22.

Why not.

In a conference room at work.  (Damn, I was stupid back then.)

Love 'em too, no resources, etc. etc.

Recently stumbled across a couple of vids of guys having wet dreams.  One in shorts shooting cum through the cloth; OMG so hot.

At the end of the day, why is this even a debate?  I enjoy watching hot men have sex; but since I'm not sleeping with any of them in reality, what difference does it make (and why should it make any difference) what they do when they're not on my screen?

Let's say that they're actually straight.  Obviously they have concluded that the benefits from this work outweigh the costs.  Who here hasn't had a job they didn't like but stayed for the money (or whatever benefit was important enough to us at the time)?

Let's say that they're actually gay.  Obviously they have concluded that the benefits of concealing it outweigh the costs.  Who here hasn't concealed some aspect that might prove problematic in a social setting (such as our apparent fondness for watching gay porn)?

See?  What we think of them doesn't matter; and we can argue both sides until the moon goes blue with cold.  But at the end of the day, the problem (if there is one) is theirs and those who are actually sharing their lives while all of us have moved on to the next hot guy on the playlist.

Just my 2 cents.  (For those outside the US, a cent is 1/100 of a US dollar and is virtually worthless.)

More and more mainstream christian denominations are wrestling with the sexuality question and have (at least some form of) per-congregation choice.  I'm a member of a United Methodist congregation who have basically said that orientation is irrelevant.  (I used to be a member of an American Baptist congregation who had similar opinions, and I know of many other individual congregations who do likewise.

If you look hard enough (meaning that it's important enough to you to do so), you should be able to find a congregation to suit.

Of course, I'm in a "blue" city in a vast "red" state, so my experience may not be universal.

OMG, I had it so bad for Jon Erik Hexum back in the day.

I like it so far.  Not sure where they're going to go next season though.

@slimsf888:

Jealous of the 13% who have it daily!

Newlyweds or professionals. 

@zvonac:

Thanks for the advice everyone… I still have the feeling that something is going on, and that I should trust my instinct.
We haven't had sex in a long time, he's always busy and away for work all day, often goes to birthday parties and such and "forgets his phone in the car".... The problem is that I can't directly ask him because he will immediately direct the attention to me and act defensive ("I think you are the one who's cheating"... "I've always been unsure of you.." etc)
I caught a glimpse of his phone password, and I need to catch a moment when he's in the shower or something to take a look.

Just my 2 cents, but there's no way checking out his phone will end well.  If you're right (and I think you probably are) then he'll turn the argument around on your action rather than his; and if you're wrong, well, then you're wrong and there's no upside to be found there.

You no longer trust him.  With respect, I have absolutely no way to tell whether it's because he's untrustworthy or because you have trust issues.  Either way, without some sort of "trustable" foundation, your relationship is not on solid ground.

Might be time to take a step back and re-evaluate things.  At the very least, y'all appear to have different visions of what constitutes fidelity and relationship.  Good luck!

Check out the handles on your kitchen tools….

@martin526:

They advised me too put a lot of lubes when the ass is too tight

Lube is just the first step.  If you're new to bottoming, do yourself a huge favor and find a patient top.  1) Relax.  2) Lube.  3) Relax.  4) ass play.  5)  Relax.

The right partner will take the time to help you relax and open up.  If they just dive right in, you're not going to enjoy it very much (unless you've been doing it a long time and are into extreme abrupt entries.)

Might even get yourself a few small/medium toys and have a party of 1 to find out what works for you.

You're putting too much pressure on yourself man.  Sex is as much in the brain as it is in the dick. (more so, actually.)

First, don't worry about it.  There are worse things in life than being a bottom; so if it turns out that you go that way, enjoy it!

Second, it isn't too clear what about topping is the kill point.  I've found that I much prefer topping, ehrm, from the bottom.  (Lying down and letting my guy sit on me.)  So change it up; see if some other position is more to your taste….

Any way you cut it though, try not to stress out over it; that way lies madness!

Yes.  If it feels good, do it.  Surprise your spouse by letting him "catch" you and see if it doesn't lead to a surprisingly passionate night!

I'm of "a certain age" and came out just as the health crisis was hitting panic mode in the early '80s.  As a consequence, I've had relatively few partners and less sex than one might think of a healthy gay male.  Sex has been fun when it happened, but there was considerable worry and angst associated with it as well.  (Frankly, I harbor a lot of jealousy over the life I should have had: I paid the price for being gay, but didn't get the supposed benefits.)

Within the past year, I started PrEP.  I can't say that I've become particularly slutty, but I can say that the worries I used to have have been greatly reduced.  I love to bottom and it's made all the difference in the world for me.  I still check my partners' statuses and play safe if bottoming for a positive guy; but I'm more inclined to bareback for a guy who is also on PrEP.

Does that make me a slut?  I don't think so, though your mileage may vary.

Hey, all.  Been around for a few weeks but haven't appeared much in the forums.  Came for the porn, will stay for the porn but wouldn't mind some discussion.  55 year old ex bureaucrat in Texas (U.S.A.)  Firm believer in proxy servers.

Ask and I shall answer….