Posts made by bob85

Yes, it's legal in the US…although my state was one of the remaining ones that didn't have it legalized until the supreme court stepped in.

It's a mix for me…Although i'd say it's like 75% female, 25% male. My CLOSEST friend is female though.

When I hang with my female friends, it's usually about gossip...like talking about hot guys and stuff.
When I hang with my guy friends, it's usually about video games and drinking/bar hopping.

Never been to Australia…although I would like to someday.

TPBM is a twink/is into twinks

Of course!

I'm not gonna turn the water off, dry myself off, get out of the tub, and walk to the toilet just to piss and then get back into the shower and resume. That's just nonsense IMO.

I agree, pro-choice here.

Although…the reason why many people advocate against abortion is because they view an unborn fetus, no matter what stage it's in, as alive and killing it as 'murder'. So they don't view this as an issue about individual's freedom because an unborn is involved.

Oh boy…this thread keeps getting so many replies haha.

Just to clear things up, I think the term "disgusted" may have been too harsh to use here.... Perhaps "sadness" or "unclean" may have been a better word to use.
I wasn't ever really disgusted from masturbating to porn, just sometimes I felt mildly depressed right after. And the fact that the cum would lay on my body/underwear made me sometimes feel dirty.
Now…it's not like that so much anymore. I've been enjoying it most of the time and it feels great!  ;D

There's something cute about him…i think i'm more admired by his body than his face though 

Basically I'm interested in knowing when was the earliest you recall feeling same-sex attraction, even if you didn't exactly know what you were feeling at that age.

The earliest I can remember was when I was 9. I saw a movie where a man was taking off his shirt to get ready to swim. Can't remember the movie, but I do remember feeling drawn to him and his body lol. I didn't understand what i was feeling at that age either.

Another instance was when I was in the 6th grade and i had my first same-sex crush on another boy in my class.

How about you?

It just goes to show how shallow and intolerable some people are. If he/she acted all buddy-buddy with you before he/she knew you were gay and then rejected your friendship after you coming out, then he/she wasn't really your friend. That's what I call a "fake friendship" - someone who 'acts' like they're your friend/feels like they got your back, but really doesn't care enough about you to look past your sexuality.

A true friend wouldn't ever do that to you.

and to answer your question…yes a couple have. I kinda sensed they were jerks anyways before I came out to them. Glad they aren't in my life anymore

first year we're not doing that unfortunately

TPBM is over 6 feet tall

Yes, often…but not every night. I used to nearly every night when i was younger.

Face matters to me more.
A nice, big dick is definitely a plus, but having a handsome face is pretty much required or else there's no attraction..

@DamaDama:

no
for a million dollars would you stop having sex?

Yes…if i'm allowed to masturbate, watch porn, or release my sexual urges some other way 

For a million dollars, would you give up eating ice cream forever?

I'm curious how fetishes start/are developed. For example, I've been very fond of bondage since I was about 12. I remember seeing a scene in a movie where a guy was tied up/gagged and I was mesmerized by that scene. Even though I didn't quite understand what I was feeling at that age, I still remember liking what I saw in the movie. Bondage turns me on instantly..I get a boner within seconds of seeing a hot guy tied up/gagged. I can't explain how or why I get a thrill when seeing guys in bondage…but its definitely my biggest fetish/kink.

I know foot fetishes are pretty common. I don't have a foot fetish - I tried being attracted to men's feet (staring at men's feet and jacking off to them) but I'm just indifferent about that part of a male's body. Nevertheless, I know many gay guys go crazy over men's feet.

Do you think fetishes are similar to sexual orientation in that neither aren't necessarily 'choices'?
I know I didn't 'choose' to be attracted to male bondage.

Care to share some of your fetishes?

Do you mean in relative to one's own age?

I'm 23…so I'd say my ideal age range is 18-29 or so, maybe 35 max.
That's likely to change as I grow older though 

Bondage…not anything extreme like leather or chains though

stuff like str8menintrouble, straightupguys, or even lighter stuff like capturedguys can be turn on for me!

Woah I never thought this thread would get so many replies…

Thanks everyone for your advice! I haven't felt disgusted lately after masturbating to porn since I've posted this topic. My feelings have simmered down every time I climax...I don't feel the same sense of disgust like I used to.  ;D

Not sexually, no.

But many women can be aesthetically pleasing to look at. I find many to be attractive in a complete platonic way. The female form does nothing for me sexually…no arousal whatsoever.

@yababylol:

The shame feelings are about cultural programming, trust me. I don't know what your upbringing was like, but even a casual connection to Western culture tends to bring with it deeply ingrained Old Testatment hangups about your own sexuality.

Even an atheist who pragmatically knows in his head there's no logical reason to keep feeling those old fears and shameful feelings can't escape an entire childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, etc … however long it took you to mature enough to understand there's nothing wrong with you venting off perfectly natural horny steam, as an adult man, has little to do with it. If you're religious, it's the screaming of the preacher and your parents that have those subconscious reactions programmed into you.

If not, it's at least the jeering and jokes from your peers while you were going through school and growing up (I still remember the day I could finally get all of my male friends to admit to me that they jerked off, at 18. We'd spent the last 6 years denying it and using it as an insult against each other). That stuff sticks with you in ways that don't even touch on your conscious thoughts. They become instinct after while.

Still, there's hope and good news -- you can and will deprogram that nonsense shit. It just takes time, and a refusal to let it beat you. Now, when I miss a day of jacking off, THAT'S when I feel disappointed in myself. It's like exercise for every gland in your body that produces testosterone -- it's good for you, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically to ejaculate at least once a day (or multiple times, if you can get it). The fact that you use porn as an aid is no reason for shame -- we're visual animals.

You'll get over it. I promise. I promise, humanity at large will still love you after you jack off to a video of a twink getting stuffed up the rump. What's more, the people you're talking to right now can relate.  

Excellent advice! You hit the nail on the head with that post! I think it was my upbringing that is making me feel down after I masturbate to porn. All the bad things I've been taught as a child/teenager about masturbation and porn (and how being gay is the "worst" thing someone could be) is still ingrained in my mind. It's amazing that even at 23, I still have feelings of shame, guilt, and disgust thanks to my cultural upbringing.

Thanks all for your advice as well!

Of course! Just because some people have same-sex attractions, then that suddenly means they can't be religious? Are religions only for straight people?

I try to put it in perspective:
It's arguable that people's sexual attractions/orientation are completely innate - it's not a choice. Then why should a minority group who's sexual orientation is out of their control be forbidden to believe in a god or hold any religious beliefs?