Assuming "He said that wood that he could do that" should be "He would if he could do that”?
Either way… He has a reason for not pursuing. He may or may not be into men. He may simply want a friendship in spite of or because of his orientation. He may have his own issues that he is going thru which take priority over all else for him. The list goes on.
No one here knows this person so we can’t say give a definite to do list.
That being stated… you have a choice:
- Take a chance and tell him how you feel. This can go either way.
He can stay a friend, walk away, or end the friendship. It is all on him. You have absolutely no control over his reaction & decision.
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Resolve to be a friend without the expectation of more if that is what he wants.
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If you cannot handle #2 & that is as far as he can go… separate for the benefit of both of you.
Before all of that… do a honest self-evaluation (get help from someone who knows & loves you enough to be honest with you if need be) to determine if pursuing him or anyone is in your best interest at this point in time.