Sorry, but disagreeing with what you call "derailing" and "deflection" isn't being uncivil.
Any response you don't like is "derailing" and/or "deflection".
Here's an example of a conversation (I've used them before);
You; Jeffery Dahmer is the only serial killer to target males.
Me; Umm, John Wayne Gacy and others have to.
You; STOP DERAILING!!! We're only talking about Jeffery Dahmer.
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You; Trump is a racist. You support a racist.
Me; Hillary openly admits she worships at least 3 well known racists. You support a racist.
You; STOP DERAILING!!! We're only talking about Trump.