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    PedrocaWest

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    • RE: Horrifying fact about transGENDER people

      @lololulu19 @blablarg18

      This post is honestly full of misunderstandings and harmful assumptions, so is needed to respond in good faith and clear a few things up.

      First off, the math you're using doesn’t hold up. Saying that trans people are “four times more likely” to experience mental health issues doesn’t mean 100 percent of them have a disorder. That’s not how statistics work. If 25 percent of the general population has a diagnosable mental health condition, then four times that is 100 percent only if every single trans person is affected, which isn't what any credible data says. Risk factors don’t equal universal outcomes.

      Now, it’s true that trans people face higher rates of mental health challenges, but the cause isn't being trans. It’s how the world treats them. There’s tons of research showing that rejection, family rejection, bullying, harassement, discrimination, and being denied healthcare are what lead to worse mental health outcomes. In fact, when transgender people are accepted, supported, and able to access care, their mental health outcomes improve significantly. Being transgender it’s not that causes distress, it’s being mistreated for it that is the cause.

      You also bring up gender dysphoria as if it’s proof of mental illness. That’s not accurate. Gender dysphoria is a medical condition, like pregnancy or chronic pain. It’s not a “mental illness” in the sense people often use that term and even in the Internationcal coding of Deiseases it was moved from "mental issues" to "Conditions relative to sexual health". The condition doesn’t mean someone is delusional, it means they’re experiencing real distress because their body and identity don’t line up and usually the disphoria stops right after trans people are ok with their transition and passability level. And here’s the key part: the only treatment that has consistently worked to "cure" gender dysphria is gender-affirming care (including social and sometimes medical transition). Not therapy to “talk them out of it.” Not meds to suppress identity. And definitely not what used to be tried in the past: electroshock, institutionalization, torture or worse. Those methods didn’t help. They traumatized people. Sometimes they killed them.

      So if we’re serious about helping people with gender dysphoria, we should listen to what works. Supporting them in their transition works. Trying to “fix” them doesn’t.

      Also, lumping trans people together with “transvestites” or saying gay people aren’t “mentally ill”, while trans people are (they both were labeled this way in a recent past), just reinforces outdated and frankly harmful stereotypes.
      First: Transgender people have a gender identity different from the sex assigned at birth, just this. Gay/lesbian/bi describes sexual orientation, not gender (and trans people can also be gay or from any orientation) and cross-dressing or transvestism is not inherently linked to being trans or gay. It can be part of a kink, art or lifestyle, but not always. Being trans isn’t a fetish, it isn’t a phase, and it isn’t something people just made up, is something recorded throughout all human history since ancient times. And it’s recognized by every major medical organization in the world, including the American Medical Association, the APA, and the WHO, even in countries who hate queer people.

      Also, equating race identity with gender identity (“I identify as Black”) is a false comparison. Race and gender are experienced and constructed very differently in society, and this argument ignores the robust science and lived experience behind trans identities.

      Finally, telling a story about a friend who had a bad experience dating a trans person doesn’t prove anything, even your previous story proves it. People have rough relationships all the time, straight, cis, gay and trans people can be jerks too, regardless of gender, people can develop mental ilness at any point of life due to trauma, age or a lot of factors. That’s not a trans issue, that’s a human issue. That doesn’t make an entire group “mentally ill.”

      If you genuinely care about mental health, then we should be trying to make the world safer and more accepting for everyone, you should be advocating for better support and treatments even for mentally ill people, not trying to paint trans people like insane people, you wouldn't be doing it to any person with an actual mental illness or medical condition like you do to trans people, so don't buy the ideology of jerk people that are trying to erase trans people out of existence and civil rights. Trans people deserve respect, support, and the right to live their lives without being labeled “insane” just for existing.

      They’re not the problem. The stigma is. And the stigma already labeled us, gays, as insane people too in the recent past, denied us health care and put us in prisons and concentration camps, in fact all this anti-trans rethoric is just a re-edition of old tactics used to paint gays and all queer people as ill, predators, insane, nasty, dangerous and a lot of things. They just changed some arguments, but the script is the same.

      (And it's the same script used against jews in the past if you look closer, but this is something to talk another time).

      Let’s try to be better than this.

      posted in Sex & Relationships
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @stdspd11

      Actually, I’ve noticed two or three users here who are clearly right-wing gays. They mostly interact with each other, and they tend to be way more active than the left-wing ones. Probably because most left-wing queer folks are already exhausted from arguing elsewhere and just don’t have the energy to keep debating on a porn site. And because here they are not punished for saying shit like they will be in any social network with moderation bots and investors to keep things neutral and profitable.

      Globally, most queer people lean left politically. That’s because, outside of authoritarian regimes, left-wing parties and countries tend to be more supportive of LGBT rights. Also, most of the world strongly dislikes Trump, just as we’ve disliked all former US presidents, because, geopolitically, the U.S. acts like a global bully. But Trump stands out as especially dangerous. And no, people don’t think that because “liberal media told them.” It’s because we have eyes, and we have healthier societies to compare.

      One thing the site admin pointed out, and he is absolutely right: even the biggest “left-wing” party in the U.S. is still deeply racist, sexist, and queerphobic by global standards. That’s because American politics is so skewed to the right that their so-called "left" would be considered just right-wing anywhere else.

      Sure, sometimes someone with genuine good intentions pops up among the Democrats, but those people rarely make it to the top. The system simply doesn’t allow it. Politicians who care “too much” about people threaten the system itself. The last truly leftist presidential candidate was Bernie Sanders, and at this point, it’s doubtful he’ll live long enough to run again.

      So people like those three right-wing users never even hear about the genuinely good folks in politics. And when they look at figures who are supposed to be the “good guys”, like Biden, they feel disappointed. Then they end up siding with people who at least are being honest about their bad intentions. “We’re going to destroy your life,” they say, and somehow, that sounds more trustworthy. At least they don’t feel betrayed when the leopards eat their faces after they voted fot the "leopards eating faces" party.

      I usually just ignore those users unless they start slipping into conspiracy territory or post outright misinformation, especially when it targets the very existence of trans people. Not because I expect to change their minds, but because if no one pushes back, people who are still figuring things out might start believing the propaganda. And that’s how bigotry spreads: when it's the only voice in the room.

      The thing with Trump supporters is that they already live inside their own echo chamber. That alone wouldn’t be so bad if Americans as a whole weren’t already trapped in a much larger echo chamber that keeps them disconnected from the rest of the world. The MAGA version is just a way more radical, more distorted version of that bubble, and it’s not worth the emotional labor to try to pop it.

      I’m a foreigner, and honestly, we’re seeing the same thing happen outside the US now. Trumpism is being exported, sometimes word-for-word, with no cultural context or adaptation to countries where some of the rethoric doesn't even makes sense. His supporters are actively building Trump-style movements in other countries, creating local copycat politicians and parties and with no exception is always catastrophic to the country.

      This isn’t the place for a deep political discussion, you know why. A better way to push back is simply to post left-wing news and memes, just like they do with their propaganda. Or just do nothing. Let the leopards eat their faces like they will already do. The leopards don't spare someone just because they support them. Why waste your energy arguing?

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Horrifying fact about transGENDER people

      @raphjd You are right, criticism isn't "phobia".
      But one of the people here everyday create a new topic calling trans "mutilated, confused, mentally-ill or groomers", and spreading fake news and misinformation about them..
      The guy also calls trans and autistic people mentally-ill, and this is ableist per se.

      Religious people will call their persecution towards gay people "criticism" too, but it doesn't make it less persecutory.

      posted in Sex & Relationships
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @blablarg18 "Free speech, peace, and race-neutrality"? That’s cute.

      What it means to you?

      As I said, I'm a foreigner. I don't live in US and, as the rest of the world, I know the rest of the world better than the average american.

      Most of the countries have stronger laws to keep the free speech and the respect, so people can't openly lie, spread hate speech or misinformation, nor offend people like is allowed in America. Protests are free speech? Different clothes are expression freedom? Apparently not in US.

      Peace and US in the same sentence sound like a joke to the rest of the world, because US is the biggest war machine in the planet and funded coups and wars all over the world. So remembering it and how americans worships guns, and talk about “civil war” every election cycle and call it "peace" is just ironic.

      Race-neutrality is a new term to me, is something like colorblind casting, that puts people of any race in certain roles according to merit, or is a cuter way to pretend racism is not a thing?

      Calling that out isn’t a “mask off” moment. It’s just not letting people hide behind nice-sounding buzzwords that hide harmful actions.

      As I said, is an echo chamber. It doesn't worth what I say, you believe I think in a certain way and you automatically see me as an enemy. You don't want to have a conversation, you want to give a speech, even if it's to an empty room.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Gay and Muslim

      @raphjd:

      This discussion is about "gay and muslim" so that is why it is the focus.

      I still think the way the discussion developed it's a bad way.
      Instead of stimulates people to change the strutures of their religion I have only seen finger pointed and posts that can be resumed to "muslins are evil and vile, gay muslins either" in a website with a big arabic forum right there, indicating that are way more gay muslins then we can see.

      I undestand that you dislikes religious stuff, but I don't think this way it's a good way to talk about these subjects.

      (And i feel some prejudice in your speech, I say it as a outside viewer, that is non-european, non-british, non-muslin, non-religious at all, a way different context with no terrorist attacks and no middle east immigrants).

      I don't know if my post will contribute here, but I felt someone should post it.

      posted in Religion & Philosophy
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    • RE: Horrifying fact about transGENDER people

      @raphjd You’re actually pretty sure I’m American, right?
      Because most of these names you keep throwing at me, I honestly wouldn’t know if you made them up because this is so american-centered that you don't even know, and to me this is not a great strategy because anyone can pick bad cases of any group to say the group is bad, they do it with gays and with MAGA all the time, but what really show if the accusation is right is the real ideology and actions of the group/movement as a whole. (and that's not right at all when you see the trans or gay movements).

      You just have this pre-built idea of who I am, what I think, and what side I’m on and is fighting with this pre-built idea, not with me and what I am actually saying. I’m not American, I don't live in US. I’m just someone observing things globally, and trying to be honest about the patterns I see, specially when I see the pattern of attacking rights of LGBTs.

      And I want to say this: Everything you’ve said about trans people? That exact same logic, almost literally word for word, has been used against us for decades by religious conservatives.

      They’ve always said “I don’t hate all gays, just the ones who are too flamboyant, or the ones who push an agenda, or the ones who confuse kids, or the ones who blablabla.”
      They would pick out some gay men who did something wrong, amplify the hell out of it, and say: “See? This is why we can’t trust any of them.”
      They’d say things like “Real gay people just live quietly, it’s the queer ones we have a problem with.”

      Sound familiar?

      Now you’re doing the exact same thing with trans people. Splitting them into “real” and “queer attention-seekers.” Highlighting some edge-case behavior or bad actor and acting like that somehow makes the whole group suspicious. That’s not fairness. That’s recycled bigotry, just pointed in a new direction.

      And look, people manipulating systems or doing shitty things exists in every group. Straight people, gay people, cis people, trans people, we’ve all seen examples. But if we let those few define the whole, we end up justifying exclusion, dehumanization, and discrimination for everyone.

      That’s not justice. That’s fear politics.

      If someone abuses a legal loophole, we fix the loophole. We don’t turn that into a reason to treat an entire marginalized community as suspect or dangerous. We both know how that story ends, we’ve lived it in our own skin or as a group.

      You say you respect “real” trans people. But in everything you write, you’re building a picture of them that’s conditional and demeaning. And the people writing anti-trans laws? They don’t care about your categories. They don’t make exceptions for the “good ones.” They just ban healthcare, restrict rights, ban LGBT suicide helplines, and unleash violence on the entire group. And your rhetoric helps them do it, even if that’s not what you meant.

      We, as gay men, should know better. We should be standing up against this logic, not repeating it.

      posted in Sex & Relationships
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    • RE: ATTENTION: RAPHJD!!! ATTENTION: RAPHJD!!!

      @AnythingOld:

      @PedrocaWest:

      @AnythingOld:

      Something tells me you'll get a kick out of this.

      I'm from Brazil, I don't know her '-'

      That's why you shouldn't claim Trump to be a "Xenophobic piece of shit," when you don't understand how complicated America actually is.

      We have a version of Trump here as president.
      He is a xenophobic piece of shit too.

      posted in Jokes & Funny Stuff
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @blablarg18 Actually we see NATO as just an extention of the US military and that Ukraine only started that useless war because of a coup funded by US itself.
      Also most of the world hate Russia too, we don't think Putin and Trump are so different, if there is any difference is that Putin is just smarter.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Ok, I"ll Stop Saying It!!

      He is a xenophobic piece of s***

      posted in Jokes & Funny Stuff
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @blablarg18 Can you confirm Layla Jane is dead?
      I can't find any information about her passing.
      Also, as I said in other topic: The rest of the world only allow trans teens to have hormone replacement and any surgical body modification after 16 and 18, specifically.

      The whole case is wrong, the doctor should and could not perform mastectomy at someone that is 13yo and she is totally right for sueing them.

      This is why puberty blockers exist, they give time for someone that is confused to mature enough to be really sure if they are trans or not.

      And in the video the guy clearly don't know what the hell the recording guy is talking about, he just thinks is a random lgbtphobe saying shit. And is treating him accordingly.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: "Trump brokered peace between Rwanda and Congo", says The Economist

      Alright, let’s flip it to make things clearer for you. Just imagine for a second:

      Your country elects a president through a democratic process. People vote, things are messy like any country, but it’s your mess to deal with. Then suddenly, a much richer foreign country starts saying, “Hmm, we don’t like this leader. He’s too close to our rivals.” So they secretly fund media outlets and political groups inside your country to destabilize things. They support strikes, create panic about trumpism, even encourage the military to step in.

      And guess what? A coup happens. Your president is removed, and a military regime takes over, backed and praised by that foreign country. For the next couple of decades, people in your country are jailed, tortured, or disappear just for disagreeing. The rich get richer, especially companies tied to that foreign country, which now has access to your land, your resources, your industries.

      Years later, documents come out confirming that the whole thing was orchestrated. “Yes, we did it,” they say. “It was necessary.”

      Now imagine someone from that country tells you: “Well, we pay into the WHO and the UN, so technically we’re helping you. You should be grateful.”

      Wouldn’t that sound a little twisted?

      Because that's the dynamic you’re defending. And it’s not ancient history. That kind of interference leaves scars for generations. And we’re not talking about hypotheticals, this is lived reality for many of the countries with US backed coups.

      Looks unfair? Ok, let me push the thought experiment a little further.

      Let’s say a powerful country from the Global South, maybe one led by someone like Nicolás Maduro, or maybe Iran, or even China, decides to intervene in North America.

      They find a rising dictator in Canada, someone brutal, but useful. So they back him to the teeth, give him weapons, intelligence, and financial support to take over the country. The guy ends up committing atrocities, but they keep calling him a "stabilizing force" because he's good for business.

      Now imagine that, under his regime, Canadian-backed militia groups start crossing the border into the US, burning towns, raping, murdering, and, here’s the key, taking over mineral-rich territories. Over the years, more than 100 armed groups emerge, all fighting for resources, many of them supported directly or indirectly by that same foreign power.

      American citizens are displaced, enslaved in mines, or live under constant terror. But the outside world barely notices, because minerals keep flowing.

      Then one day, after decades of chaos, the foreign power steps in and says, “Let’s make peace.” They broker a treaty, pat themselves on the back, and as part of the agreement, they now get to legally own one-third of America’s mineral wealth.

      And they’re hailed globally for their diplomacy.

      You’d lose your mind, right?

      You’d be furious, and rightfully so.

      Now imagine the country that backed all of this saying you should be grateful because they pay something to a international organization. And that "all countries had some skeletons in their closets, even yours, so you should not be so angry".

      But replace “USA” with “Congo,” “Canada” with “Rwanda,” and that’s essentially what’s happened.

      And you can always change Canada for Mexico if you prefer, I believe you two hate each other more as countries, don't you? Maybe it can make this experiment a little more real in your mind.

      This isn’t anti-American sentiment. This is just calling out a pattern that would be obvious to anyone if the roles were reversed.

      You’d be furious if this had happened in your own country, but I get why some of this might not hit you the same, you’ve lived in the US and the UK, so most of the history you know comes from the “winning side” when it comes to shaping world narratives, and those are two of the nations most involved in global atrocities. So honestly, it might be unfair of me to expect you to see it from the perspective of those who’ve always been on the receiving end, this is not in your history books, it's in ours.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: "Trump brokered peace between Rwanda and Congo", says The Economist

      @raphjd Man, I’ll say it again: you’re not really talking to me. You’re still arguing with some imaginary liberal that lives rent-free in your head.

      I already said I’m not American. And I’ve made it crystal clear I don’t support the Democratic Party either. I think their leaders are garbage. Clinton? Hated him. Obama? Overrated. Biden? Please. So when you say stuff like “you think they’re saints,” you’re not describing me. You’re describing some character you’ve invented out of nothing.

      Also, you keep dropping all these American scandals like they’re global events. Hunter Biden, Blinken, Russiagate, your local media wars, I barely know who half these people are. Honestly, the only thing I do know about Hunter is that he had drug issues, leaked nudes, and apparently, he’s got a huge and surprisingly photogenic dick. That’s it. That’s the entire file.

      And on this idea that “the US pays for everyone else”, listen, I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but people outside Us pay taxes too. Our countries contribute to international orgs, we send troops to UN missions, we donate aid, we welcome refugees, and my country actually don't have it's hand in US pockets. In fact, we’ve recently cleared all our dues, millions of dollars in 2023 and 2024. So that whole idea that U.S. taxpayers are covering my taxes? Not really true in our case. What we don’t do is orchestrate coups, run black ops, or install puppet regimes. We and most of the world haven’t overthrown a single foreign government in over a century. Can the US say the same?

      You say the US helps us by covering a share of the UN or WHO bills? Maybe. But that help doesn’t come free. It comes with strings, contracts, influence, leverage. That’s not charity, that’s investment. Essentially, you're saying it’s “okay” for a powerful country to meddle violently as long as it pays a bit, in kind of an abusive relationship. And you think that makes it acceptable for the US to stage coups in other nations—including mine, then lecture us about responsibility. That’s messed up logic. And when people criticize US foreign policy, they’re not whining about the check; they’re reacting to the control that comes with it. It’s like saying we should be grateful to the mafia because they paved the street after burning the bakery.

      Look, I get it, you’re angry that American money gets spent abroad while people at home struggle. That’s valid, you should stop wasting so much messing with foreign policy and help your people. But don’t act like the rest of us are freeloading. Most of us would love if the US stopped meddling everywhere and let the rest of the world sort out its own problems without the strings attached or undercover manipulation. Honestly, we’d thank you.

      And about the “libs vs cons” thing, outside the US, it just looks like two sides of the same empire. The left tries to look nice, the right tries to look strong. But both are still pushing the same military budgets, the same trade agendas, the same control mechanisms. If anything, the only real difference is that some people on the left occasionally show concern for marginalized groups, the small one, not the big ones as I said. That’s it. Meanwhile, conservatives only talk about injustice when it makes “the left” look hypocritical. That’s not principle. That’s a tactic.

      So no, I’m not “anti-American.” I’m just not buying the hero complex. When a country starts the fire, sells the extinguisher, and walks away with the safe, pointing that out is not hatred, it’s awareness.

      If what you actually want is to stop wasting money and stop intervening everywhere, great, we agree. Just don’t pretend the US did it all out of kindness. We’ve seen what kindness backed by drones and coups really looks like for decades now.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @raphjd You know, I’ve been thinking, the way you argue reminds me a lot of someone who’s been let down too many times by the same kind of people. And I get the impression that, deep down, you really do want the world to be fair, ordered, and honest. That you’re tired of hypocrisy, tired of manipulation, tired of people using identity as a shield for bad behavior. That’s actually pretty reasonable.

      But here’s the thing, I think you’ve let a few very specific, bad stories convince you that the whole world is rigged against you, or that a huge group of people (like queer folks, trans people, Muslims, liberals, whoever) is fundamentally dishonest. And that’s just not true.

      The way you talk about trans people now is really similar to how religious conservatives used to talk about us, gay men, a couple decades ago. Remember how they'd say, "I don’t hate gays, just the ones who push it in people’s faces or corrupt the youth"? Or "Sure, love who you love, but I don’t want it in schools or bathrooms"? It always sounded like they were drawing lines, but when it came time to make laws, those lines disappeared, and we were all treated like predators.

      Now you’re doing the same thing to trans people. Saying you respect “real” trans folks, but then spending 99% of your energy attacking the very idea that they exist, or treating every legal loophole or outlier as a reason to suspect them all. That’s not protecting society, that’s painting targets.

      You say you're just raising questions, and okay, sure, questions are valid. But it’s hard to ignore that they only ever seem to point in one direction. You rarely raise questions about the gay rapists or serial killers out there. Why not? We’ve got our share of fucked-up people too. Every group does. But we don’t let those few define the whole. That’s the whole point of justice, individual accountability. Not punishment by category.

      And look, when you expand the conversation to other groups, immigrants, Muslims, liberals, it starts to feel like you're not just upset about one issue. It’s like you're trying to stack grievances until it justifies writing off half the world. That’s what a lot of people in the US are doing right now. Everything becomes part of a culture war, and there’s no room left for just fixing problems like adults.

      Because yeah, some of those UK laws you mentioned? They were messy. And in some cases, they were actually corrected. Some loopholes were closed. The prison system is changing its gender policies. Parents were right to raise questions about letting kids make medical decisions too early. That’s all part of how a healthy society works, people push, others push back, and the system adjusts. It’s slow and imperfect, but it's not a plot to destroy civilization.

      But when you frame everything as “liberals protecting rapists” or “trans people invading women’s spaces” or “Muslims ruining the UK,” then no correction will ever be good enough. Because you're not aiming for solutions, you're aiming for enemies.

      I think you’ve been radicalized a bit, honestly. Not in the dangerous way, but in the “always on edge, always ready to prove something, always suspicious” kind of way. And maybe, just maybe, some of that anger you have toward liberals or queer activists is really just disappointment at the way the world has handled you. That would make a lot of sense. You’re gay, you’ve lived in two countries, and you’ve probably had to deal with a lot of bullshit from all directions. I don’t blame you for being guarded.

      But I do think you’re shooting in the wrong direction.

      And if you’ve read this far, that’s already more than most people would do. So thanks for that.

      Say to me how much of this is right if you feel like it.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @raphjd You're kind of proving my point here - again.

      We started off talking about how generalizing the worst cases from a group leads to dangerous, unfair treatment of the whole group. And now you’re listing every exaggerated or exceptional case you can find, often out of context, to justify your mistrust of trans people or liberal systems.

      Let’s unpack this a bit.

      Yes, "heat of the moment" can sometimes be used as a legal defense in extreme cases, but it's not a free pass for violence, especially not murder. That’s why we have courts, judges, and due process. Comparing finding your partner cheating to discovering someone is trans without your prior knowledge is a false equivalence. One is betrayal within an existing relationship, the other is often a reflection of a cultural stigma where trans people are still afraid for their lives just for being honest.

      You brought up Boys Don’t Cry. Do you really want to use a brutal, real-world case of torture and murder to argue against the victim, a trans man? Even if you question his choices, you know that nothing in that story justifies the violence he suffered. That wasn’t about “sexual fraud”, that was about deep-seated hatred, and you're dangerously close to excusing it.

      You also keep bringing up legal flaws, yes, some of them are real. The idea that rapists declare themselves trans to abuse the system is concerning, and it should be investigated. But again: fix the law, don’t demonize trans people as a group. That’s the whole point. In a functioning society, left and right should come together to say “How do we protect people without trampling others?”, not “Let’s punish an entire minority because someone took advantage of a loophole.”

      Same goes for religious exemptions. I agree that no religion should be above criticism, and no one should be allowed to justify hate or abuse based on “faith.” But instead of that being a reason to target a specific religion or minority, it should be used as a reason to ensure equality under the law, no double standards, no matter who you are.

      You say people get more time for tweets than for rape. If that’s true, then the problem is with the sentencing system, not with trans people, or queer people, or Muslims, or liberals in general. Reform should be based on fairness, not fear or resentment.

      And let’s be honest: many of these stories you bring up sound cherry-picked, and the way you frame them makes it hard to tell what’s fact, what’s tabloid distortion, and what’s personal bias. The idea that "liberals" created a system where "scum" gets protected and law-abiding people are oppressed? That’s a convenient but simplistic narrative. In reality, every political side has flaws, but when your answer to every social challenge is “blame the left,” it stops being analysis and starts sounding like ideology.

      I’m not saying you don’t raise real issues. I’m saying you use those issues to build a wall of distrust, and then you pretend that anyone who disagrees must be naive, blind, or corrupt.

      We can talk about reform. We can talk about fixing flaws in the law. But if you keep using those flaws as weapons to paint entire groups, especially already vulnerable ones, as villains, then you’re not fighting injustice, you’re repeating the exact same logic people once used to justify criminalizing gay men like you and me.

      And I don’t think that’s who you really want to be.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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    • RE: Horrifying fact about transGENDER people

      @raphjd I’m gonna be honest: what you talk is going all over the place.

      First of all, I don’t know who Benji Butterworth is, nor do I live in the UK or follow British media personalities. I don’t know those cases or names you’ve mentioned, and honestly, it doesn’t help your argument, it just sounds like you’re trying to stack isolated stories to support a broader narrative against trans people and "liberals."

      But let’s bring this back: we were talking about trans people, right?
      About how some bad individuals might exploit a system, and how that doesn’t justify treating the entire group with suspicion or hostility. That’s where we started.

      Now you're stretching it to include immigrants, Muslims, free speech laws, child protection laws, and basically blaming everything on "liberals." That's a pattern I’ve seen a lot, and I don’t think it helps the conversation. When someone says, “Here’s a problem we could work together to fix,” the response should not be, “Yeah, and it’s all because your side is evil.”

      Let’s talk about law loopholes.
      If there are real gaps, like someone abusing gender identity laws to manipulate the prison system, those should be addressed. That's what democratic societies do. We adjust, improve, and create safeguards.

      And actually, in Scotland and other places, reforms have already been made. In 2023, the UK government blocked the Scottish Gender Reform Bill over concerns about safeguards. It’s being debated, legally challenged, reviewed, exactly how a functioning system is supposed to deal with complex policies.

      That’s how a healthy society works:
      Left and right debate the best path forward, but ideally, they still agree on the goal: public safety, justice, fairness, and protecting minorities without compromising the rights of the majority.

      But when we throw out that shared goal, and just treat the other side like they’re evil by default, nothing moves forward. Just more hate, fear, and division.

      You also seem to be jumping between totally different types of issues, crime, religion, social media laws, sentencing policies, as if they’re all somehow proof that trans people, or “liberals,” are the root of all problems. That’s a logical fallacy called a hasty generalization. It’s not an argument, it’s just pattern-seeking dressed up as truth.

      The fact is that people abuse laws in every society, that’s not exclusive to liberals, conservatives, immigrants, or any one group and that the right response is legal reform, not scapegoating.

      Blaming all trans people for what a handful of manipulative criminals might do is like blaming all gay men for child abuse scandals, and as two gay men, we both know how often that false connection has been used to hurt our community. You and I would both call that out if a religious conservative tried to justify anti-gay laws based on those narratives.

      So why recycle that same logic against trans people?

      And if we really want to talk seriously about sentencing, social fairness, or immigration policy, let’s talk. But trying to link those big complex issues to justify hatred or distrust toward trans people? That’s not debate. That’s using fear to excuse prejudice.

      You clearly have strong opinions and strong morals, and I’m not trying to dismiss everything you feel and I believe we would see how much we have in common if we actually talked to each other, not to a caricature of what we thing the other thinks. But if you're willing to stop painting every liberal, trans person, or immigrant as part of some grand conspiracy, maybe we could actually find real common ground, like fixing legal loopholes without persecuting entire communities.

      Because honestly? That’s what most people actually want.

      posted in Sex & Relationships
      PedrocaWest
      PedrocaWest
    • RE: "Trump brokered peace between Rwanda and Congo", says The Economist

      @raphjd
      Man, honestly? It’s exhausting talking to you.

      You’re not really responding to me, you’re arguing with some imaginary liberal that lives rent-free in your head. You’ve got a whole caricature set up of what I supposedly believe, and none of it came from what I actually said.

      For starters, I’m not American, so saying the US “helps” me or my country just doesn’t land.
      Because let me be blunt: the only big things the US has done for my country were two coups. That’s not help, that’s interference with long-lasting consequences. So no, the US hasn’t “given” me anything but instability.

      Now, that doesn’t mean everything the US does is bad. The people? The culture? The innovations? Incredible.
      But your foreign policy? A nightmare.

      That’s where I think we might agree a little. You’re frustrated with the US funding things that don’t benefit Americans. I get it. Nobody likes their money being misused. But maybe now you can understand how frustrating it is for the rest of us when that “foreign aid” is used as a cover for espionage, political influence, or economic control. You mentioned aid money, but many of us know that behind a lot of it, there’s a contract, a spy, or a military interest. That’s not generosity, that’s strategy.

      Programs like USAID and even some NGOs have been openly linked to regime change efforts. If you don’t believe that, look into documents on Iran, Chile, Haiti, Brazil or, honestly, any country in the world.
      So if Americans are tired of “paying the bill,” the world would honestly love for you to stop meddling too. No sarcasm, we’d all benefit.

      As for your list of grievances:
      Yes, the Democratic Party has a long and shady history. I’m not here to defend them. Most people outside the US see both major parties as part of the same machine. We’re not cheering for Democrats, we’re just saying Trump was a particularly reckless, erratic figure who made a bad situation worse for the rest of us and the rest of US.

      If there's any difference is that at least some Democrats (the followers or low-level politicians, the major ones are shit) admit their party’s role in past oppression and work to shift things.
      Republicans (and conservatives in general), on the other hand, often only bring up injustice when it’s useful to bash the left. That selective concern is the real problem. You are doing this here and in the other topic, pointing prejudices as relevant only when it's useful to show the hipocrisy of that imaginary liberal or on the discourse of actual political figures that the rest of the world hates too.

      And no, criticizing US foreign policy or its presidents isn’t “hating America.”
      It’s called being honest about power.
      Again: when a country starts the fire, sells the extinguisher, and walks away with the safe, it’s fair to point that out, this is the most basic way to describe US foreign policy, and it's not a exxageration.

      So if your point is “let’s stop wasting money and mind our own business,” I agree, it would be a pleasure. But don’t rewrite history to pretend that US dominance in international politics is just some kind-hearted accident. The world knows better, because we live with the aftermath daily.

      posted in Politics & Debate
      PedrocaWest
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    • RE: THIS or THAT: the game

      @DVT Sucking cock.

      Small and fat cock or big and thin cock?

      posted in Forum Games
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    • RE: Are yall gay men who support trump

      @blablarg18 I need to say, I like it more when we actually talk instead of we fight based in pre made ideas of each other.

      I believe sexual fraud is already a crime in most places, right?

      Like you said, proportionality matters.

      If a guy goes to Thailand and finds out a lady is a ladyboy, most of the time he’ll just say, “Oh, I thought you were cis, sorry, I’m not into this,” and leave. That’s sexual preference. Plenty of gay and straight men respect trans people but just aren’t into certain bodies, and that’s totally fine. No one should be forced into anything.

      Now, if someone is actually raped, and I mean real rape, not “I changed my mind after”, self-defense is justified, even if it ends in death.

      But in cases of sexual fraud, that’s something courts can deal with. The person who lied could end up with a criminal record and be forced to pay damages, and the victim gets justice without committing a violent crime.

      In cases of deceit or fraud, we’re talking about something very different. It might be hurtful, unethical, even criminal depending on the situation, but it’s not a direct physical threat that justifies a violent response. That’s why we have the legal system. You sue. You file charges. You don’t stab someone.

      (and we have some laws about HIV status, people are allowed to hide it, but they are not allowed to pass the IST).

      And you're right, it can be tricky. There are gray areas. People lie on dating apps all the time, about age, status, income, even intentions. And yeah, some of that crosses ethical lines, especially if it affects consent. But we don’t condone violence in response to those either. We deal with it through law, not fists. That "something panic" logic has been used to justify beatings and worse. So we need to be really careful not to start recycling it with a new target.

      About sex and gender, I get your preferences, and you’re totally entitled to them, I have mine too and I think most of gay have their own even with cis dude, some are into hunks, or into twinks, or into daddies, os tops only, or bottom-only, or have a kink for something ythat is not a general kink.

      Also, we need to remember that some cis men with testicles and dicks don’t have a Y chromossome, nature is weird and nobody asks a chromossome testing to anyone except in very specific cases.

      And I think you are the first person with a previous transphobic pov who already knew the difference between gender and sex, most of them claim both are the same, that's exausting to keep correcting, thank you for not making me repeat it.

      We all agree: no one should ever be pressured to have sex with someone they’re not into. Period.

      But that’s not what most of these "trans panic" defenses are about. They’re not about preference, they’re about using someone’s identity as an excuse for dehumanization and crime, and that’s where it turns ugly.

      No one's saying lies can't be harmful. But not all harm justifies violence. And not all lies are big lies or harmful (switches that are bottoms are proof of this). The right place to deal actual with deceit, sexual or otherwise, is the justice system. Otherwise we’re justifying chaos.

      posted in Politics & Debate
      PedrocaWest
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    • RE: Horrifying fact about transGENDER people

      @raphjd You’re actually pretty sure I’m American, right?
      Because most of these names you keep throwing at me, I honestly wouldn’t know if you made them up because this is so american-centered that you don't even know, and to me this is not a great strategy because anyone can pick bad cases of any group to say the group is bad, they do it with gays and with MAGA all the time, but what really show if the accusation is right is the real ideology and actions of the group/movement as a whole. (and that's not right at all when you see the trans or gay movements).

      You just have this pre-built idea of who I am, what I think, and what side I’m on and is fighting with this pre-built idea, not with me and what I am actually saying. I’m not American, I don't live in US. I’m just someone observing things globally, and trying to be honest about the patterns I see, specially when I see the pattern of attacking rights of LGBTs.

      And I want to say this: Everything you’ve said about trans people? That exact same logic, almost literally word for word, has been used against us for decades by religious conservatives.

      They’ve always said “I don’t hate all gays, just the ones who are too flamboyant, or the ones who push an agenda, or the ones who confuse kids, or the ones who blablabla.”
      They would pick out some gay men who did something wrong, amplify the hell out of it, and say: “See? This is why we can’t trust any of them.”
      They’d say things like “Real gay people just live quietly, it’s the queer ones we have a problem with.”

      Sound familiar?

      Now you’re doing the exact same thing with trans people. Splitting them into “real” and “queer attention-seekers.” Highlighting some edge-case behavior or bad actor and acting like that somehow makes the whole group suspicious. That’s not fairness. That’s recycled bigotry, just pointed in a new direction.

      And look, people manipulating systems or doing shitty things exists in every group. Straight people, gay people, cis people, trans people, we’ve all seen examples. But if we let those few define the whole, we end up justifying exclusion, dehumanization, and discrimination for everyone.

      That’s not justice. That’s fear politics.

      If someone abuses a legal loophole, we fix the loophole. We don’t turn that into a reason to treat an entire marginalized community as suspect or dangerous. We both know how that story ends, we’ve lived it in our own skin or as a group.

      You say you respect “real” trans people. But in everything you write, you’re building a picture of them that’s conditional and demeaning. And the people writing anti-trans laws? They don’t care about your categories. They don’t make exceptions for the “good ones.” They just ban healthcare, restrict rights, ban LGBT suicide helplines, and unleash violence on the entire group. And your rhetoric helps them do it, even if that’s not what you meant.

      We, as gay men, should know better. We should be standing up against this logic, not repeating it.

      posted in Sex & Relationships
      PedrocaWest
      PedrocaWest
    • RE: "Trump brokered peace between Rwanda and Congo", says The Economist

      @raphjd Hey, I get where you're coming from. And just to be clear, it’s not that I “hate” the US (but it's true I hate your poolitics). I’m not even American. I'm a foreigner looking at global politics from the outside, and I’m just not wearing rose-colored glasses.

      I don’t think people “hate” the US because it’s rich or powerful or gives aid. It’s because so often that “aid” comes with strings attached, or follows a pattern of creating chaos and then stepping in to "save" the day in a way that mostly benefits US interests.

      You mentioned things like NATO, the UN, WHO, and the US paying more than others. Sure, that’s partly true. But let’s be honest: none of that is charity. The US does it because it gives them leverage, global dominance, and influence over the outcomes. It’s a strategic investment, not a favor to the rest of the world.

      Take the Congo, for example. The US gets access to a huge chunk of its mineral wealth after decades of conflict that involved armed groups backed, directly or indirectly, by US and it's allies. That’s not a coincidence. That’s exploiting instability for profit. It’s not unique to Trump, either. US foreign policy has followed this playbook for over a century, across Republican and Democrat administrations.

      As for Trump “cutting waste” by defunding LGBT-related programs overseas, let’s be real. These aren’t all “superhero tranny comics.” the majority of it was often community-based projects that support visibility, safety, and inclusion in places where queer people face violence daily. Laughing about that while pretending all he cuted, even the suicide helpline, it’s about “saving money” just exposes the cruelty, not fiscal responsibility.

      You brought up COVID too. Operation Warp Speed had real funding, but so did international research efforts. And no one “hated” the vaccine because it was Trump’s, people were (rightfully) cautious because Trump constantly downplayed the virus, pushed bleach, and made everything political. That eroded trust. That’s not victimhood, that’s consequence.

      At the end of the day, I’m not saying the U.S. is uniquely evil (while most of your politic history are). But when a country starts the fire, sells the extinguisher, and walks away with the safe, it’s fair to point that out. That’s not hate, that’s observation.

      And trust me, a lot of people around the world are just tired of pretending that power always equals virtue. If you care about your country, it’s okay to hold it accountable, not just cheer for it like it’s a sports team.

      posted in Politics & Debate
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