Posts made by notquiteme

I agree.  If you  get to the bed and are not comfortable with it, don't go through with it.  You can always say no.  At least, if the guy's not an ass.

I take the visitation rights pretty seriously.  I want my boyfriend/husbear to be able to visit me if we happen to come across some emergency in the USA.  They insist that "immediate family" only.  Sheesh that news really irritated me when i heard about it (the lesbian woman denied access to her partner in a hospital and the partner died).

usually about 3x a week.  Used to be daily but don't feel the need for it anymore.

I have married neighbors who i've had a crush on for a long time… and i wish i could hehehe

first times are scary.  sigh.

It's sad how sometimes someone has to get hurt first (other times several someones) before people get off their asses.  I think officials/administrators have to take responsibility for the entire campus.

In the Philippines, which is a predominantly Catholic country, they have the bad habit of mixing religion and sexuality.  It goes without saying that we're not exactly well tolerated here.

I'm still hopeful, but everytime my parents disparage someone who's gay, they have no idea that I'm getting hurt.  I know they don't mean to, but that's the way it is.  If they were more openminded, then I wouldn't have this problem, would I?

Here i'm just treading water until i'm able to move out.

i wonder if size was a main consideration in choosing who are qualified to be robin/nightwing.

my first time was with a guy i thought would be my boyfriend.  I was in love with him, and he wanted to be my first, so we did.   but it ended up he was hung up over another guy who lived off a friend of his.  So he thought since i was jobless at the time, that I wouldn't be a good boyfriend.

anyway, it was a good one, and i don't regret it.

Not to revive an OOOOLD thread, but here's my take:

I've known I was gay, and interested in BIG guys since about… 12years old.  It was then that the wrestling and World's Strongest Man started to have a different kind of appeal to me.  Subsequently, I discovered sumo wrestling on an obscure channel on cable.

I couldn't really come out, and it was very interesting in an all boy's school, where half of the guys in my immediate vicinity were chubby/big guys.  It was a bit hard to concentrate when i had a crush on a few of them, but i guess i muddled through alright.  It was a mess for me because my mom worked at school with a pretty high position so i couldn't even leave the campus without some security guard radioing to the administration asking if i should be let out.

Sooooo while i didn't do any porn until after college (we had only one computer at home and heaven forbid anyone see me watching gay porn), i knew there must be some world out there.  I guess at the time you could consider me in the closet - with a combination lock.  Not easy in a family where three of us shared the same bedroom and the same computer.

When one of my best friends came out, I told my parents and brothers about it, and they all started cracking jokes about it.  That was the first hint that they were at least homophobic.  Then i started noticing that they always refer to the director of my dad's alma mater who was gay, in a disparaging tone.  You know the kind of tone THEY use.

It was that way until i got my own laptop a few years after college.  I turned on my computer at home and was able to hack into the internet of a neighbor.  That was my first foray into the gay world, when i created an account on biggercity.

One time, I was chatting with an old friend, and he started singing in a falsetto voice, and my dad heard it because i was unable to shut of my sound quickly enough.  Over lunch that day, he said in an angry voice "You want to be like him?!? You hang around with him and you will be like him!"

Had a few dates, (actually i was in further studies at the time) and my friends would wonder why I was disappearing at certain nights.  Hehehe

I finally came out to my best friend two years ago.  It was funny because we were both jobhunting and I had a date that afternoon.  So i was making excuses and she wasn't having any of it.  Finally i told her that i was gay, and i had a date with a chef.  So she goes "Is this some kind of joke?  It's not funny!  If you're joking i'll kill you!"  It took her twenty minutes to finally absorb what I just said, and then she says... "That's why I had difficulty in finding a girl who you'd be great with!"  I got the same reaction from a few of my college friends, who just accepted it.

My officemates were another matter.  They kept referring me to girls, and I had to keep saying no.  eventually when they cornered me (we were under training at the time) i told them that i had a perfectly good reason for not wanting to be set up, so I told them.  After that, they were happy because I was less quiet during mealtimes and more friendly.  Furthermore, the girls decided that I was a safe guy, who they can talk to about anything.

I can't come out to my family until i can move out.  so i want to buy/rent a flat somewhere that I can crash in case my whole life crumbles.  I'm scared that my dad will go ballistic, and then my dad and mom will fight, and my brothers will be upset that I "caused" my parents to fight.  They're not ready to accept that there are reasons why this sort of thing happens, and that sometimes, it's not a matter of choice.

I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm a voyeur, but i did see quite a few guys back when I was still going to the gym.  However, since I used to go there with my boyfriend, I have to say that our… experiences would have been somehow regulated.

There was once this guy who came into the locker area (I was starting to get dressed), set down his bag, on the bench near me, and he stripped butt naked.  I wasn't precisely looking, but he entered the shower (still naked) and drenches himself there.  He came back out and started toweling off, and clearly asking me to look at his cock.  Anyway, it was about six inches soft, reddish tip and also cut, and slightly above average balls.  My bf and I figured that he was gay and was coming to the gym to look for... encounters.  It happened to my bf, as well, but by another guy.

After that, my bf told me (i was a newbie) that in gyms, guys who were looking for something else would do that, or clearly show his cock while pissing so that if you're interested, you need to make a move. It's also why some gyms hereabouts have developed that hookup reputation.

I've always noticed that some guys just beg to be noticed when they use the urinals.  They stand several inches away as if afraid of the piss that might splash on them, which exposes themselves.  Also, there are certain people who don't hold it when peeing so they just let it dangle for any curious passersby hehehe

Corelli's Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres.  Fantastic book!

My personal favorites, although they did deviate from the books, are:

A Good Year (starring Russell Crowe {one of my bigtime crushes}) and the book A Good Year by Peter Mayle - The movie and the book managed to convey the stark difference between the square mile and provence, and the stories widely diverged, but the end results were pretty great!

I Am Legend.  The book and movie weren't that similar, but the overall impact made it so that fans of the book would like the movie because it didn't repeat EVERYTHING that they've read, and still the stories were awesome!  On the other hand, the term "I am Legend" didn't really come out well in the movie, because the book had more of a moralistic twinge at the end.

The ones i didnt like would be:
Dreamcatcher
Contact (but then, the movie would be ten hours long if they tried to keep it in good faith)
Nightwatch

Hey folks,

Are there any poetry lovers/ poets here?

Hope to connect and share!

Hey Folks,

Just wondering if the chub/chasers onsite will be lumped together with the Leather/Bear group or should we have a board of our own?

Have a nice day everyone!