I met a guy on grindr, we met at my place. The first time was sex with a little bit of get to knowing each other. The second time we met for sex, but by his initiative, we ended up talking about his breakup with his boyfriend, meanwhile I asked him to at least jerk me off and give me a bj in between - he agreed.
I decided to listen to his troubles rather than focusing on the sex. I don't know this guy personally, and tbh, I don't care for him (why would I) as I don't know him. I just want the sex, you know?
Now, a few months later, we talk and he still hasn't gotten over his breakup understandably. He wants to meet again and talk about his feelings. I told him we can meet again, hopefully expecting a bit of fun. All that being said, I am not forcing myself to talk to him, he's a nice guy overall.
It seems to me that he meets with me because of his mental state rather then wanting to hook up with someone. I haven't decided what I want to do in this situation. I can continue to meet with him and just talk, I can tell him that I want sexual activity while we talk (he will agree to that) or I can tell him that what he is doing isn't healthy for him
In some manner, it feels as if I am taking advantage of him, even though he initiates all the meetings