Posts made by juancho

nature or nurture?

it's the oldest and one of the hardest questions to answer since the beginning of time.

it's up next to "whose perfume is that on your shirt?"

hehehe…

don't worry too much about it.

just be.

@raphjd:

Every time you think about the guy, thump yourself in the nuts.

Aversion therapy for the win.  :cheesy2:

LOL

love this answer!!!

this is my response to the original post.

because it's part of human nature.

it gives you great comfort to belong to something and in order for you to belong to that something you have to be like the people in that group.

belonging to a group gives you a sense of security.

gives you an avenue to be with people you think you have lots of things in common with and a place where you can be yourself and not fear because they are also like you.

the reason why those things you describe are common is because they are easily recognizable and they do a lot to be recognized, they are overly-hyped and perpetuated by the media.

being gay is being different. true…

but at the end of the day, when you lie alone in your cold bed, you realize that you're just human.

there's no straight, gay or bi.

just human. just like everybody else.

and that's what makes it sad. (for me at least...) hehehe

thanks cumeaternc and raphjd…

it doesn't eject when the eject button is pressed or (righ clicked, then) ejected from the computer...

i gave up on this. i'm stressed out over something i don't understand, so, i'll be bringing this to the technician and hope he knows what the problem is.

anyway, thanks a lot to all those who answered my questions here.

@twinkletoes:

There are several crucial bits of information you haven't provided:

1. Is your computer a desktop or laptop?

this is a desktop computer.

@twinkletoes:

2. What is your operating system (e.g. Windows 7, Windows XP, Mac OSX, Linux)

i'm using windows xp with sp 3

@twinkletoes:

3. What type of drive is it: IDE or SATA (or even an external USB)?

the new dvd drive is SATA.

@twinkletoes:

4. When you replaced the drive, did you also try replacing the cable (IDE, SATA, USB)?

i did not replace the cable. i just used the old one. the new dvd drive didn't come with new cables.

@twinkletoes:

In any case, you can find a lot of useful tips here:
    hXXp://helpdeskgeek.com/how-to/cd-dvd-drive-wont-open-eject/

thanks twinkletoes. i'll try to check it out.

@raphjd:

Do you have a spare power cable in your computer to see if the drive is getting power or enough power?

by spare power cable, do you mean the big black one that connects the computer to the socket or are you referring to the colorful little ones inside the computer? in any case, i don't have a spare but i could buy them if necessary.

@raphjd:

Is your new dvd player the same brand as your old one?  If your drivers are messed up, it might affect your new dvd player.

my old and new dvd drives are different. the first one is highscribe and the new one is samsung.

thanks a lot raphjd for replying.

okay, first off, i'm not well-versed in computer technicalities (i'm in the medical field) which means that to some my problem may sound a bit simple and/or stupid.

anyway, here goes nothing.

my problem is that my dvd drive doesn't open/eject anymore. i can still open it by using a thin, sharp object and inserting it into that little hole in the dvd drive (while being turned off). the dvd drive can still read, write, etc. it just won't open anymore when the "eject" button is pressed.

so, i thought the problem was the dvd drive. today, i bought a new dvd writer (samsung) and inserted it in place of the old one. i am still experiencing the same problem.

before i go bring this to the technician (read: spend more money that i don't have), maybe someone here who is good with computers can help me.

maybe there's just something i haven't done or might have overdone when operating on the insides of my computer.

so, what do you think computer gods?

seriously, i need advice for this. thanks in advance.

@raphjd:

I wonder if "carrying my luggage" is a euphemism like "tossed salad".

i bet they both carried each others' luggage several times in europe!

end sarcasm.

hehehe…

see why religion and reason don't go together?

i think the straight pedophiles in the vatican are feeling a little bit insecure with the gay pedophiles in the vatican for hugging the limelight!

no one was shocked when he came out.

people (kind of) already know this during the barbara walters interview a couple of years back.

when asked, "are you gay?", he replied something about someone's sexual preferrence someone's personal something and that it should not be discussed in public. (or something to that effect)… saw it in youtube. he didn't say "yes" and he didn't say "no".

that second pic is hot btw. i don't know if he's scratching his balls (performance = sweat = occasional itchiness down there... hehehe) or he's rearranging his hanging dick but this gets me hot!

i'd totally do him...

AS IF!

LOL

where's the naked body? the chest? the tummy?

demanding mode    ;D >:D :cheesy2:

nice pics brandon!!!

cebu city, philippines

it's funny how these self-proclaimed "christians" openly announce that they follow the teachings of christ and yet use these said teachings to justify their hate on others who are different than them.

isn't "unconditional love" one of the basic teachings of christ?

if all these self-proclaimed saints are right, then this just proves that the sign of a true christian is hypocrisy!

lol

nice one!

:cheesy2:

i love torchwood.

i have seen seasons 1 and 2 but i haven't seen the last (3rd) season yet.

i love ianto and jack.

oh yeah, give it to me!

do you like that? yeah?

besides that, i don't think there's a worthwhile dialogue in porn… or maybe i haven't seen THAT flick yet.

hehehe

when the bottom comes (handsfree or not) when i'm fucking him is one of the things that get me hotter and come faster!

it's a turn off for me to see my bottom's limp dick while i'm fucking him which is probably the reason why i turn them over to their stomach…

raindrops on roses, whiskers on kittens, brown paper packages tied up with strings…

wait, isn't this the julie andrews thread?

seriously though, these are some of the things that get me hot:

butchness/manliness (but not forced; sort of like watching the beauty, grace and fluidity of a dance but not the efforts behind it)
cleanliness (in sight and smell)
i don't care how old the person is as long as he's not underaged (and doesn't look like one) and he doesn't look really old
muscles and bears and chubs (but not morbidly obese)
good kisser/cuddler (love these things... i could go all night with just these)
brains, confidence, good conversationalist turn me on
soft groans of my bottom gets me even hotter

more when i feel like it... hehehe

@nagysanci:

My bf and I tried making friends with gays, but the problem was that the mere possibility of sex was always there in the air.

while it is true that there is always a possibility for sex among friends (even in hetero friends), friends can always work to keep the tension this situation brings from hurting the friendship. that's one of the challenges friends must work hard together to overcome. then and only then can you become more comfortable with each other and the friendship that you share.

@nagysanci:

We agreed that sexual relationship kills friendship - unless your sex partner is your beloved one.

this is not entirely true. of course, i'm only basing my opinion on this issue using my experiences and that of my friends but this issue would depend entirely on you and your friends. this would depend on how you view sex and sex with your friends.

once you get over that initial awkwardness after that first sexual encounter, you'll realize that there's no sense throwing away a good friendship just because you helped each other get off. isn't that what friends are for? help each other?  >:D after a good conversation with my friends, we realized that we have bonded even more. we have grown even closer and we would like to help each other more (in more ways than one).  >:D

the problem, i think, lies on the fact that religion demonized sex and attached a great sense of guilt with it. this has been used over the centuries to control people and this has been inculcated in us. just like any obstacles in life, we can overcome this and who better to help you on your journey to freedom than the friends who love you?

BUT, if this isn't your idea of friends and friendship, then don't force it. this WILL destroy your friendship.

@nagysanci:

If there is no sex among gay "friends" then you always fantasize about his size, how he would kiss, etc.

true but you're a rational being. there's a healthy dose of fantasizing and then there's you being controlled by your urges (instead of the other way around). it's just basically you, really.

@nagysanci:

Women are OK. I, for example, have a female colleague, and she says she likes being together with me because she "does not have to play the role of the woman." Many times she talks to me about things which she would not dare to discuss with her female friends (e.g. her sexual fantasies), or we just walk in the park during lunch break and watch men together and talk about them, discuss whether we wouldlike to have sex with him, etc.

it's because you have (more or less) similar taste in gender. who the better to understand your need to hang a half-naked poster of channing tatum on your bedroom wall and apply foundation? hehehe…

i'm only half-joking with these last statements.  :cheesy2:

i'm not really familiar with china and chinese laws. i'm familiar with some chinese customs and traditions but only from chinese people living in my country (which means they're no longer 100% chinese).

are gays persecuted in the place you're living in now? what kind of persecution? this is important because, even though being honest to your parents seems like the best option, this will mean crap for you. i know that there aren't that much muslims in china but do people there practice (what seems like the muslim) honor killing? can you be jailed for being gay?

if it's dangerous to be gay in your area, i guess the best thing for you to do is transfer to a more gay-friendly country with your boyfriend.

having said that, if you really love your parents, the best thing to do is to be honest to them.

i'm sorry if i can't offer you more options for now. i believe it would terribly be irresponsible for me to try and give you suggestions (some of which you might take) and not have at least a good idea about your country's treatment of gay people (which could lead to your demise).

hope this helps.