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So I should feel better? lol

When you showed your pic, did they ignore you or I wonder this is just me? I think this happens to avarage or below avarage guys. I've never have an "instagram guy/gay" charm, I think. This happens on Facebook sometimes. Some gays add my account, and nothing! I think they couldn't find, what they want!!!

@sakyo:

Certainly not just in your country, it's a universal thing. It's difficult to form relationship for gay guys especially if you in the closet, as you can't take friendship further like heterosexuals do,  where you get to know others as friends, and you observe them in their day to day activities and find out more about their personality and what they are like as a person. Online connections seem to be one of the most convenient and popular way for gay guys to connect but unfortunately the only deciding factor here is their appearance, if you don't fit a certain profile you will be automatically ignored. Women tend to go through stages where they want to settle down, and start to focusing on characters like ability to provide for family, stability etc, and settle with someone that offers more than just a pretty shell, with gay guys generally that is not an issue that's as important, so they probably would still rank appearance ahead of other qualities.

Very good explanation.

Can't oldies change themselves?  ;D Joke aside I don't agree with heterosexuals and homosexuals are same on this matter. I have more women lover than man and I feel like I attract women more. I don't know why Most gays look for the same. Muscular for muscular. Handsome for handsome. To me this is a stupid narcissistic behaviour.

Also, remember shit books generally have a better covers but I agree to some degree. My look was shit in my 20s and now I believe I look better myself, more selfconfidience. But gays are never change.

Well, I'm from Turkey, Izmir. I don't know how does it work in US and other countries but as I know, in my country lots of gays are snob and big head. If you are avarage guy (like me!) and you are not handsome or muscular it's nearly impossible to get a reply someone who is above the avarage. Secondly, most talks go nowhere. You should make sex immediately or the talk will end up soon. I don't know. I was never kind of a person who dates only one night. Yes, I did but i liked my partner but they never called again. What is this? Is this a normal procedure in gay life? Yes, I'm not young, I'm 37 years old but still can't understand what is going on. After all these, I loose my energy to meet or date a new one. Where do I do wrong?

So can I get your honest comments? Thanks.

7 minute workout couple of a week

@rayday88:

It truly requires commitment from you and your partner to make it as painless as possible.

I started out as a total bottom, and the first time, it was with a guy who knew what he was doing. He got plenty of lube in me and on his cock and watched my reactions carefully.  He eased it in gradually, and left it in when my sphincter was being stretched.  It hurt at first, but I became accustomed to it rather quickly, as we stayed stationary until the initial wave of pain had passed.  There was very little pain after that, as he gradually made his thrusts deeper so that I could acclimate to the feeling, and it felt so good.  He made sure to be expressive because of my love for making other people happy, and I was so focused on how good the two of us were feeling that I came pretty quickly, setting him off.

My next encounter was the next night, with another guy, who didn't care about my pleasure.  While his dick was shorter, it was fatter, and he didn't even lube up or give me any sort of warning.  He just shoved it in and went to town.  It was painful for far longer than it needed to be, and it only really started to feel good when he started to ooze copious amounts of precum in my ass. He kept pounding me for maybe twenty more seconds and then flipped me over and his cum gushed all over me.  I realized that I have a huge fetish for cum and stayed the night.  We did it again in the morning before I left for work, but I couldn't even enjoy it because my ass was so sore.

Eventually my body learned how to adapt to bottoming.  I wish I knew what words to tell you, other than it takes time, and effort.  Also, making the motion for pushing out while he's pushing in actually helps with getting it in deeper, since it widens the pathway.  But my most important point is that it takes two to make it a pleasurable experience.  Do it with someone who wants you to feel the least amount of pain and the most amount of pleasure.  If you're choosing to do it with someone you love, then your goals should not be to get off, but to make the experience enjoyable for the other partner.

Btw, it turns out I'm versatile.  And I'm really up for doing whatever I know will please my partner.  Lately I've been topping so much that I'm starting to miss the awesome feeling of being a bottom.

Nice! I think you're a lucky person for being a versatile.

i couldnt stand the smell

Do you use anything such as creams, oils etc. for your penis care? If so, what do you suggest to keep it in good condition?  

Two scientifically proven suggestions:

1. Squat while pooping (this is for everyone!!!).

"This is because the closure mechanism of the gut is not designed to “open the hatch completely” when we’re sitting down or standing up: it’s like a kinked hose. Squatting is far more natural and puts less pressure on our bottoms. She says: “1.2 billion people around the world who squat have almost no incidence of diverticulosis and fewer problems with piles. We in the west, on the other hand, squeeze our gut tissue until it comes out of our bottoms."
http:///www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/may/18/truth-about-poo-doing-it-wrong-giulia-enders-squatting

2. Use an olive oil and honey mixture for management of hemorrhoids or anal fissures.
   http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17369999

It's not so hard if you do 7 min exercises everyday. It tones your muscles and burns fat so fast b/c accelarates your metabolism. If u never heard of it, google is your friend.

Kegels  ;D

There are lots of stuff on the net on the subject for a long time. I wanna them it but they are really safe? Except the related forums, health sites such as Mayo say "be cautious". But I'm not certain on the subject yet because the people on the forums claim that it really works and it has no any disadvantages. What is your experiences on this?

sorry for double post

It's nice to hear that everyone doesn't care big dicks. But on your typical date sites it's a different story, it seems like the people are there only care your dick size.

Depression is a like vortex. I even use medications but that doesn't change anything. I know, I have to change my life but I feel I don't have any strength to do it. I need a job before everything but this depression or anxiety prevents me getting into the social life. If I can't change this circle, I may never find a love partner but I'm hungry for love.

Thanks for the reply and comments. Much appreciated.

About that part. He said: "It was like two guys like to talk to each other. Did u say love me? Did u say u are serious about me? Did u say wanna meet and make a plan? No." I think he wanted me to be more open my feelings towards him. But I don't know what would have changed?

Well, I met an Iranian guy who lives in Turkey as a refugee. We are talking via Skype and whatsapp about two months. We never saw each other in real life and we live in different cities. We both don't work and he is planning to move to US after one year. I knew this relationship won't work in the first place but I wanted to give it a chance.

Yesterday we made a hard discussion via Skype. To him my life style is different, I'm more of a negative person. I know I'm on a depressive mood for a time (as I said on another topic) but I wanted completely open to him and thought he would accept me what I am. He is more sociable person and I'm introvert, so he complained that I'm not an active person. Also he thinks not having a job will be problem to build a new life, but he doesn't know it's hard to find a job here to suitable to me.

I got very angry after that talk. He said he accept me as a friend and he was just being honest to me. But I felt he is trying to hurt me deliberately rather than being honest. When I asked if he never loves me, he just said he only likes me but he asked that did you say love me too? I'm really confused, because he never said that too. I don't get it that he wants me more open to him or he is just selfcentered asshole. He was saying he wants to meet me face to face to decide what to do, but I don't want this anymore, because after that stiutation, I'll be more nervous than ever, if he still wants to meet me and I'm not sure I like him or hate him anymore. So what do you suggest?

@raphjd:

@gaygaye:

Wedding is a lie of heterosexual society, so why should we insist on this authoritarian practice? We must break the wheel, must not be part of it. Also even unmarried gays don't have a single relationship, so why should I trust a gay partner just we signed a contract? If you all gays are delusional or you just insist on this just for the sake of heterosexuals doing this. Universal stupidity?

Ok, so you like open relationships.  Good for you.

I like monogamy and so does my husband.

If you (generic) date a whore, they won't stop being a whore just because you married them.  There is only one person to blame for your partner being a whore; YOU (generic).   No one forced you to date that person.

I'm not a whore. I don't even know how can I be a one?

That's a false assumption that every married gays will be faithful each other forever. Even sex become a duty after a time. I know people are still on those stupid sites and their husbands know that (also why do I call them "husband" is a prove that we are under the pressure of heterosexual norms).

All we are gays, so telling lies isn't necessary here.