I personally love anal… But, what you're feeling is completely normal! No need to feel like you're a bad gay or as if there's something wrong. Lots and lots of gays are not into anal sex at all, and I know plenty of people who are in very serious long-term relationships and who never have anal.

After all, anal sex is only one of many ways to have sex. It's quite annoying how gay commmunity often expects people to be either top, bottom or vers. When it just doens't apply to so many people.

My advice to you would be to simply be open about that you're not into anal sex from the start. Especially if you use dating apps or similar. It will probably save you lots of trouble, and it might even attract guys who feel exactly like you

Open. I don't think I could be with someone who'd be jealous if I had sex with another guy.
Of course, every open relationship is different, and I don't want one where both parts actively keep searching for others to play with. But if it happens every now and then… so what. It doesn't mean I live him any less, and I know it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. As long as it's just sex.

The first guy I ever slept with was 47. I was 17 at the time

But I think about two years later I got fucked by a guy who was 56, so that beats it both in terms of age and age difference.

From my experience, I would say that being fucked by a guy with a very thick dick can hurt if you're tight, but once you're properly warmed up and stretched so you can take it, there is no problem at all.

However, if the guy has a very long dick, it can be problematic. It can easily go in too deep and hit the wall of your colon in a way that could hurt. So then you have to make sure to find a position where it won't do that. But still, it can be very annoying.

So I definitely think that very long dicks are not really a positive thing, but more of a hassle. The thickness is far more important though, and it can feel really great to have a really thick one stretch your ass

I don't. I use a trimmer and just crop it very short instead. No risk of infected pores etc.

Very normal. I loooove having my nipples sucked and played with. They are very sensitive and it just feels great, almost like I could get an orgasm from that alone.

I know it's not something everyone feels though. Some guys simply have nipples that don't react at all to touch.

@TheNewt:

@smarmquetnz:

haha, that's a funny gif.

You should definitely get tested for HIV and other STDs and maybe go on those HIV exposure meds? You have to get on them within 72 hours. The condom will eventually exit your body.  If you are worried go to a hospital.

Yes, I will go do a regular STD checkup very soon anyway. I am not really worried though. The guy I had sex with is a friend of mine (and a 100% top), and even though I know that one shouldn't trust anyone when it comes to these things, I am not too worried about HIV in this case. But yes, better safe than sorry!

@pppucci:

I am a doctor.  I find it hard a condom could cause a blockage. When deflated and or curled up it is just too small.  It certainly has not migrated north to your colon and is still just out of reach in your rectum.  You are probably so nervous and upset about it that you cannot have a bowel movement.  Seeing a doctor would allay your fears, or you could let nature take its course, perhaps with the help of a laxative suppository.

Thanks! I actually called and spoke to a nurse after I posted this last night, and he said more or less the same thing. I.e. there is no danger that it's in there, and I shouldn't worry, it will come out eventually. And this morning I was able to have a proper bowel movement. But I couldn't see the condom anywhere in what came out (I know, gross…sorry), so I suspect it's still in there. I am not so worried about health issues now though. It is just annoying knowing I am walking around with a used condom inside of me And having sex feels a bit out of the question, as I guess that might push it further up. Or worse, suddenly come out all of a sudden That would be quite horrible, lol.

Anyway, thanks again for your reassuring words!

So, I had pretty hot and wild sex with a fuckbuddy of mine. During the heat of things he didn't notice that the condom fell off while he was fucking me. So when he pulled out, it was left up my ass. I figures it was no huge problem and that I'd just be able to pull it out. However, when going to the toilet and groping arouns a bit with my fingers I couldn't reach it or feel it. I guessed it woumd come out the natural way later that night. But now it's been over two days. And it's still not come out of there. What's worse is, neither has anything else. I've not been able to shit either. And when sticking my fingers up there again it's still all empty. No shit, no condom. But i've been eating normally and my stomach is hurting a bit. So now I'm getting worried that somehow the condom is stuck further up the colon and is blocking it.
Has anybody else been through something similar? Any clue what I should do?

@hw597:

I am living that gay lifestyle but I can't help but think. Would I be happier straight(ish)

If you're bi, then maybe you'll be just as happy. But you can do "the whole kids, marriage thing" regardless of whether you end up falling in love with a man or woman. Just because your significant other has a certain gender doesn't mean you have to chose a specific lifestyle.