Posts made by cumpigboy

@Masonmason:

I think we choose to act on our attractions I also believe I could be content in a platonic marriage with a woman but I'm glad of the times that I do not have to be. In short I don't think we choose to feel attractions to our own gender but I do believe that we choose to act on that attraction.  I do not however think its genetic or at least it can't entirely be genetic (see twins  one gay one not).

I probably agree with 98% of what Masonmason said.  I was going to post that we do not choose who we are attracted to, it just…is.  In regards to genetics, within nature, homosexual attraction and behavior is common in many species of higher order mammals such as dolphins and even varied other species.  Humans have become used to suppressing and constraining themselves to however the establishment dictates humans should view each other and contribute to society.  I'm sort of digressing a bit, but that's why we have all these questions because we're so used to holding our real selves and soul inspiration back to fit in with the norm of the system.

Also, if it were a choice, a lot of people have said they would have chosen to be straight because it's easier, which is true cause it's what society expects.

@Bisougarou:

I agree about the search term but the other important fact is Google! In "rich countries" gay newbies will surely use the general search words "gay porn" but not on Google! If you take a look around you now ten years old know about torrent and sites for torrent. Those youngs won't count in the study because they already use a specialized site.  :blownose:

I realize this is a tad late/old but just now returned.  How do you think they found those specialized sites in the first place no matter where they are?  Google…  Especially curious/closeted ones that don't have any open gay relationships to find out that way.  I've used other torrent sites, but I chose to use Google to find this site and another one with very similar terms to the "study" while at the same time NOT being closeted.  I'm not saying it's a perfect study or representation, but I still think it has potential merit and is not surprising in the least.

In a perfect world, definitely bareback, period.  That said, I've not had any STDs yet, and would like to keep it that way, so I have a no sex before monogamy thing going on.  I don't really get off on the idea of just fucking to be fucking, I like that attachment to the person to give it that much more fire, otherwise I can just wank off and be done with it.  Not to say sluts and their breeders are bad, I love sluts and wish I could just take load after load of fresh cum in my oral and anal orifices cause it is so sexy looking.  I love to imagine being the one taking all that man juice into me and letting it ooze and drip out and then the givers wipe it off with their dicks or fingers and feed the strays right back into me.  I could go on and on about this fantasy. lol

I'm not going to even touch that one.  I would just try to forget about the "mentor."  Mentor's shouldn't be fucking the people involved with th ones they're helping.  Not in my humble opinion anyway.  There are tons of other hot fish in the sea to play with rather than getting yourself into an even muddier situation.  Do you really care about this guy?  Stay away from the horizontal mambo with the hot mentor and figure things out with your boy friend first.  Then if it doesn't pan out, spread your fins and find another (hopefully more stable) fish.  Just my humble opinion.

I would still suspect if they changed the search term query to more "modern" terms the result could be about the same.  Plus, I'm sure there are young-uns or gay newbs in our countries that have to start off with something like "gay sex pics" or "gay porn," so it could even out that way.  A gay newb isn't going to know to search for "Christian Wilde BDSM .torrent" or "breeding compilation", they would most likely start out with "gay porn torrent" or something.  As liberated as some of our countries are homosexuality is still taboo in a lot of circles which creates closet cases that wouldn't know all the specific terms either (me being brought up in the church and religion as the preacher's kid, case in point).  If we're going to account for the reasons for generic or specific search terms then we should do it both ways. 

I think it makes sense that people in the more intolerant homophobic countries would be watching more gay porn behind closed doors, whereas in the more liberated countries people free to actually have relationships and sex.

I once had sex on a golf course at night.  It was fun, but I generally prefer indoor.

Rickydrexel, do you have any updates?

@cumpigboy:

@ben351500:

Sorry, but I have to disagree with what is being posted here. Time for a reality check. If one of my friends was in this situation, this is what I'd tell him:

Your friend sounds to me like a user: he wants his cake and to eat it too. It sounds to me like he wants a wife, but without the strings that come with marriage, but all the benefits. And for him to have YOU as his wife is safe and allows him to date/fuck around: he's not gonna have sex with you, so he doesn't need to worry about that side of things. AND he gets someone to help him raise his kid. Have you become the full-time babysitter yet? It's coming. And he gets to approve of whomever you date - do you get a similar privilege? Sounds controlling to me. And the fact that he thinks it's fun that you have the nude and sex pics only tells me that he likes to be the center of attention.

Look, he may not be doing this intentionally or maliciously, but on some level he knows he's got you in his pocket, so to speak. But YOU know, deep down; otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread. YOU know that this relationship isn't healthy. YOU know he's using your crush on him for his own advantage. YOU know these things.

Look, I don't mean to harsh on you; we've all gotten involved in unhealthy relationships. But honestly, a good relationship is one between partners. Does this sound like a partnership? From what you've written, it doesn't to me. Plus, if you really, truly, deeply, love him, can you handle him seeing/fucking/loving others, orientation aside? Jealously will come, my friend, and the green monster doesn't go away, it only grows. If this were a straight relationship, I would say this is borderline emotionally abusive. Actually, the genders and orientations involved are unimportant: this IS a borderline emotionally abusive relationship.

So this is what I would tell my friend: Think of yourself and your own well being first. Sometimes a little bit of measured, reasonable, self centeredness (sp?) can be a good thing. Leave this situation before you get in deeper. This will not end well.

I'm sorry, but this situation needed some straight, blunt talk.

Good luck. Stay strong.

While this all could be true, I have to say, only going by the facts we know so far, that saying "this will not end well" is making a leap.  It's true they do need some straight, blunt talk, but I think it's too early to say the relationship is doomed.  There is a lot more we don't know, such as whether rickydrexel has a say in the women his straight friend sees or how seriously/dangerously possessive the (boy)friend actually is.  What if the boyfriend is really interested in rickydrexel and confused?

RickyDrexel : I've found a nice talk about how you are feeling and asking what you need to know usually is the best way to go before things get out of hand, much like what others have said.  It doesn't sound like being open and honest would be upsetting for him or a bad thing, since he knows about your orientation already and clearly wants to be involved in your life!  I hope everything works out the best way and that you keep us updated.  :hug:

I don't think that could be conveyed any better or more concise.  Thank you for sharing.

@raphjd:

Nothing other than confirm what I already knew.

Well, maybe it made me even gayer.  I know, that sounds odd, but until the point that I had gay sex, I wasn't 100% sure I was gay.  Self doubt and all that.

Same for me 

@ben351500:

Sorry, but I have to disagree with what is being posted here. Time for a reality check. If one of my friends was in this situation, this is what I'd tell him:

Your friend sounds to me like a user: he wants his cake and to eat it too. It sounds to me like he wants a wife, but without the strings that come with marriage, but all the benefits. And for him to have YOU as his wife is safe and allows him to date/fuck around: he's not gonna have sex with you, so he doesn't need to worry about that side of things. AND he gets someone to help him raise his kid. Have you become the full-time babysitter yet? It's coming. And he gets to approve of whomever you date - do you get a similar privilege? Sounds controlling to me. And the fact that he thinks it's fun that you have the nude and sex pics only tells me that he likes to be the center of attention.

Look, he may not be doing this intentionally or maliciously, but on some level he knows he's got you in his pocket, so to speak. But YOU know, deep down; otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread. YOU know that this relationship isn't healthy. YOU know he's using your crush on him for his own advantage. YOU know these things.

Look, I don't mean to harsh on you; we've all gotten involved in unhealthy relationships. But honestly, a good relationship is one between partners. Does this sound like a partnership? From what you've written, it doesn't to me. Plus, if you really, truly, deeply, love him, can you handle him seeing/fucking/loving others, orientation aside? Jealously will come, my friend, and the green monster doesn't go away, it only grows. If this were a straight relationship, I would say this is borderline emotionally abusive. Actually, the genders and orientations involved are unimportant: this IS a borderline emotionally abusive relationship.

So this is what I would tell my friend: Think of yourself and your own well being first. Sometimes a little bit of measured, reasonable, self centeredness (sp?) can be a good thing. Leave this situation before you get in deeper. This will not end well.

I'm sorry, but this situation needed some straight, blunt talk.

Good luck. Stay strong.

While this all could be true, I have to say, only going by the facts we know so far, that saying "this will not end well" is making a leap.  It's true they do need some straight, blunt talk, but I think it's too early to say the relationship is doomed.  There is a lot more we don't know, such as whether rickydrexel has a say in the women his straight friend sees or how seriously/dangerously possessive the (boy)friend actually is.  What if the boyfriend is really interested in rickydrexel and confused?

RickyDrexel : I've found a nice talk about how you are feeling and asking what you need to know usually is the best way to go before things get our of hand, much like what others have said.  It doesn't sound, to me, like being open and honest would be upsetting for him or a bad thing since he knows about your orientation already and clearly wasn't to be involved in your life!  I hope everything works out the best way and that you keep us updated.  :hug:

Thank you Ajax, that is what I was wondering about and it makes sense.

OJ Simpson came to my city for an event, and he went to a restaurant where the owner wouldn't serve him then asked him to leave and everyone clapped.

When I read this story, which I admit is a different set of circumstances, it reminded me of that incident.  Now, OJ Simpson was acquitted, so I wonder on what basis the restaurant owner felt he had the right to not do business with OJ Simpson.  Sometimes I wish I would have gone to law school.

While I disagree with all of the people mentioned in the article, I do think the cake shop owner has a right to not serve whomever he pleases.  It's his business and his right to his own opinions and beliefs about who he does or doesn't want to do business with.  Shrug it off and buy a cake elsewhere.  Denver is a big city, I know there is more than one place to get a wedding cake.

I have no idea what "ruled against" him even means.  What are they going to do send him to jail for expressing his opinion?  Again, I certainly don't think he is a good person, but a private business does not have to serve someone they don't want to, I think.

I feel so bad for them.  Such cowards that group of 10 police are.  They need a new career.

Now we can put to rest the rumor that Republicans hate gays, finally.

Thank you for sharing this.  I have not heard of the story either, I can't believe it.  I'll spread the word.

I hate it, unless it's a necessary medical issue to where it needs to be done.  Doing it for aesthetic purposes is senseless mutilation.  Doing it for religious purposes is hypocritical as it is saying that God got it wrong.  Doing it as a preventative measure to decrease risk of disease is ignorant of the facts and archaic.  I'm pissed it was done to me without my permission as a baby.