Being attracted to Straight Guys but it's a bad thing now?
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Hi, I've only been with one straight guy, about 20 yrs older than me a while back. Now, I have no delusions of being in a relationship with them, that's to be expected. My question is more so on casual dating/hookup. Somehow it's been a trend these days online that it's frowned upon to be attracted to them, have you noticed that? There seems to be a little bit of a pushback from other gays, maybe due to the g4p models too taking over jobs from gay models.
Do any of you guys have experiences hooking up with straight guys?
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@stam8 said in Being attracted to Straight Guys but it's a bad thing now?:
There seems to be a little bit of a pushback from other gays, maybe due to the g4p models too taking over jobs from gay models.
There's "gay for pay," and "gay for play." I use the latter category to describe guys who are emotionally/psychologically attracted to women, but enjoy the physical sensation of sex with guys. Such as:
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One buddy of mine is a police officer (who would sometimes show up in uniform, although that's not a fetish of mine). He's married, has a couple of kids, but enjoys getting fucked. It's always doggy style, and he's not looking at me...but he loves getting his prostate tickled. It's not the best hookup in the world, but still enjoyable for both of us.
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Another guy I met a few times (at his place) was also married, but he wanted to suck cock. He said he was neutral about "enjoying it," but that his wife really liked seeing him do it, and he would ask me to hold a camera or phone to do a POV shot of him sucking (which wouldn't show my face). This seemed a bit weird, but he definitely knew what he was doing, so I was fine with it. One time, though, we were in his bedroom, and I heard a rustling in the closet: It turned out that his wife was in there watching us through a hole in the door. I zipped up and left, and I never went back.
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@eobox91103
Thank you for replying.
Mine was a co-worker.Where do you usually find them?
I haven't had any experience lately because of the pandemic and just worried about catching anything in general.
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@stam8 said in Being attracted to Straight Guys but it's a bad thing now?:
Where do you usually find them?
The cop was in a gay chat room; the other guy was from a gay hookup site. The cop was open about his situation from the beginning; the other guy only said he wanted to "give oral" and then hit me with the camera thing when I got there. Those are the only two "straight" guys I've hooked up with--that I know of.
I haven't had any experience lately because of the pandemic and just worried about catching anything in general.
Same here. Somehow asking for proof of vaccination and a recent covid test seems like a mood-breaker, even if it is just a hookup.
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As a "str8" guy when I want some anon head I visit doublelist. I prefer gloryholes, but occasionally I'll go for something else. If you wanted more than just a quick blow-n-go, invite them over regularly until it's more than that. At least for me, that's what it takes to even really consider doing anything more. But there have been ads that have intrigued me that ask for exactly what they want.
But, keep in mind I'm straight by my definition. I'm genuinely not attracted to men, I basically do this when it's been a while and I don't want to pay for it. As such I have zero desire to kiss, rub, perform oral, etc. It's why I prefer gloryholes.
I hope that helps a little bit.
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@echuta wow thanks for the insight. if the guy wanted a kiss, have you granted their wish before?
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I mean, I'm a believer in Alfred Kinsey's theory despite his bias in research. I think when people argue that they're "gay for pay" or "straight", but have sex with men anyway, then they're not 100% straight. But, I don't obsess about heterosexual guys, but I do fantasize about them unless they really get on my nerves or they have a piss poor attitude.
I remember seeing this guy for the first time who was a chef and co-owner of a fine dining restaurant back in my hometown when I visited family. He was a total metrosexual and I think that was one of the reasons why I was crushing on him so hard. Then, while I was at the bar having a mojito and he called for some kind of pre-shift meeting with the servers, the minute that man opened his mouth, the uglier of a human being that man became. God, he was a fucking asshole to his staff. I will never forget that.
But, I've been with "straight" guys and have always wound up being disappointed, lol!
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@stam8 No one has ever asked or implied they want to kiss. I'm pretty straightforward about how far I'm willing to go, and usually seek out the kinds of posts that imply or state it's a blow-and-go type of situation. I've had people ask if I can fuck them, but they're usually looking for bareback and I'm not.
I would decline a kiss, and explain roughly why. Like I do when someone wants me to suck them. I tried it once at a gloryhole because I felt obligated, but after having it in my mouth I realized it's really not for me and stopped pretty quickly
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No, why would I wanna hook up with someone that's not into me? And if he is he's not straight. This obsession with masc straight guys screams internalized homophobia.
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The "Straight guys" i've hooked up with have always spawned out of a friendship. Having said that, I've killed a couple of friendships that way too where I've gone down on a guy, and the next morning it was very awkward.
In highschool it was mainly a way of getting off cause you took anything you could get so I ended up "helping out a mate" for a good 2 years before he moved schools and drifted away.
In my later years, a mate of mine got comfortable enough where I'd give him a blow job if he wasn't dating a girl. Very occasionally if he felt cockblocked, I'd help him out, but the chances of that were usually slim whilst he was dating someone.
We eventually drifted apart, and we're still good friends, but he declines the old hookup culture we had, and I totally respect that.
As echuta said, gloryholes are kinda perfect for just that hookup if you want to get off, or you want to satisfy an itch you want to scratch like going down on a guy and there's no prejudice about labels of "straight" or whatever.
Is it bad to be attracted to a straight guy? No, I don't think so. The problem I have is queer baiting and it's certainly rife over tiktiok where blatant straight guys try to get people to subscribe to their OF and are completely tone-deaf as to what content they are putting out because they'd never hook up with a guy at all
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this is tricky. It depends on the circumstances I think. If you are chasing straight guys for a relationship then I feel you will be heartbroken and doomed. However if you are just looking for sex then there's an opening. It's dangerous. Some straight guys will react violently. However sometimes it works out. I was out partying on friday night with a group a friends. A kiwi guy was there with us, straight blond about five five a litttle cute guy quiet but friendly. I flirted but he made it clear he's straight. Cool. So the night keeps going with bar hopping noraebang soju shots and five of us end up back at my apartment for more drinks.
at this point we're all sloshed and kiwi ends up in my bed with me and he mumbles something about keeping his clothes on to sleep. whatever cause im smashed too. in the morning however i find him nude (he must have stripped in the night) and wrapped up in my arms as little spoon (im six three) well my body does what bodies do and he's responding so yeah straight... but I guess open if its right? after he reiterated that he's straight. Cool. I have no reason to doubt because orientation is about who you are attracted to not who you have sex with. Gay guys have been having sex with women for centuries.
That night he ended up partying again (without me) and sunday morning I get a call from him... he's at the mcdonalds in itaewon at like six am or somthing so i jump in a taxi carry him out of mcdonalds (hes five five) and back to my place where the little kiwi straight guy pounded me again. So i would do it all over again but have no illusions about what it was.
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I LOVE STR8 GUYS! THEY TURN ME ON SO MUCH
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str8 men that have sex with men? this does not makes sense.
I had sex with several married men who identify as str8 but they are so eager to have sex with a man. Well they need to accept the fact that they are bisexual if not gay at all.Generally speaking, my experience with married men did not leave me with good memories. Yes sex was hot sometimes, but their identity issues does not let them be totaly relaxed.
Also, it pisses me off when most of them express homophobic opinions which I find both hypocritical and intolerant.
In conclusion, I have decided to avoid those kind of men. Why? I feel that they are selfish. They think that we exist only to please them, but when it comes to equality they are against us.
