Do you feel disgusted after you masturbate to porn?
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The one time US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders got fired by Bill Clinton because she said; masturbation is natural and healthy.
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As far as I can remember, it’s always been and continues to be a fun until I’m done feeling and reaction that comes on immediately after any orgasm. Whether by masturbating alone or while having partnered sex, after I cum all interest in anything sexual is totally gone.
Looking back, I can vividly recall being 18 and a senior in high school–Sunday afternoons, mom and sister out, and me and my “high school sweetheart” having sex in my bedroom. It was always a case of once I was through, all I thought about was getting back to the living room to watch football.
These days, and in spite of currently being in a couple of committed relationships of over 34 and 20 years, of the countless loads I routinely deliver, very few are sucked out or fucked out, being stroked out instead.
That being said, for me, masturbating is like waking up or coming to from a state where the “little head” was in complete control of things. Once satisfied, control is given back to the “big head”--to clean up all the mess. ???
As far as doing anything to prevent that "post-jack attack" from happening–I never thought about it. The first thing that immediately comes to mind after doing the do, and that brief disgust-thing has passed…
shower or no shower?
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I don't really feel disgusted afterward. Sometimes I get very depressed, though. I assume it's the result of all the endorphins associated with feeding my horned-up brain with sexual stimulation being snatched away seconds after orgasm. Once it's over, I feel a profound existential despair that I can't even put into words. It's as if, once the thing (sexual stimulation and orgasm) I'd focused all my attention on and derived all of my pleasure from for the last however many minutes/hours is snuffed out, I feel like my life has lost all significance. This feeling, referred to as post-coital tristesse, can last anywhere from 5-10 minutes for me.
Fortunately, it doesn't happen every time I orgasm. Only occasionally, or while under the influence of certain medications. Still, it's fucking brutal when it does happen. In general, I don't experience disgust or depression, but I do become totally disinterested in sex. It takes me anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes for me to get back to my baseline, where I can go on about my business, feeling relieved of my horniness, but not totally disinterested in everything, including cleaning myself off.
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The shame feelings are about cultural programming, trust me. I don't know what your upbringing was like, but even a casual connection to Western culture tends to bring with it deeply ingrained Old Testatment hangups about your own sexuality.
Even an atheist who pragmatically knows in his head there's no logical reason to keep feeling those old fears and shameful feelings can't escape an entire childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, etc … however long it took you to mature enough to understand there's nothing wrong with you venting off perfectly natural horny steam, as an adult man, has little to do with it. If you're religious, it's the screaming of the preacher and your parents that have those subconscious reactions programmed into you.
If not, it's at least the jeering and jokes from your peers while you were going through school and growing up (I still remember the day I could finally get all of my male friends to admit to me that they jerked off, at 18. We'd spent the last 6 years denying it and using it as an insult against each other). That stuff sticks with you in ways that don't even touch on your conscious thoughts. They become instinct after while.
Still, there's hope and good news -- you can and will deprogram that nonsense shit. It just takes time, and a refusal to let it beat you. Now, when I miss a day of jacking off, THAT'S when I feel disappointed in myself. It's like exercise for every gland in your body that produces testosterone -- it's good for you, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically to ejaculate at least once a day (or multiple times, if you can get it). The fact that you use porn as an aid is no reason for shame -- we're visual animals.
You'll get over it. I promise. I promise, humanity at large will still love you after you jack off to a video of a twink getting stuffed up the rump. What's more, the people you're talking to right now can relate.
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Not at all.
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The shame feelings are about cultural programming, trust me. I don't know what your upbringing was like, but even a casual connection to Western culture tends to bring with it deeply ingrained Old Testatment hangups about your own sexuality.
Even an atheist who pragmatically knows in his head there's no logical reason to keep feeling those old fears and shameful feelings can't escape an entire childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, etc … however long it took you to mature enough to understand there's nothing wrong with you venting off perfectly natural horny steam, as an adult man, has little to do with it. If you're religious, it's the screaming of the preacher and your parents that have those subconscious reactions programmed into you.
If not, it's at least the jeering and jokes from your peers while you were going through school and growing up (I still remember the day I could finally get all of my male friends to admit to me that they jerked off, at 18. We'd spent the last 6 years denying it and using it as an insult against each other). That stuff sticks with you in ways that don't even touch on your conscious thoughts. They become instinct after while.
Still, there's hope and good news -- you can and will deprogram that nonsense shit. It just takes time, and a refusal to let it beat you. Now, when I miss a day of jacking off, THAT'S when I feel disappointed in myself. It's like exercise for every gland in your body that produces testosterone -- it's good for you, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically to ejaculate at least once a day (or multiple times, if you can get it). The fact that you use porn as an aid is no reason for shame -- we're visual animals.
You'll get over it. I promise. I promise, humanity at large will still love you after you jack off to a video of a twink getting stuffed up the rump. What's more, the people you're talking to right now can relate.
Excellent advice! You hit the nail on the head with that post! I think it was my upbringing that is making me feel down after I masturbate to porn. All the bad things I've been taught as a child/teenager about masturbation and porn (and how being gay is the "worst" thing someone could be) is still ingrained in my mind. It's amazing that even at 23, I still have feelings of shame, guilt, and disgust thanks to my cultural upbringing.
Thanks all for your advice as well!
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Somewhere I read that it's not uncommon to feel a bit depressed after cumming. I think it happens with more or less intensity depending of the person. It's totally normal.
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Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit
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Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit
Isn't that an excuse?
::)
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Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit
Isn't that an excuse?
::)
An excuse for what? Masturbating more? :laugh: :laugh:
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I feel rested after I masturbate!
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I watch a lot gay porn but once in a while I watch straight porn, and when I'm done watching straight porn I hate myself and I feel disgusted
but when I watch gay porn I feel great. -
Sometimes it happens to me when i watch bad/mediocre porn, i cum and then i feel "empty", like i just wasted my time. ::)
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Sometimes it happens to me when i watch bad/mediocre porn, i cum and then i feel "empty", like i just wasted my time. ::)
But you were "forced" to cum?!
;D
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It seems like every time I masturbate to porn, I feel a sense of disgust after I climax.
It's like this:
I'm horny and I want to watch some porn. My emotions are positive as I start masturbating…I'm enjoying myself...It feels good...I continue to feel great until I climax. After cumming, my feelings/thoughts turn completely 180 degrees...I feel disgusted, ashamed, dirty, like I did something wrong.Anybody else feel this way or used to? How do you stop these negative feelings?
Like others that was a feeling I felt early in my life, not anymore thought.
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It seems like every time I masturbate to porn, I feel a sense of disgust after I climax.
It's like this:
I'm horny and I want to watch some porn. My emotions are positive as I start masturbating…I'm enjoying myself...It feels good...I continue to feel great until I climax. After cumming, my feelings/thoughts turn completely 180 degrees...I feel disgusted, ashamed, dirty, like I did something wrong.Anybody else feel this way or used to? How do you stop these negative feelings?
Like others that was a feeling I felt early in my life, not anymore thought.
![😕](https://community.gaytorrent.ru/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/apple/1f615.png?v=hvqg2qn0nb4 ":-\")
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i only feel bad because i don't have a partner that time lol
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Feeling disgusted after cuming to porn? Sounds very catholic.
No, I don't feel guilty or ashamed for watching porn.
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Its not disgust or regret you feel. Its just the lack of excitement..
The very moment you ejaculate, all the excitement, euphoria, and our sense of pleasure reach the very peaks and then take a deep dive down south from there on. It takes some time to get back to our normal selves.
During that period of time, even if we want to watch porn, it seems uninteresting and we end up regretting it.
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I think I did when I was younger. I don't anymore.
