Question for bisexuals
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I am gay, but I am quite interested in a guy whose had several girlfriends - but I am not sure if he's had sex with any of them (which might be why they broke up).
I hope I will get several responses from "bisexuals"
Do you think that most bisexuals are:- straight guys, who are up for occasionally having sex with guys
- gay guys, who have sex with girls because of social expectations
- guys who would prefer to have sex with other guys, but are in the closet and have sex with girls instead.
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@lololulu19 No offend ...
BUT according to definitions:heterosexual [str8] (of a person) sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heterosexuality
homosexual (of a person) sexually attracted to people of one's own sex. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality
bisexual sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender; attracted to both men and women.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BisexualityIn other way, whoever had experience can provide an answer of what you are seeking for and has better explanation ...
[In real life] ...
The important thing is "we know what we are, who we are" and to deal w/ logic of our own perspective ... KUDOS
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@john32123666
I was looking for a REAL answer..
not the version from 60 years ago from the Merriam Webster's Dictionary -
@lololulu19 You may get a few "real" responses -- then again, this is the Internet -- but surely not enough to allow you to draw meaningful inferences from your question via the scientific method:
https://findanyanswer.com/what-is-an-experience-survey
https://www.scribbr.com/statistics/statistical-significance/
However, if you're looking to this question primarily to start chats with a few bisexuals for your own satisfaction, get 'em tiger.
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As a bi man, I can tell you that it doesn't work that way. It is true that we have the advantage of going unnoticed because we can go out with women without feeling forced to do so. We really like both sexes almost equally. It's not always 50-50, but in my case, it works seasonally, sometimes I like girls more and sometimes boys more. If I'm horny, I prefer boys because I feel they have easier access than girls, plus there are no risks of pregnancy (That doesn't mean there isn't a condom. I always try to use it) On the other hand, when you start going out with boys, most Assume that you are homosexual and the girlfriends you had were only for appearances. I always say that it is better to ignore the standards of others.
We have had sex education that does not accept midpoints, that is, either everything is black or white. We are a kind of gray that is sometimes more black or sometimes more white. Bisexuals are not repressed heterosexuals or indecisive homosexuals, because, as I said, it depends on each one.
If you want to know if a guy had sex with girls, ask him about his experiences. The easiest way to unmask him would be to ask him where in the vagina he inserted his penis. Believe me, a lot of people don't know that women have two orifices, so they assume everything comes out of the same place. -
@LonelyBoy26 I didn't know a woman's got two orifices in their slot! Makes sense though. Are both holes fuckable? If I were straight, this topic would be extremely interesting to me.
I think there is another element to bisexuality that I forgot to mention.
There are bisexuals who:
top women and top men..
and others that
top women but bottom for men.
I think a lot of bisexual men love taking it up their butt. And that is not easily done by women unless they are going to use a strap-on.
The guy I have been referring to loves his own body, loves looking at it, loves showing it to me. I highly suspect that he wants to be the object of desire.. the bottom if you will.. and he is quite obsessed with his looks.
It seems to me that a true 100% straight man doesn't care a bit about what he looks like.. never checks out his own ass, never puts on special clothes nor jewelry. That stuff is for WIMMEN! Straight guys just wanna fuck that hole, give the bitch her $5 and kick her out the door - so to speak. -
@lololulu19 Yes, there are several characteristics that can give it away. A 100% straight guy doesn't doubt his tastes, you could get naked in front of him, be a Greek god and he wouldn't even get hard.
I like to be active, because being passive is extremely complicated. Many men just want to spit her up and no foreplay, so I understand when bottoms get demanding. I've tried it and I liked it, but it's not my favorite diversion. -
@LonelyBoy26 although this guy I have been talking about has an extremely hot body.. my main interest is to make him happy.
He's gone through about 4 girlfriends in the past 2 years.. and I'm not sure that he's had sex with any of them. Probably did.. and didn't like it much. He seem sexually attracted to... himself. I have seen photos of him with girls, and he always looks unhappy, like he would rather be someplace else. When he is alone, or with a pet, or with a guy.. he's always got a smile. It's not easy to be gay - especially under the cirumstances of where he lives and his family in close proximity. I'm offering him the finest in porn and friendship and helping him out financially - not with money - but with things he needs. I think he just needs a little nudge and he will decide he is gay. And.. being closeted, he will be exclusive to me! Whoopee! He's already told me that I am his exclusive porn model. He doesn't display himself to anybody else. He seems to have a fetish for balls, especially his own.
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@lololulu19 Yeah, he's probably a gay man who hasn't accepted himself. Many times family and friends matter, but hopefully he declares himself and everything goes well. If you both enjoy what you do, then enjoy.
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@lololulu19
That is actually a very interesting topic. I personally believe that most bisexual guys are individuals that only occasionally have sex with guys.
But it is a more complex subject that this. I mean bisexuality is not just black and white and there are many "straight" and "gay" layers inbetween. -
You left out:
- They have sex with people of any gender because they are sexually attracted to them.
The 'B' in LGBT+ isn't just a random placeholder.
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@gerggently It also depends. I think those are more pansexuals, because personally I'm not attracted to trans, pansexual or demisexual people. If I want to hang out with a guy, I'd rather he be gay, if he's a girl, straight. I have never met other bisexuals so I would not know if I prefer them.
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It seems to me that a true 100% straight man doesn't care a bit about what he looks like.. never checks out his own ass, never puts on special clothes nor jewelry. That stuff is for WIMMEN! Straight guys just wanna fuck that hole, give the bitch her $5 and kick her out the door - so to speak.
Wow, you seem to have a really outdated view about sexuality, there was once a time that was considered to be true. A lot of straight men nowadays really care about their appearance, times have changed (and no, caring about their appearance doesn't make them closet bisexuals). Sexuality is extremely complicated, and bisexuals probably even more, hehehe. If you really wanna know something about this guy just ask him, will be easier.
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Your premise is off... you cannot "categorize" bisexuals any more than you can homosexuals!
In this forum alone, you likely have men like me, who:
- love smooth men, but not hairy men
- love thin, lithe men and women
- love intelligent, sarcastic, whimsical men and women
I could go on and on - deep into a diatribe into all the different kinds of things men like (or do not like) sexually...
But here's what I've taught my sons:
- Every man is "wired" a little differently - and there is no one, single, "right" way -- although there are many "wrong" ways (pedophilia, rape, public (unwanted) exposure - and others - are indeed "wrong" by our societal norms)
- As a man, you owe it to yourself to explore "how you're wired" - and that means experimentation.
- Fortunately, you have a near-flawless indicator built-in:
If your penis gets hard, stays hard, and you have an amazing orgasm - it's probably something you're wired for....
But, if you have to struggle to stay hard, or cannot reach an orgasm (yes, men CAN fake an orgasm!), then you're probably NOT "wired" for that...
And, if either of these experiences are "repeatable" - then you're getting a good idea about what makes you tick! - As you learn to "map" your own sexuality, also learn to accept it - because you don't get to choose it, it's just who you are... the earlier you accept this, the happier you will be (at least in your sex-life!)
- Remember though - your "sex map" is not a static, unchanging thing... it can (and likely will) change over time. (For example, at 20 you probably won't find 50 y/o men or women sexually attractive, but 30 years later, at 50, you likely will!)
- Finally: don't overthink it (or over-apply your mapping): if you can't get hard with her, it doesn't mean you're gay - only that you're not into her!
As an aside to readers here: I strongly believe in experimentation - I've known men who thought they were 100% straight - until they had their first m/m encounter! I've also known men who thought they were 100% gay, until they had a sexual encounter with a woman!
Even in the realm of most "kink" - my belief is "don't knock it 'til you've tried it!"
