How to do butt thing?
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How do you do that butt trick where the star opens?
What I mean is the guy I'm dating now has a 7 in dick which I didn't think was possible but apparently it is and he's a top and I want to bottom him. Now I tried to do research, but I want to know is it necessary to do all the prep stuff beforehand? We never did anything super sexual yet and he's a top but I'm a total virgin and I've never stuck my finger there because it just seems nasty to me, like it's clean I think but it's the poopy hole that's POOP I DON'T TOUCH THE POOP. Also when I tried putting my finger in it wouldn't go like my ass said "Nope" and it felt like a wall and I can't see anything so idk what happens. If I get over the sphincter part I read there was another gate and then they said if he touches the walls of your rectum you will wish you were dead and that it can tighten and it's "worse than pregnancy" and now I'm extremely afraid but at the same time I know what it feels like to rub my prostate from outside and it would feel better if he could go in but it's still an ass and I'm so scared. He's being really nice about it and saying I can take my time to figure it out he said he doesn't think he would be much help because he has no experience bottoming so idk
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Just relax and try it slowly. I think you two can talk about it and try the process step by step. Do not urge to do anal sex. It will hurt you physically and mentally as you have never experience it. Maybe you can try use some toys to help you feel the penetrate such as Aneros Helix when you are alone. Step by step, using a dildo to replace with the Helix. Friendly reminding, doing douche is necessary. Many products can help you do douche. Douche will not hurt you. When you feel alright to have anal sex, I think you can tell your partner. Maybe you can try rimming at first and then let him help you relax your ass by licking or figuring. Most experienced tops will do these things. Just remember, relax and slow
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Most definitely clean out the poop shoot beforehand. The day before, you may want to limit food intake. It will help.
To get the star thingy going is pretty easy. Put a mirror on the floor and squat over it. Then push like you are trying to shit. (make sure your not packing). Then suck it back in. Repeat and pretty soon you will have a little star popping out and smirking at you.
But you will also have it after you have anal too. Just from the friction on the lips of your ass. -
I recommend starting with some kind of butt toy.
Too much pressure (pun lol) when with a partner.
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matt, that article is a Master's Thesis in anal sex prep!
If I were to mention just one aspect of your preparation (which is my intention), I would solve the entire "poop problem" via a disposable enema, or a reusable cleansing system that gently sends water into your ass and leaves you fresh as a daisy. Use it just before the big (pun intended) event.
Even Walmart carries the devices, but you can also go to an adult store and find various styles. And single-use enemas are at any drug store.
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maybe test it with small dildos first or probably play with your finger to loosen the hole
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This is why we need better sex ed in schools. I remember how "crazy" it was that we were taught how to put male condoms on a banana, but we never went into what to do after, with either men or women.
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I'm gonna take a shot in the dark. Are there any Europeans here or someone who has a bidet in their bathroom? Is this good enough to clean myself out or do I really need a douche nozzle?
It does a good job of getting the left overs but sometimes, you just can't be too sure. If the water pressure is too high, you run the risk of bleeding. If its too low it won't get far.
And then there's this infographic (which I will just link, because it goes a little bit too real for me, despite all of it being a caricature). I'm sure the Quick setting would be good enough, but I want to be safe than sorry.
https://blindjaw.tumblr.com/post/161412537989/i-just-finished-writing-and-illustrating-this
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Don't assume anal sex is gonna hurt! I mean, it can, a bit, depending on your tension level, anatomy, etc., but it can also be completely pain free and pleasurable. Take it slow, only go as far as you're comfortable. 99% chance you'll get the hang of it soon enough. It's a dick, not a dagger, so don't worry too much. ;D
