i'd be down for masturbating or sex lol go team fun!

I always find these situations fascinating. I cant imagine how hard it must be for those people living in communities like that. but glad he found the strength to live for HIM and not for others.

Cant help notice though that most choose to come out only when not at the peak of their careers.. 'i guess a case of better late than never..'?  😉

I think they would, or not, I dunno. Still a mystery pages to me.

I'm raise in a high value of family and society tradition and religion. We don't recognize gay term in our local custom law and tradition. I've been thinking the possibility of coming out. The worst part, that I would lost my custom identity, which would lost my last name (usually people recognize me and my line of family from our last name. I'm the 18th descendant in our family line.), which would end of my life. I dunno. But, like I said, its the worst scenario.

Anyway, that never really bother me. Just let it flow…  :hero:

Get fully prepared before coming out is always the right thing to do, especially in your case you still confuse a lot.

WOW! Thanks for the replies guys! It really means a lot!  ;D

@bear1515 - I'm not sure what advice I can give you on coming out. As you read in my post, I tried to come out to my dad once and he didn't even believe me. Ever since then I've done nothing. I suppose if I were you I'd take into consideration just how much my parents are open to this kind of stuff. If the general opinion in your country is that being gay is bad, then it wouldn't be surprising if your parents stay the same way. If they're pretty open, however, and have supported you all the way through your ups and downs in life, tell them. Make sure it's serious and organized. Make them both sit down on the couch, turn off any distractions and sit in front of them and say what you have to say!
And remember - even if they don't accept you, don't let that pull you down! Stay with people who love you the most and with whom you feel the best!!!

And another thing - tell your friend that you like him as soon as possible. If he is a close friend of yours he will support you and be with you even if he is straight. Even if he eventually decides to change his mind and wishes to no longer be your friend because of your sexual orientation LET IT BE! Your true friends are the ones around whom you can be 100% yourself.

@hean - Thanks hean! I'm hoping for just that. I am actually rather confident in my abilities (photography, image editing, cinematography, videos and video production) and I really hope I will be able to find a part time job to help out with paying this and that. ^_^

I can see one aspect of being bi that would probably be more complicated.  I believe we are all still coming out all the time in some respects because what we're coming out of is their "shadow" of expectations of being like them.  As a gay man, when I tell a straight man my sexuality, I often get the sense and even the question, "but you're not hitting on me or into me right?"  Basically I find that all straight men seem to assume their instantly attractive to all gay men.  If this happens to bi's then they would get it from men and women… and that would likely be even more annoying...

@thekingdom:

Is it bad to come out via text message? I've moved far from home and likely won't see some of my friends for a long time. I just want a quick, painless way to get it over with.

Well as someone who came out to my father by email, and it didn't go so well, I'm gonna recommend against this idea.  While you haven't actually changed, its just their perception of you that will change, they might still have questions or concerns that you could help provide answers for more readily in person.  (Remember that text messages lose a lot of emotion, and the lack of immediate response can make for over-thought and over-wrought communication.)

Basically, either these people matter to you, and deserve your honest effort, or they're not that important, and if/when they find out doesn't matter so much.  For the less consequential people you could let them figure it out on their own by other means, such as a facebook update or similar.  Hell, you could post a message about your decisions on coming out etiquette on a blog and see who pays attention 😉

I already called shotgun on Jason Collins

interesting

nice 🙂 I always feel that the sporting world is one of the most difficult to come out in so it is great when someone feels confident to do so.

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com / Huffington Post

Coming out is a monumental event in most people's lives, whether you're actually the person 'coming out' or a member of their inner circle. It doesn't matter what position you play—the experience is life changing.

In 1869, LGBT rights advocate Karl Heinrich Ulrich introduced coming out concept as a means of emancipation and changing societal opinions. Granted, people have been coming out for centuries…just not as openly as we see it today. While the process of coming out makes headline new on almost a daily basis, I find it interesting to bring other terms to the forefront that might better support people in this journey. Here are just a few of my ideas for communicating "I'm Coming Out" in some different terms.

I'm living my truth.
Nothing says honesty like slapping yourself upside the head and saying, "Wake up and start living life as your authentic self!" Taking that brave step to fully embrace our sexuality starts with you living your truth.

Getting real with myself.
 Or, in slang terms: to "Get Real," means to get down with your bad self and no longer pretend to be something you're not. Doesn't that feel refreshing?

Living my life fantastically. Nothing says you're alive and loving more than when you say, "I feel fantastic." It's pretty darn hard to be fantastic when you're not feeling good about yourself.

These three terms illustrate my point, but let's take it a step further. As I was contemplating how the term "coming out" could be morphed into something that would catch people's attention, I landed on a term that says it all. However, before I share this little nugget, I want to make it clear that I do believe if you're gay, you are born this way… gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender. It's not because a higher power crossed the wires or "made a mistake." We are just this way, and we're more than okay. In fact, we’re gifted with GDNA, LDNA, BDNA, and TDNA. Okay; now that we've got that clear, back to my new term for coming out.

I'm a recovering heterosexual.
 Some people claim to be recovering Catholics, recovering sugar addicts, recovering vegetarians, or recovering Kardashian fans. So, why can't we who have come out be recovering heterosexuals?

So what does that mean?

• We're stepping beyond the confines of heterosexual normative behavior.
• We're releasing the social expectations that boys date girls and girls date boys.
• We're blurring the lines of masculinity and femininity.
• We're blazing new trails of human existence.
• We're allowing curiosity to prevail rather than accepting what is.
• We're honoring our human form and allowing it to flourish creatively.
• We're acknowledging our heterosexual upbringing and integrating it into our sexual orientation.
• We're allowing our logical self to play in the sand box of our heart's desires with no regrets.
• We're recovering from assumptions, interpretations, and limiting beliefs that no longer serve our sexuality.
• We're embracing that our sexuality is only one small piece of our complete package.

At the end of the day, whether you call it coming out, getting real with yourself, living your life fantastically, or functioning as a recovering heterosexual, it really doesn't matter. The fact of the matter is you're just being authentic. And, that feels pretty darn good.

Same to me….very odd story