Hey man
Listen: if you are certain that he is the one for you, then try to sort things out: explain your feelings and, if he tells you that he doesn´t want a commitment, then you just know what is all about. You cannot force him to love you but at least you will feel more free, and then you can start again.
If you are still emotionally attached to him, cherishing memories and scenes from the past, then that is a hard rope that doesn´t let you go your way ahead. When you know all about him and his plans, you will be aware about your position and then move forward.
And if you wanna play with someone, feel free to play… Do not feel ashamed or hurt. All of us have been in a situation like that and know how hard is sometimes to confront your own feelings. But time heals every wound. I thought I would never overcome a breakdown, it almost killed me... and some years after the affair I cannot recall the details of the event. There is more life ahead you. Do not let any other gay rule your life... You are worth it!!!!
Hugs