Hyper-masculinity turns me on (big muscles, jocks, uniforms, leather, bikers, etc…).

I am versatile. I can Top oral / Anal just about anyone (good imagination).

I'm VERY picky on who I will bottom for.

Fem is a huge turn off.

So chemistry is a huge part of my sexual orientation.

If you haven't found your chemistry I can see being confused on orientation.

Have you played with any toys? Sometimes that can help you figure out if you can get any pleasure from anal, then try to find the right partners to give you that pleasure.

You seem kind of paranoid. But considering where you are? it may be justified.
What you are experiencing is normal for everyone, regardless of orientation.
Think about what is going through your mind at the time of having sex? If its any worries or anything other than sex with the person in front of you? Then you are just doing it wrong.
Sex is 90% in the brain and mind. If your mind is preoccupied by fear, anxiety or a host of other emotions. Things just don't work well.
I was somewhat like this when I was younger. Eventually, I found that I needed some bonding to enable sex. Just a little conversation and that was all I needed. Bond made and dick worked fine. But just throw me into a room with a hot stranger/ Something just didn't click and the dick didn't work right.
Some people are the exact opposite. They only respond to quick sex with no connection at all. Talk and strike up a conversation and they can't perform.
Sexuality is weird.

Got a friend working in China.  He's a buff dude and met and fucked a bunch of other gym guys.  I guess hot guys stick to hot guys.  He showed me come pictures and the Chinese guys he's been with have long cocks.  He's been in orgies too.

Sadly condoms make many guys go soft because they take away some of the sensation and pleasure from sex.  So you should not feel ashamed or embarrassed about that.  Try different types of condoms some types are less likely to cause loss of sensation and pleasure.  If that does not work you can go on PrEP while that will not protect you against other STI's it will protect you against HIV.  Ultimately it comes down to what level of risk you feel comfortable with.

Sorry to necromance but it's been a while since I've logged in… I didn't know GTRU would work through the Great Firewall, and I've moved behind it.

While I was preparing to move here, I had closed out my apartment and so was staying at my parents' place. You can imagine that this left me without many opportunities to take care of myself, so I took them when I could. Well, one weekend, they had gone out of town and left me in care of the house. I decided to order pizza for dinner.

I'd been talking to a deliver guy on Grindr. I had done that myself years back and he laughed when I told him that people had always asked me whether I'd yet had someone answer the door naked. He said he got the same question, and no, no one ever had for him, either. I offered to change that the next time I had the house to myself. So it wasn't quite the unplanned scene the movies make it, but we had fun anyway.

We tried it once but there were multiple drivers and the boss wouldn't send him to my run, even though I requested him. Oh, well, the food was good, and it meant I didn't have to make a mess in my folks' kitchen, so it was worth it.

The second time we tried, he was the only driver. I had just come from a run, and missed the fact that he loved a musky, sweaty guy, which means that I answered the door wearing nothing but the towel I had used for my after-run shower. He followed me in to the house and set the pizza down while I sat at the counter and signed for it. Then he opened my towel and got to business. After feeding him my cum, he said he couldn't stay because they'd be looking for him (it didn't take long... I'd been prepping in the shower), so we said goodbye and off he went, while I got to eat the pizza. I left the country soon thereafter, so we never got together again.

@vnemerald:

I stopped counting after 20, which was probably 4-5 years ago (I'm 26 now). Definitely over 50 by not, don't think I've reached 100 yet though

Wow!

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@nickys1177:

mostly those classic boys of corbin fisher like brent. cody, lucas, cade

Why do you refer to them as classic boys?

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Internet, gay saunas and sex clubs have taken over, but I am pretty sure public cruising is still happening, just not as much anymore

Reminds me of the two gay guys who went to the zoo one day. As they are admiring the animals, one of them notices the gorilla. "Oh", he says. "just look at that magnificent beast. I've always wanted a man like that to give me everything I've always wanted". The gorilla hears this and pulls him into the enclosure and gives him everything he's always wanted.
Three weeks later when he has been let out of intensive care, his friend visits him and asks "Are you hurt"?

"Hurt!" the injured party exclaims. "He hasn't written, he hasn't visited, he hasn't sent flowers…...".

When I was a TOTAL PIG, and before the days of the dreaded disease, the Orgy rooms of the Thermos Night Sauna, and the Cockring Club in Amsterdam. I'd be there until throwing out time, blinking into the sunlight.

Yes once.

1. A retired Ballet dancer (sorry no name), retired about 15 years at the time. No need to out him as he is very out, in fact I'd say he was never in. LOL
2. We were both staying at a friends place. He for two weeks , myself for two nights, separate but connecting bedrooms, Bathroom in between. First night before retiring for bed, he made it pretty obvious that he was interested. I left my connecting door ajar, and he took the chance to come into my room. Of course I was naked on top of the bed.
3. He took off his gown, to reveal a fantastic dancers body, and a very hard thick lengthy dick. slid onto my bed, kissed and fondled me. He didn't have to get me hard. wonderful skin and amazing tone. plenty of sucking muscle play, rimming (fantastically muscled and tight butt), requests from him for me to do things, and a long session of horizontal jogging in various positions around the bedroom for about 2 hours plus. Tidied up my bed and we slept until woken up by our host, who knew we were together as he tried the dancers door first and had no reply. Showered together, dressed separately, and went downstairs for breakfast to be called sluts by our host.
4. Yes we repeated the next night, but without the bother of having to leave the door unlocked. Never met him after that, but I hear from my friend that the dancer occasionally asks after me, and that he is in a great relationship. This was in the late 80's btw.

I was with a guy, when he called the asshole "boy pussy". The sex stopped immediately because that term is about as bizarre as anything else.

I agreee with you on this. Should be very careful nowadays. I always try to pose as that too. As I told someone and everybody knows where I am. So I kinda get the idea of using something like this. But not during a day lol. The worst that happened to me was guy not coming lol. But the danger is there and it's real.I didn't have a situation like you but been with guys alone of course. Sometimes it could've been a trap or something so I'm always suspicious but what saves me too probably is that I'm also very cocky. If someone is like "what if I tried to kill you" I'm like "you can TRY, but you don't wanna see what happens".

No but I was close to try with one of his acquaintances. My family and friends were drinking at a place and my family decided it was time to go home. I decided to stay with my friends and the rest of the people there and this man told me he could take me home later. He was married and in his late 40s and I was 18. I thought he was really hot, every time he greeted me by hand shake. My dick would awake. His arms are big and hairy with big hands. And his handshake is strong. His chest is so hairy too. When it was time to take us home he took some of my friends and I for a ride and then drop them off first and me at the end. When we were alone on our way to drop me off, he said he wanted to buy some more beer and if it was ok to go there first. He bought them and asked me if I wanted one and open one for himself. I said yes of course. Then we had more beers and went for a ride listening to music, talking and stuff. Then he started talking about sex and my dick got hard. It was about women but still. Then he asked me if I had a girlfriend and I said no. And then he goes, How long has it been since you had sex? and I was like oh not too long ago. Then he says he hasn't for a few months and that he is tired of his wife and wants fresh meat but it's hard to find girls who wouldn't cause trouble with his family. I wanted to say what about some gay guy out there, they are pretty slutty. But I couldn't, I was so afraid of a remote possibility that I was seeing things wrong back then. I just said oh I see and swallowed some saliva. I was so horny but I couldn't talk much. We then stopped by for more beer and then he says It looks like piss, did you know some people drink piss? it's supposed to be therapeutic. Then he goes have you ever tasted it before? Then I said oh no that so disgusting. In my mind I wanted to say No but if it's yours I'm happy to do it. Then when we were getting home he stopped to car to pee and then he peed right beside me on the passenger side. I could see his big wet semi hard uncut cock peeing. I wanted so bad to get out and suck it, but I couldn't. I was terrified. He then drop me off and I jerked off thinking about him all night. I still do sometimes. I recently saw him on a grocery store wearing shorts, sandals and wife-beater with his family. I could see his hairy big body, I pictured his big uncut cock under those shorts. I got so turned on. He is in his late 50s now but looks amazing I sort of regret I didn't do anything back then because it's pretty obvious to me that he wanted sex.

That sucks. I get it. It seems to me like you both saw the relationship differently. No matter how perfect he might be, if he didn't like the relationship, it's over. Mourn the loss and get better, because becoming more obsessed will only push him further and hurt you in the process. It's better to see that someone is not for you sooner than later. I also think it's natural for us to get lost in a hopeful dreamy future. But I think it's a good idea to keep ourselves in check about the reality of our relationships. Sometimes our desire to love someone is projected on someone who has nothing to do with that love, which might feel weird for some people. I think some people might perceive an affection that isn't in sync with the relationship as unbalanced and might scare them away. Being closer to the reality of our relationships is pragmatic, you can build a better organic relationship, don't scare people away and don't hurt yourself in the process. I understand that this isn't a come cry on my shoulders type of comment, but I really do get it and hope you feel better soon and learn from the process.

My boyfriend has a lot of pre-cum. It's like a constant drip. He uses that as our "lube," usually rubbing the head of his penis all over my hole. Finger me a bit, add some more pre-cum, and I'm good to go. He enters slowly, and my ass ends up dripping with pre before he's balls deep!

@warpaint:

@AimlessThund:

warpaint, I am sorry about your experience.  :hug2: That guy sounds really superficial. :blink:
What if you for example gained or lost weight.. :crazy2: Would he have ended things because of that?  😕 You are better of without him and people like him.
I guess everyone is a bit superficial, but I don't understand how a "small" penis could be a deal-breaker.
I could understand if it's a micropenis, but 15 cm is more than enough, especially if it has girth.

Aww cute, thanks. I don't understand it either. Mine is a little over those 15 so not big, but I fucking love it. It could be bigger but at least I can fit it anywhere without lube and guys noticing I'm trying to fuck them hahaha. And I though this guy is a decent one…
So it doesn't matter for you guys. But there is a lot of dudes on grindr who won't even talk to anything under 21 cm. This is so funny. At least I know who to block.

I find that people have distorted perceptions when it comes to penis sizes.  :cheesy2: I bet most have not seen a 21 cm penis, since a lot of men are not completely honest about their size.  :blink: To be honest I don't understand why you would even want to talk to someone who only cares about penis size.  :crazy2: I mean.. That's such a limited way of thinking.  :cry2: There are more important things when it comes to a relationship. 😄

@Mcjl:

Like blow jobs are my thing. But hate when cum gets in my mouth. Is that weird ?

It's not weird, it's just what you prefer. There's nothing wrong with that. You should only what you feel comfortable doing.  :cheesy2: