@cale:

Ok so this happened tonight…going through the usual hookup aps..this guy has a  profile im interested in so i kinda 'woof' at him letting him know im interested. We go on to trade pics and he says hes into domination and is a top - that's fine with me as I am a btm. We talk about what we would do...he tells me to wear a zip up hoodie with no shirt underneath, shorts and no underwear and ankle socks. I tell him I'll get ready and douche and to get the condom/lube ready. He tells me to not wash my pits...and yes they were smelling ripe after a long day at work.

So I clean myself down there and msg him again getting ready to head down. All of a sudden he asks these questions which I found kinda alarming..let me know what you think.

First he asks, "are you taking transit or a car?" Then, "is your number a Vancouver number?" Finally, "is it ok if i tie you up and blindfold you?"
After seeing these questions I thought to myself...wtf am I getting myself into!?! I asked myself, wouldn't a killer ask there types of questions? Also he wouldn't send me his 'location' but preferred to type it out instead even tho I asked him to do the former.

My other question is..who here has trusted a complete stranger to tie and blindfold them up? I don't think I'd ever be comfortable letting a complete stranger do that to me. Thanks for the replies.

P.S. I didn't end up meeting him cause while douching I kept getting the urge to go even after I finished douching so I told him and he got upset and thought I was just playing with him and decided to block me saying, "Then don't fucking come. I hate when people lie."

creepy but did u find this could your fantasy too? lol

I definitely advise against it unless his wife knows he's on the down-low. While I would have done it when I was younger, trust me since I'm older now and (hopefully) wiser. Unless his wife is OK with this, you're helping someone cheat on their wife. As you get older, you'll only regret it.

I've always thought it depends a lot on the person's emotional maturity, but I can hardly conceive it happening before being 13-14 years old. For me the keys are:
1- Do it with someone who you trust/feel a connection with. It's pointless to do it if you don't feel confortable around the other person. I'd say it's better if it's someone your age, especially while being a teen.
2- Try to be as best informed as you can (i.e know about how protection methods work, which ones to use, proper hygiene, the importance of lube and playtime…)
3- Communicate how you feel to the other person, do not keep your fears to yourself
3- Do not rush it, especially if you're dating someone that pressures you to have sex when you still feel scared about it.

I don't think he can have sex with so many guys, maybe only chat online.

When I was a teenager, I was with another guy in a stall at the bus station. Just we about to pull our pants down, I look up to see this grown man looking over the stall wall at us. He was smiling and said "go ahead". I was so shocked and embarrassed. My friend and left quickly.

Just go ahead, then you will know your real thoughts

Never been into toys. Never seen the point of them, when there are enough men around with the real thing.

Kinda nice pics, although I tend to have more interest in guys that post up less 'posed' photos and more natural photos and then if getting sent more,  in a number of different places or outfits, if they are all the same place in the same outfit then my mind begins to doubt if they are from the guy i'm messaging.

Don't send the butt pics, unless you're specifically asked for it, I mean you don't wanna give all the goods away too soon. If its on Grindr, then I guess 80% are time wasters wanting wank bank pics!  Also, on Grindr be as blunt as possible with what you want, like  'looking to fuck a juicy ass right now'  I hate it when I message a guy with an interesting if slightly vague profile and find he's just there for the chat and isn't clear what he wants or what he doesn't want.

I'm not sure about the race issue that people are bringing up, I've not really experienced it in that way.  I'm a white guy and do like a bit of variety in my sexual partners.  I mean I don't just read one book over and over again or watch just the one tv show over and over or eat just carrots for every meal on every day. Variety is a wonderful thing,  make the most of it before it's too late.

Not sure which one it is,, but if it is anything like this one it's called "anal beads"

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wear condoms still. it prevents HIV not other STI

People have but he's an online guy and y'know, he won't admit cuz he might alienate female or conservative viewers.

Just seeing if there's a finely tuned gaydar guy out there who can tell, hehe

Sorry but I've known too many who lost their lives to HIV to trust just a tablet to protect myself if I was to have sex with a PREP tab.

I still have blood tests annually for HIV. Going to a clinic to get the all clear and to be asked about my sex life, partners and sex health and to be given a clean bill of health matters to me.

As to orgies? Not for me in practice but I do like the fantasy of one.

Monogamy doesn't work for me. To each their own.

I did eat something once in high school  :crazy: and no I would never do that again.
I don't really care if someone else wants to drink or eat in a restroom tbh, however I found the idea of drinking (something/anything) hot… ♥