Posts made by tnjdude

How old are you? If you're older, porn is sometimes easier to get an orgasm from because you're in full control of yourself. It sounds like you're younger though. So I'd say that since it's bothering you enough here to bring it up and ask if it's a problem, then it most likely IS a problem.

People can get addicted to porn. When you orgasm, your body releases hormones and chemicals, and they have an effect on the brain. This can be addicting. Also, our brains and nervous system is such that certain thought patterns and neural pathways get strengthened with use. It's like a musician learning to play the guitar. By constantly doing the same action over and over, the neural pathways get strengthened and it's easier to trigger them with less conscious thought. Certain ways of thinking act the same way. If you keep thinking in certain ways, you reinforce that type of thinking in your brain by strengthening those pathways. If you keep watching porn, you get into that habit and your brain keeps naturally going towards it.

I suggest forcing yourself to take a break from porn. Or maybe start by not masturbating. Look at porn, but don't masturbate. Then get together with your boyfriend and have a go at it. Try going for a couple days without porn (or masturbating) and try to stick to it. If you want to be more intimate with your boyfriend, think of things that you'd like to try that may be different and exciting and then bring it up with him. Order some toys maybe and have him use them on you. Maybe sometimes even watch porn together.

You have a boyfriend, and you both like sex, so be open with him about it and look for ways to make it more exciting for both of you.

I definitely advise against it unless his wife knows he's on the down-low. While I would have done it when I was younger, trust me since I'm older now and (hopefully) wiser. Unless his wife is OK with this, you're helping someone cheat on their wife. As you get older, you'll only regret it.

Oh man, the most risky place I ever did it was on the sales floor of a department store. One side of the store had large area rugs. They were on racks that extended from the back wall like pages from the spine of a book. There was a large rug hanging in front of them, going from floor to ceiling. The sales manager was cruising me, so we went behind the hanging rug and in between the ones on the rack (we were invisible to anyone unless they actually walked up to the rugs and went behind them) and had sex. I was barely out of my teens and much more foolish then. We didn't get caught, and it was actually pretty hot, but VERY risky.

My two cents…..

I normally go with trusting your instincts. Sometimes people are insecure though and their instincts may be their own insecurities, but you have a lot of valid signs that are giving you gut feelings, and I think you should start trusting them. As to how to address it….

Honesty is the best policy. That means being honest with yourself and honest with him. At the end of the day, when all the cards are on the table, you can at least know that you were being honest and acting in a trustworthy manner. Checking his phone is something I'd avoid. If it comes to the point where you feel you need to snoop into his phone, then the damage has already been done and there's no point in lowering yourself like that. I would suggest not even questioning his actions since you've already done that, just decide what it is you want to do, and then say that's what you're doing. If you want to just resort to being friends, say so. If you want to fully break up, just say so.

I broke up with my 2nd partner after four years. I loved the guy, but our relationship turned into one where we became more friends than boyfriends. He was living with me, but spending his weekends with other friends. I was financing things for him, and I just decided enough was enough. I sat him down and said that this wasn't the type of relationship I wanted. I wanted an intimate relationship. I told him that it would be up to him how to proceed. If he wanted to be boyfriends, we'd be boyfriends, but he'd have to stop acting like he's still single. If he didn't want to be boyfriends, then we would part amicably. I thought this through and told him to think about it for a week. I still loved the guy and decided laying stuff on him out of the blue and expecting an immediate answer wasn't something I would do. I wanted him to be able to consider what I said and then come back to me with an answer. He did and we broke up.

I'm in my third relationship right now. My first relationship lasted 24 years, and then the love of my life died suddenly. I always believed I could have done some things better, so in this relationship, having the advantage of age and experience, I've decided that I would always be fully honest. I never say or do anything unless it's something I'd be comfortable admitting. That's why I keep stressing honesty. Be honest with yourself and learn what it is you want. Be honest with him in telling him it's what you want.

Best wishes to you.

You can get it on Xbox, PS4, or PC. I got mine for the PC from Steam. I have to say, I greatly enjoyed the game.

It takes place in London in 1918 during the Spanish Flu epidemic. You're Dr. Jonathan Reid, a notable doctor and blood specialist who has developed a new technique for blood transfusions. The game starts with you waking up in a mass grave, everything is hazy, and you soon discover after killing the first person you come across because of your unbearable thirst that you're a vampire. Throughout the game, you try to find out who it is that made you a vampire and why they just left you. You befriend the administrator of a local hospital, and being a doctor, you work there to keep the local population healthy. There's outbreaks though of creatures called "skalls" that are related to vampires, and you're trying to figure out why they're becoming such a problem.

The voice acting is top-notch in this game. The various accents properly denote the class of the people you interact with. More refined people have a much more dignified and reserved manner of speech, and the lower-class people have accents and vocabulary typical of the working-class people.

The game is unusual in that you can't save the game as you progress through it. You pick out a slot at the beginning and throughout the game, your progress is automatically saved. Any decision or action you make is one you'll have to live with. There is also no difficulty level. How hard it is depends on how you play it. If you feast on civilians, you get more experience and can access higher-level skills. If you want to be a good little vampire, you can make sure most or all of the people stay alive (you get some experience for curing them of their ailments), but you don't get the experience and later levels are harder. But every citizen has their own story and their own quest and social circle. You kill one, and you close off some interesting story quests. Associates of that person you kill will also be affected, and you may close off their quests and story as well. Also, if you don't cure people of their ailments, they can die, and if enough people die, a whole section of the city goes to ruin as everyone goes into hiding, you lose all quests there, and the streets become filled with vampire hunters and monsters.

The difficulty gets weird though. I played as a good vampire and didn't kill anyone. It was VERY hard to progress through some levels. The monsters and vampire hunters I'd come across trying to get to a boss were so high above me that I'd have to try a dozen times before I'd make it to the boss. But then I'd find the boss only moderately challenging.

Still, the story, ambiance, and voice acting were VERY nice. And the main character is rather nice to look at. He's tall, thin, bearded, with a hawkish nose and hard angles and dark looks. I like that appearance. And his voice acting was PERFECT!!!

If you're looking for a different experience, this is one to check out. It's not like the big-budget AAA games, but the developer knew it couldn't be and put a LOT of effort into making the characters very compelling. And they succeeded.

FFXV is one of my more favorite games. The story needed a bit of tweaking I thought. Or rather, how they portrayed some things within the game. There were a few points where you found out something happened offscreen, and you wanted to know how it came about. It would explain some character motivations better. But still, it was a nice story, the graphics and world were excellent, the voice acting was great, the combat was fun, and it was just a really great game.

I played a lot of games, but I never enjoyed a group of characters more than I did those four guys. They really felt like four good friends. The decision to have the team already existing and the same throughout the game (with a couple of minor diversions) was a good one. It made you much more emotionally invested in them.

Gladiolus from FFXV. He was damn fine! I even played through the DLC add-on so that I could unlock the option to have him shirtless.

A few games had me getting emotional. Final Fantasy 10 had my eyes watering at the end. Final Fantasy 15 was very emotional at the end. I thought that game had one of the best emotional payloads. It's still one of my more favorite games. The Mass Effect games brought some good emotions out in me because of the great voice acting.

Hi. I'm TNJDude. I'm just a middle-aged guy from NJ. I apologize for not stopping in earlier. I only just realized that there was a forum included on the site. After decades of being on the internet, I'm chagrined I didn't think about it earlier. <blush>Anyway, it's nice meeting all of you.

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