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It sounds like he likes to be a dominant person when it comes to sex.  The first few times was him getting used to you; now that particular phase is over, he feels like he has more free reign to participate in the rougher sex in which to exert dominance and territoriality.

I can see two sides to this, one I see as hypothetical and the other I side with.  The first being that you do like the rough sex.  In that respect, you should speak more openly about it with him to distinguish certain boundaries of what is and isn't kosher during sex.  With any sexual relationship, deep conversation is key while avoiding the superficial responses.

Secondly, and one I side with, is that he has gotten comfortable with having sex with you and is now exerting his more innate dominant side.  Based on his comment of wanting the world to know "you're mine", I find that to be rather disconcerting.  I would have a conversation about it in a public place and insist it be made there if only for your own safety.  If he continues to refuse or gets overly hostile, then that's a humongous red flag to plug up your ass and take it somewhere else.  Even if he is into dominant-submissive sex, there are boundaries that both parties recognize and respect; he clearly does not respect your boundaries.

My overall advice here is to not approach the topic with rose-tinted glasses.  When asking the questions, listen to what he is both saying and not saying.  Oftentimes, people sidestep questions or artfully leave out particulars that you were hoping be answered.  If you feel too attached or are in the "but I love him" phase, please take a mental step back and view the picture as a whole.

As a sidenote, I had my share of one-night stands when I was in college.  I was fucked by this one guy a few times; he was okay and normal with his style.  After a few times, he got too comfortable with me and started getting kinda dominant with me; refusing to let me cop a feel of his dick to make sure there's a condom and stuffing his fingers in my mouth or even covering it.  The last time we did it, I talked to him about it beforehand and he said I signed up for it before stuffing his barely lubed dick into my ass and practically raping me.  Gave him the surprise of his life, though; lifted his 200+ body off the ground with my 115 pound self to the point he was forced to get off lest he fall and alert his neighbors.  He immediately had me leave.

Point of that side note, don't settle for having your sexual boundaries continually being broken.  Make your thoughts known and get away if things don't change.  And don't be afraid to defend yourself if it's needed.

Hey guys,

Thank you for your advice, turns out you were both right. Even though I decided to continue our relationship for as far as it could go it seems that it ends in bitterness.

Long story short, we kept seeing each other and engage in fantastic sex, but also a deeper connection was evolving. He kept sending me double messages, but I could understand that he cared about me more than just raw sex. One time, he said to me "I need you more than you need me" and he cuddled with me until we fell asleep. I did not respond.

So during our last meeting I decided to open up about my feelings and said that "I am starting to fall in love with you". He said "you should stop doing that" (stop developing feelings for him). So I drunk a lot and it ended with me in tears in some sort of meltdown. He left the house. The next morning he send a message asking how I was feeling after drinking too much. I replyed that I am OK, and this was our last talking.

I understand by our talks that he has a vision for his life which cannot include a m2m relationship or romance. Even though I feel a little sad about the way things ended up, I was expecting that this is how it would end.

Once again thank you for preparing me for the future that would come.

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body vibration machines, electronic ab stimulators etc.
Has anyone tried them. Does it worth spending money on them?

Taking a walk would do more for you and wouldn't cost anything except wear and tear on your shoes.

@nikolaos84:

Hi guys

Does anyone use anal sprays insted of lubricants?
They are supposed to relax your rectum so as intercourse becomes painless. I have tried them a couple of times and I must admit anal sex becomes much easier.

I worry though if they are safe to use, especially with condoms. Does anyone know sth?

We only use lube or only my husbands precum as lube. Never tried spray.