Posts made by nikolaos84

@kalayaan Yes, the Unruh Civil Rights Act prohibits any business in California from engaging in unlawful discrimination against all persons (consumers) within California's jurisdiction, where the unlawful discrimination is in part based on a person's sex, race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, age, disability, medical condition, genetic information, marital status, sexual orientation, citizenship, primary language, or immigration status.

Apparently the judge decided that the baker's right to religious freedom and "artistic" expression overthrows the non-discrimination act.

By digging a little to the case, I find it important that the baker was represented pro bono by lawyers of a conservative coalition. Also, her case was capitalized by conservative media as a victory of the "moral" people over the sinful.

If I was in a similar position, I don't think I would have brought the case to court. In my view, if a baker does not want to sell me a cake I am going to the next one...the baker loses a client and I support a more tolerant bussiness.

However, I am not happy with this decision. Freedom from discrimination in the provision of services is very importnat and this decision paves a road: now it is a baker, next it will be a restaurant and a hotel, next it will be a doctor , next it will be discrimination in the employement and so on....and suddenly we dive in a new wave of intolerance. This decision sends the message that we do not deserve the same amount of respect in society.

@trevor613...I am not sure I agree with you. Just because we are not persecuted in some countries does not mean that we should be compromised with an incoplete form of equality. We deserve to be fully equal and be respected in the society that we live and contribute. This is not something that was granted to us as a form of charity. We fought for it for so many years.

Finaly, even though I can understand the need to balance religious beliefs and non-discrimination in the provision of services, I cannot fully understand how making a cake for a lesbian couple can interevene in somebody's religious practice. It is just businness and it would be more prefereble if someone could keep his religious beliefs outside thw business environment.

I don't think that men become bisexual due to women become aggressive and/or repulsive against men.

Bisexuality is an orientation, a person's ssexual identity. You either are or are not bisexual and this has nothing to do with external factors, such as women's attitude towards men.

The existence of many bi men in your city does not come as a surprise to me. In our days, people are more eager to explore their sexuality and be open to their feelings. Also many LGBTQ people prefer to live in big, more tolerant cities, rather than small conservative towns.

This is also the case for me (Athens, Greece). You will find more bi people in Athens than in small towns which are more homophobic and biphobic.

Here are some questions that need to be answered first:

1. Are you sure he is gay? nothing in your description mentions that.

2. Are you sure that he is over the age of consent? realy you need to be extra careful about that.

3. Suppose that he is gay and legal. Had he any sexual experiences before? The answer to this question leads to a different approach.

Now, approaching him depends on many factors, for example how open he is to older guys, the environment and social cycle etc. If you the town you live is a small town, and not very gay friendly, this could have severe consequences. 18 is still considered too young by some parents and it may cause drama.

Check his social media status and try to figure out were he stands. This is a good and safe start.

Again, be sure that he is over the age of consent.

I like the idea of gangbang with me as the bottom. It is a fantasy I have and I like gangbang pon.

I had a some sort of gangbang in the past (me and 3 top men) but this is the maximum I can get. In reality I am afraid of doing a gangbang with more persons. I am not very well "trained" to recieve so many dicks at the same time, I am afraid of accidents and pain.. Seriously I am not sure how many porn stars are able to get this through

I watch porn every day, but when I go to my parents' house I can stay without watching porn for more than 20 days.

I also have a big porn collection stored in my hard drive but not 2 TB

I have a profile on romeo

I had sex with married men and multiple partners

So you decide the level of my addiction

Yes I have heard that, an ex boyfriend had this kind of fetish and proposed to me, but I could not suscribe to that

str8 men that have sex with men? this does not makes sense.
I had sex with several married men who identify as str8 but they are so eager to have sex with a man. Well they need to accept the fact that they are bisexual if not gay at all.

Generally speaking, my experience with married men did not leave me with good memories. Yes sex was hot sometimes, but their identity issues does not let them be totaly relaxed.

Also, it pisses me off when most of them express homophobic opinions which I find both hypocritical and intolerant.

In conclusion, I have decided to avoid those kind of men. Why? I feel that they are selfish. They think that we exist only to please them, but when it comes to equality they are against us.

It is very sad that you are involved in such a difficult and risky situation. I believe that maybe you should consult with a lawyer (find a friendly one) and conisder the possibility of legal action.
Also check if there are organizations and NGOs that provide support to victims of abuse and ask them if they can help you.

It seems to me that he wants to be st8 but he cannot ignore his natural urges for men. Sooner or later he may come in terms with his sexuality but that should not be your concern at this momnet.

I had a similar experience which did not end well. If you can stay in the safe zone of sexual encounters then it is ok but if you have feelings it is better to take your distance from him. This guy will never accept you as a central part in his life, he does not respect you and he refuses to give you his phone number. You will only be a fringe part of his life and he will come to you only when he will want sex with men.

There are many men out there who would be more open and available for you, don't be disapointed.

I also agree with the opinion that if a man has sex with other men, then he is not st8 and there is at least some degree of bisexuality. I have noticed however that the "str8 fantasy" is very common among gay men so whatever floats our boat.

I have met and had sex with many men who refused to identify themselves as gay or bisexual. What I have detected is some sort of guilt to them as they consider that sex with a man makes them lesser men.

As far as pleasure is concerned, there were times that sex with those men was truly amazing, but there were also times when it was horrible.  I have noticed that that insecurity about their sexuality (thinking that gay sex makes them lesser men) drives them to be more agressive which can be a turn on at times.
However most of them refuse or cannot show any sign of emotion, they treat you like a tool, they do not seem to care if you enjoy them and some of them also try to pretend that you are some sort of woman (for example, refering to me as a "woman" or having a "pussy"). Those are major turn-offs for me.

I also believe that people who consider sex with straight men to be better by default are aroused mostly by the "turning a straight guy on fantasy". I understand that the idea that a st8 guy would be so attracted by me that he would bend his sexual orientation for me is so arousing that makes sex more pleasurable.
This is the reason that there are so many "gay for pay" porn actors. They exploit the "straight man who fucks men" fantasy.

But we must be aware that this is just a fantasy. We are not actually "seducing" str8 men, as they are not completly str8. They just refuse to label themselves as gay or bisexual. Thus, having sex with those men does not make us special. We are not that irresistible. If it was not me, they would easily fuck another guy easily. In fact, I couldn't help but notice that those men are more eager to have sex with men than gay guys.

There is a big difference between fantasy and reality. I have been fantasising about being gang raped in a prison or military. I have also read that the rape fantasy is very common in both males and females.
Porn exist to exploit these fantasies. But porn does not depict a realistic situation. It is edited to be viewed as very hot and arousing. Reality however is different. Being sexually exploited without your consent is a crime it is not pleasant, it is violent and it has nothing to do with porn or what you have in your mind.

On the Caledonian Sleeper train from London to Edinburgh

Hi guys, I think I need another dating advice,

Here is the story: I met a guy and we are sort of dating. To begin with, sex was great.  Going to bed with him was exciting and fun.
However in the last few sessions, he became different: he bites me very hard, living marks on my body, he squezzes me very hard (sometimes i have bruizes) and during penetration he becomes very agressive to the point I almost cry.

I don't mind sex being a little rough, I enjoy it, but he crosses my lines very often. Last night for example he bit my lips so much they bled.

I asked him "why do you like hurting me?" He said "This way I know you are totaly mine"

How do you think I should handle it? When we are NOT in bed, he is pleasant and loving and gentle. So what is going on?

I am secular thinking but recently I was dating a devout Christian. His religious beliefs were so strong that ruined any potential we had as he considered  what we were doing as sinful and unatural. Sometimes he even cried after sex.
So yes religion, can cause a drift if someone is very fundamental about it and cannot reconcile his religious beliefs and his attraction to men.

As far as race is concerned I don't see any problem, only if there are some racist tendencies in the family or social cycle of the couple. But it is up to the couple to reconcile any differences.

6 , definitely a 6

all the time except the days I sleep at my parents home or I have friends in my house for sleepover

In my opinion a st8 guy cannot be aroused by another man. If he is turned on then he is not 100% straight. There is at least some degree of bisexuality.

Hey guys,

Thank you for your advice, turns out you were both right. Even though I decided to continue our relationship for as far as it could go it seems that it ends in bitterness.

Long story short, we kept seeing each other and engage in fantastic sex, but also a deeper connection was evolving. He kept sending me double messages, but I could understand that he cared about me more than just raw sex. One time, he said to me "I need you more than you need me" and he cuddled with me until we fell asleep. I did not respond.

So during our last meeting I decided to open up about my feelings and said that "I am starting to fall in love with you". He said "you should stop doing that" (stop developing feelings for him). So I drunk a lot and it ended with me in tears in some sort of meltdown. He left the house. The next morning he send a message asking how I was feeling after drinking too much. I replyed that I am OK, and this was our last talking.

I understand by our talks that he has a vision for his life which cannot include a m2m relationship or romance. Even though I feel a little sad about the way things ended up, I was expecting that this is how it would end.

Once again thank you for preparing me for the future that would come.

Hey pal,

Those fears are so common to all of us that bottom. I don't have much more advice to tell you that you probably you already know.
Regarding the pain, lube is your best friend. I also have a very hot shower before sex to relax my muscles and one drink or two may help. On some occassions I use anal sprays which relax your muscles and you feel no pain at all.

Regarding the mess, it is important to understand your body and how it works. You are in better condition to know when is the best time to have sex and if you can have it without any unpleasant surprises. A diet full in fibre usualy helps more and I personaly keep my food to minimum if I know I am going to have sex at night (I prefer to eat a few apples and a cereal bar). But again you are in better condition to know what you should eat or drink. I have a friend who likes to have a milkshake or sth before because it helps him clean his bowels.
In any case, this is part of the play and whoever has sex with you must know that this is a possibility and not sth to be assmed of.