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After working at a Mexican hole-in-the-wall in my late teens, I refused to eat anything Mexican for upwards of ten years.

However, that changed when I met a very dear friend and we started to eat at a Mexican restaurant in the town where she lives.

I love burritos and they're easy to make at home, but I really intensely love these black bean and corn enchiladas Trader Joe's stock…they're so delicious. They've been out for the past few months but now they're back in stock, and I can't get enough! A good enchilada goes a long way.

Tamales are fantastic too though.

I agree, it's as insulting and offensive to assume that there's a way to "act straight" as people assume there is a way to "act gay".

Frankly I tend to get a bit more annoyed at the gays who are so fascinated with what they assume are straight boys in sexy situations, and treat them as superior to gay guys who are okay with themselves and who they are. You see this all over the place: actors, creators of all kinds, musicians…even in porn. It's pretty much exactly the same as the mindless fratboy fantasy of hot lesbians...who don't like guys but would be okay with YOUR dick. And even that fantasy is framed by basically a caricature of "straight" that pretty much pushes the lines of "so conspicuously attempting to present as hetero that it comes off as homoerotic". I think that's what a lot of guys who obsess over "straight acting" and "gay acting" miss, which is why they pretty much always come off as artificial and immature. They're constantly trying to prove how masculine and manly they are, without quite realising that they're just basically pretending on a false premise to begin with.

Musical tastes, diet, physical appearance, hairstyle, facial features, dick size…none of these have anything to do with your orientation. And really, maybe people's assumptions are so sophomoric because it's treated as 'you're either x or y' -- there's no understanding for anything differing from either a pussyhound or wanting to gargle cocks endlessly. No middle ground, no variation.

Nico

That's a pretty remarkable ass! Though I must say, a lot of TV actors seem to have cultivated similarly bubbly derrieres in recent years. It's like you can't be an actor without a bulbous butt these days.

Kudos – I've never heard that before and I will totally admit it made me laugh out loud!

If you must, trim. Shaving requires so much maintenance and is very likely to lead to skin irritation, which is not only very uncomfortable but also usually highly unsightly, destroying just about any aesthetic appeal you may have in mind. It's much better to just trim and manage the hair than it is to have a bumpy, irritated crotch, and most people aren't lucky enough to avoid it.

Like some of the other posters have said, it takes a lot of preparation to avoid ingrown hairs (which are not only unsightly but PAINFUL) or persistent skin irritation that can last for months. Even if you manage to avoid that, you still have to maintain the shaving, and all the time and trouble is just frankly not worth whatever benefit you had in mind.

Er, ignore the one telling you to 'get a life or play sports' – I don't know what that guy is on.

Tea tree oil is great. Trader Joe's, if you have one near you, carries a face wash that is superb for preventing and treating acne. I inherited my mother's combination skin and it helps immensely with stopping acne breakouts or blemishes.

Diet can help, but it's important to know what aspect(s) of your diet may be the major cause. The skin is an organ like all the others. Skin problems may just mean that your body is trying to get rid of waste material it has no other way to dispose of, so it is definitely advisable to look at what you're putting in your body and maybe think about improving your diet.

Try to avoid touching your face too much. Fingers are terrible about picking up oil, bacteria, and various other substances you don't want on your face. Wash your hands regularly.

Avoid applying oily lotions to your face, in general. If you wear any kind of makeup, be sure to take it off as soon as possible when you're done with it. Never sleep in makeup. Some people can also be sensitive to using things like hair spray, which can clog pores on the face, so you might want to wash your hair and face after you're done with your style for the day.

Keep your face away from oil steam. If you're frying anything and there's oil and steam, it can be really bad for your complexion. Deep fryers are the worst for this, since they atomise the oil and other substances, which then become airborne. There's a reason why people tend to smell like fryers if they spend any time at all around them: it gets all over their skin and the fabric of their clothes. If you are around something like this, wash as soon as possible and change out of those clothes. You don't want that against your skin for any length of time if you can avoid it.

Try to keep your stress levels manageable. Stress is devastating for health, and that means that people more prone to acne breakouts will be more likely to develop them in situations of long-term high stress. There are also a lot of other things made worse or caused by persistent high stress, so please take care of yourself!

Basically, prevention is far better than treating the symptom, which is the acne. There are plenty of over-the-counter creams, ointments, and other solutions. I recommend washing your face regularly, though of course don't overwash it. If you just change a few things and mind a few other things, you should see some improvement with just a little easy here and there damage control.

Hope this helps!

I don't recommend shaving it. Trim it if you must (and it's good to keep it manageable in that way), but shaving it tends to lead to skin irritation, itching, and a lot of discomfort as it grows back. It takes a huge amount of trouble to maintain, and it's just overall not worth it unless you happen to be naturally almost hairless, in which case it's probably not going to make a huge difference in the first place.

Unless you're dealing with pubic lice – in which case shaving is only one step of many to eliminating the condition -- there's really very little incentive to shave your pubic hair. Get a trimmer instead and just groom it if you feel the need and have the spare time to dedicate to keeping it shaped the way you like.

It frankly doesn't matter at all.

It's in how it's used. If it's that much of a deal-breaker to someone, 90% likely they're not very good at sex in the first place.

I think a lot of people get obsessed over something that's different from most of what they've seen, so that's why you have so many people of a certain age obsessed with uncut dicks, or you have people that live in a place where circumcision is uncommon, so they find it different and alluring because of that. That's usually exactly what it is.

It doesn't change anything with regards to sex. You can't even say that sensitivity is that appreciably different with every person, just make generalisations that tend not to really take the individual into account.

Everyone has made great points here. Something I'd just like to add is, you can't really assume that just because someone shares an orientation, they all think the same about beauty or attractiveness. I can say with absolute authority that is simply not true.

Even if you're just looking for sex or hook-ups.

It is true that, without a doubt, you are someone's pinnacle of beauty.

Every single person is someone's idea of a dream come true.

I used to not think this…but when I thought about it, I was making judgements based on pretty superficial qualities and trends in the first place rather than analysing the data logically.

My first experience at a major BDSM gathering taught me otherwise, but it's not just a kink thing, though I tend to find that kinkier people tend to have a broader range of their ideas of attractiveness.

Also, a lot of people -- not all, but I'd say probably most -- tend to have different ideas of attractiveness as they grow older. They're not hormone-addled, sex isn't as mysterious and alluring and all-encompassing, and personality and other traits are more important, as well as appealing on a number of levels.

But no matter what, you can always guarantee: there are always going to be people out there who find you attractive more than just about anyone else on earth. No matter how down on yourself you are, you are someone's ideal.

People full of themselves, which they've hidden up to that point. It is remarkable how sexual interaction brings out the absolute worst in some people.

'Landing strips' or pubic soul patches – it's horrible. There is no-one on the planet that this doesn't make look like a douche. It's not sexy. And while you can steer clear of people who have one on their face, by the time you're naked and mid-makeout, it's harder to beg off to 'use the bathroom' and just never come back.

Though I guess if you still have your shoes on, you could do the whole 'I cut my heel before and my shoe is filling with blood, I really have to go' thing.

Bodily functions happen. I mean, if you're a mature adult, you kind of need to understand that if you're shoving something in someone's ass -- which is how a lot of people fuck -- there will probably be noises, smells, and substances that aren't going to be your favourite thing in the world. If you don't want that, just watch porn and fap. There's nothing wrong with that. But I've known a lot of people that have extremely unrealistic ideas about what happens during sex.

Just...consider what parts you're dealing with here.

News flash! Not everybody likes anal.

Intercrural is a lot of fun and a good way of being intimate. It's also really safe and people have been doing it that way for millennia. It's always funny how obsessed people get with just one type of sex…boring!

Give it a try and see how you like it. You have pretty much literally nothing to lose. It doesn't have to be something where you're 'not ready for anal' or whatever. It's sex like any other kind: you get together, you get off, you have fun doing it.

I am not fond of the beach – as has been mentioned, sand gets everywhere and it's not as fun as you might think to have sex on the beach. It's one of those things that's great in fantasy, not so much in reality -- I still can't believe it's also the name of a pleasant drink! In reality, it should be something that looks pretty but when you drink it, it's surprisingly uncomfortable.

Still, I guess a tent in the forest wouldn't be comfortable either if you have a phobia of slasher films. You'd always be hearing 'ma ma ma ki ki ki' out there.

All kidding aside though, a tent is way more pleasant because you can actually add some degree of ambiance to a tent and you're also not having to worry about the only thing between you and an extremely uncomfortable landscape element being a relatively small piece of cloth. Said landscape element also often takes to the wind, making it virtually impossible to stay comfortable on a towel.

There are just way more options in a tent and in the forest.

Things have definitely changed for me, and I think that's true for most. When we're young, we're literally surrounded by no end of shame and fear, which basically govern modern society – it's how they push almost everything. And not gonna lie -- a lot of young people on the scene are pretty shallow and finicky, but I think that is in large part due to the fact that they're experiencing that same fear and uncertainty.

Nowadays, I'm pretty laissez-faire with regards to sexuality and sexual expression, fetish, kink, et cetera. Something may not be for me, but I don't have a strong reaction to most things. As long as it's consenting partners, even if it may not be for me, I just kind of feel like...whatever! But even speaking personally, I've more or less entirely stopped being ashamed of things turning me on, whether or not they're widely-embraced.

I think it's a sign of maturity, really. You grow up, you stop being so afraid about being judged by people who don't matter in the first place and never did.

In the days before widespread high-speed internet, I think most of us were limited in terms of what we could access, so the suggestive models in underwear were prime material. Still, even now they have underwear models in online catalogues…not to mention kinkier intimate wear that they weren't able to put out in a free mailer all those years ago.

I'd guess it mostly depends on the age and internet availability of people who answer. I can't imagine most these days would have the same experience, but maybe a comparable one with different formats.

A million dollars for a simple adult film? Clean and tested and all?

Fuck yes!

What idiot wouldn't? It's not like it's any risk whatsoever for a ridiculously huge compensation. Grin and bear it, even if you never do another one, you've still profited from the one you agreed to do so much that you never have to do anything at all for the rest of your life! Who cares?

He's okay.

He has an athletic body, which I'm sure is more than enough for plenty of people to love him.

But if you're asking for an assessment through images only, none of which particularly indicate any element of personality, then I don't really find him attractive.

Usually I sleep in underwear of some kind, typically boxers, and a t-shirt. It doesn't usually get cold enough to wear pajamas except for sometimes in the deepest parts of winter, and I'm a heatbox anyway. I've pretty much always worn the same thing to bed all my life.

Honesty, open communication, and equality are crucial in any relationship, no matter how many people are involved in it; I think the concept of a relationship being just between two people is silly. Not because I don't think it works – plenty of people are fine with one-on-one relationships -- but because it's been used to define the whole concept, when in reality that's not how many or even most people work. There's a lot of very unhealthy jealousy promoted by the misconception of relationships, as well as the objectification of partners, as if they're possessions instead of people.

That said, of course I'd participate in a relationship not limited to two people, as long as the requirements for a healthy relationship are met.

I've never heard the term 'throuple' though, and I think it sounds asinine.

Hi there gents!

I want to thank you all for being so kind and welcoming to me. I am always so happy to have your support and your readership.

I just wanted to ask you, if I might, if you might help me with something.

I've already mentioned this on Incubus Tales, my comic, and on my tumblr as well, but a friend of mine is in very serious need of dental work. An infection is threatening his life and he can't afford insurance.

So, rather than risk losing him, I have offered to give him all I can. This whole month of June, I am offering a discount on sexy commissions, sexy custom artwork, from me! You can even get a non-sexy formal commission and just grab a sexy sketch or something, and I will give you a discount on the total! A large portion of the proceeds from this whole month will go to my friend.

I love him like a brother. He is straight and celibate, but he has supported my career, my art, my dreams, and he is a regular reader of Incubus Tales. He has done so much for me, and I can do nothing less for him. At a time like this, our friends and loved ones who are straight but not narrow are even more precious.

So I would like to let you know about this. I'm happy to give you references, and I'm very quick and professional with my work. My rates start from $10-15 for a digital sketch in black and white and increase with complexity from there. If you are interested, or if you have any questions at all, please don't hesitate to message me here or write me at my email at hushicho @ gmail dot com (you know what to do with the address!). I will get back to you as soon as possible!

Thank you all in advance. Gaytorrent.ru is such a wonderful community. Even if you can't or don't want to participate in the commissions, if you could spread the word to friends…I am very open-minded and I have a lot of interests, and I respect the interests of my readers and clientele!