@ChicanoDag:
Hey there, JerodParker.
Thanks for the comments
@JerodParker:
Good answer. Good job, dude
But I hope you're still available to your neighbor as a friend cuz he's probably in a troubled state right now and does need someone who will listen. Whatever happens to him, be it he realizes he's bi or it becomes an open marriage or he swings or whatever.
BTW, you're married? You ended saying you're bisexual but you didn't mention you're married to a woman. Do you have children?
My home is open to my neighbor. And when he's ready to come over, I'll be here. But I really think it should be up to him. He'll come over when he's ready. Maybe he'll never be ready.
Yup, I'm married. Known my wife for 20 years. Been married about half that. When we met we hit it off. She actually hated all men. Figured all men were rapist. Thought alcohol made men violent. I know I fascinated her. Three months after we first met we moved in together. Been living as a married couple since then. During those first 5 years, I asked her to marry me. Several times. She always turned me down. Then I happened to be hospitalized. I was unconscious when I was wheeled into the emergency room. Legally, my mom was my next of kin. Even though we weren't talking, even though we hadn't seen each other in years, she got to make all the medical decisions. And she excluded my future wife. Wouldn't even let her come see me. After I got out of the hospital, she asked me to marry her.
We wanted to have kids. Tried for years. Finally went to the doctors. Found out we were physically incapable of having kids. It was painful. Still is. I think I would have made a good dad.
Aw, I understand that. I have to live through my niece and nephew concerning kids because I won't have my own either.
I don't know when you can see your neighbor again in a social setting. Halloween has passed. Perhaps in Christmas? I do hope you'd try to approach him first, tell him how things are between you two and he doesn't have to be afraid of anything, even if he is or isn't. He sounds like a macho, type 1 type and perhaps there's a way to mend the bridge without both of you losing face.