Posts made by hatrick

I'm 'e' but I'm also 194 cm tall which is 6.3 feet so I have a mental issue right there lol.

I think these are good resources and the guy asking the question should absolutely read it all. But I wouldn't say it's the scenario 100% meaning it might stay in the current phase. Maybe he just likes the dominance (in a sexual way) because he's gentle when not having sex. But yes keep your eyes open and don't let it become a problem. If it's too much for you in sex, seriously tell him you don't want your every sex to be like this. Or no sex like this at all. And that you're compatible in life but not in bed and in a relationship you need both and let him go if you think abuse is a must-have in sex for him.

@BEAUJONES:

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I am a Board Member and former employee of a Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Shelter and Services organization.

He doesn't get off on hurting you. He is testing you to see if you will let him gain power and control over you. This is how classic Domestic Violence starts. They start of testing you to see if you will take it and they can get away with it. Pretty soon he will start taking power and control in other parts of the relationship. He will start wanting your schedule. He will try to gain control of everything from your finances to when you need to be home to serve his needs. The violence will escalate, and if he is doing it this early on imagine what he will be like later.

And the only time someone should hurt you during sex is if it is a mutually agreed upon scene that both want to take part in with a safe word, like suggested above. The sexual abuse will likely escalate along with the physical violence.

Please get out of the situation as soon as possible. Don't be afraid to go to a shelter if he gets threatening and ask to use their services, including an advocate, should you need a stalking order, or restraining order. He already is saying "You're mine." This is a telltale sign that he sees you as something he owns or see as an object.

I wish you the best, and please do reach out to get help.

I was held at gunpoint, beaten and tortured by an ex for 5 hours. I ended up going to my organization as a client. They had never had a gay man come in before, and they welcomed me and got my input on how to develop programs for LGBTQIA. It ended up  with something ugly becoming good. I want you to skip the ugly and go right for the good.

Drop this guy. You have better things ahead. Don't let him ruin it.

I have attached a couple of resources that might be helpful.

I think sleeping with a married guy just once is ok but if it becomes regular then that's weird. Also about the affair thing - his girlfriend might be open to it as long as it's not another girl he sleeps with haha.

Every gay guy would like to know the answer to this question me including lol. I have no clue. My guess is that it depends on how long a guy didn't wank off, how much testosterone he has, his background (if there are prejudices it'd be more difficult). I guess it's doable especially if they didn't have a girl in some time. Some guys in prison fuck each other because there are no girls afterall.

Just a hookup. I was a 17 y.o. top, he was a gay soldier in a small town. It was ok but not special at all. We actually met once before that but my attempt at sex failed. Second time was the charm and then we met a few more times. Now 12 years later he still occasionally writes to me on whatsapp but I'm not really interested anymore.

Mine is "e" but because I am a tall guy at almost 6.4 feet I have a complex because of my size and I am very unhappy…

Love song to the Earth (collaboration song between more artists). It´s such a great song  :cheesy2:

Link anyone? And I don´t mean that slideshow.

@RectalTemp:

@987654:

Is this something any one else has gone through?

Yup, been there, done that, got several t-shirts. :poorthing:

Love this, thanks for the story :).

@Spintendo:

@hatrick:

I have read some reviews and the book doesn´t seem to be good.

Review from Stephen Hemrick:

Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men
by Jane Ward
NYU Press. 238 pages, $25.

The title of Jane Ward’s book is not meant to be ironic. Her argument is that while sexual activity between straight white men (SWM) does take place, it doesn’t mean that the participants are gay. The book is about exploring the circumstances under which this situation can be said to arise.

http://www.glreview.org/article/swm%E2%80%88looking-for-same [/nb]

Okay, that´s a very nice review. I have read plenty of shorter reviews and most people don´t like that book that much. But the author of the review said it himself. This books is unlikely to give us "closure" on the matter. It´s just complicated.

This is definitely a great discussion. I think you all have a point. But I believe there are straight guys who are not afraid of sex with men (even gay men) as much as gay guys are afraid of sex with women. Maybe it´s just their attitude of being able to overcome any obstacle that not as many gay people have (from my point of view). Also there was this article on reddit where supposedly a straight guy was sleeping with this older gay guy just for the money (he have him tons of money and they were both okay with that). He answered many related questions honestly. Also, my straight friend (straight?) who likes girls (obviously from his Tinder and Badoo behavior) said that if I was super rich, he would absolutely want to date me (can you imagine how depressed I was after that because I like him so much haha).

No. Czech Republic.

@987654:

Hi, GT forum. I'm new here, sort of.

And, I figured, we could get semi-serious for a second as I ask an important question. How do you deal with that one friend who is straight, but you find them really attractive? For the record, I'm male and in my mid twenties. I'm talking about my best friend, who I actually just came out to a month ago. He's fine with it. But, I really struggle because I've always been attracted to him. I really value our friendship and wouldn't screw that up.

Is this something any one else has gone through?

I mean, I can keep it under control, but I sometimes glance at his biceps or whatever and I don't want him to notice and jeopardize our friendship.

I am afraid that if you are that much into him and have to be under control, then the friendship is not really that much of a friendship? :blink: I have a straight friend who I really like and he knows that very well cause I told him maybe three times that I would definitely do something with him anytime he would be interested and he said if he was gay he would date me but he really is not (and I know that for sure when I see his Tinder or Badoo behavior haha). So just be honest if he is really your friend. Otherwise he is just like a pal you hang out with sometime…

I have read some reviews and the book doesn´t seem to be good. If you read it, try doing so with a pinch of salt and more like a sexual fantasy than an educational material :). I wish as much as you that my straight friend would do stuff with me but let them decide for themselves what´s good for them instead of trying to convince us/them through some books that they want to have sex with us  ;D.

Nice but would be even nicer if you posted more pics in various "sessions" 

@durexxx:

fetishes: feet,sweaty hairy ass , spitting ,slapping ,dirty talk ,black socks ,armpits ,smoking ,hands and thighs i guess this is enough

share yours :)))) :closet: :surprise:

Hairy ass, black or white socks (only half way between feet and knee, nothing else), armpits. Combined with younger sporty guys, some spitting and some domination, this makes me come.

And thanks guys for all the advice. This forum is definitely a great source for this stuff. Never before did I hear honest or educated opinions about whatever issues. God bless you all!  :crazy2:

@John1978:

I have had some luck with this… but it's really awkward after.
My mate and I were a bit drunk and he started talking about what it would be like etc.
He ended up fucking me which was a bit further than I planned so be careful what you wish for!
We are still mates, but it's a bit strained. . .

Sounds like you regret you did it. But he fucked you and that´s something most gay guys wish they could do with their straight friend at least once (I wish that a lot especially with my one straight friend). It would absolutely be worth the awkward moments after but not worth to lose a friend (though he is not my best friend by any means).

Never did except giving a BJ to a straight friend when we were 13 or so lol.

But I really like my straight friend (just physically) and I am myself good looking (he said if he was gay he would date me). He does not have a GF and has sometimes issues getting their attention probably because he is not good when talking. He even installed grindr just for fun and sometimes makes fun of guys there (I know…)

He is pretty obviously straight and assured me about that but I think there could be at least a tiny bit potential to do some fun stuff and I would take it as a personal achievement if we did something  ;D. Do you have any tips? Should I just mention that other straight guys like to do some stuff like others described in this thread so he feels more comfortable about doing it? We are talking about stuff openly so it should be just fine.

Of course I don´t want to date him, just some tease and fun cause I like his appearance so much.