I'm 'e' but I'm also 194 cm tall which is 6.3 feet so I have a mental issue right there lol.

I think these are good resources and the guy asking the question should absolutely read it all. But I wouldn't say it's the scenario 100% meaning it might stay in the current phase. Maybe he just likes the dominance (in a sexual way) because he's gentle when not having sex. But yes keep your eyes open and don't let it become a problem. If it's too much for you in sex, seriously tell him you don't want your every sex to be like this. Or no sex like this at all. And that you're compatible in life but not in bed and in a relationship you need both and let him go if you think abuse is a must-have in sex for him.

@BEAUJONES:

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I am a Board Member and former employee of a Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Shelter and Services organization.

He doesn't get off on hurting you. He is testing you to see if you will let him gain power and control over you. This is how classic Domestic Violence starts. They start of testing you to see if you will take it and they can get away with it. Pretty soon he will start taking power and control in other parts of the relationship. He will start wanting your schedule. He will try to gain control of everything from your finances to when you need to be home to serve his needs. The violence will escalate, and if he is doing it this early on imagine what he will be like later.

And the only time someone should hurt you during sex is if it is a mutually agreed upon scene that both want to take part in with a safe word, like suggested above. The sexual abuse will likely escalate along with the physical violence.

Please get out of the situation as soon as possible. Don't be afraid to go to a shelter if he gets threatening and ask to use their services, including an advocate, should you need a stalking order, or restraining order. He already is saying "You're mine." This is a telltale sign that he sees you as something he owns or see as an object.

I wish you the best, and please do reach out to get help.

I was held at gunpoint, beaten and tortured by an ex for 5 hours. I ended up going to my organization as a client. They had never had a gay man come in before, and they welcomed me and got my input on how to develop programs for LGBTQIA. It ended up  with something ugly becoming good. I want you to skip the ugly and go right for the good.

Drop this guy. You have better things ahead. Don't let him ruin it.

I have attached a couple of resources that might be helpful.

I think sleeping with a married guy just once is ok but if it becomes regular then that's weird. Also about the affair thing - his girlfriend might be open to it as long as it's not another girl he sleeps with haha.

Every gay guy would like to know the answer to this question me including lol. I have no clue. My guess is that it depends on how long a guy didn't wank off, how much testosterone he has, his background (if there are prejudices it'd be more difficult). I guess it's doable especially if they didn't have a girl in some time. Some guys in prison fuck each other because there are no girls afterall.

Just a hookup. I was a 17 y.o. top, he was a gay soldier in a small town. It was ok but not special at all. We actually met once before that but my attempt at sex failed. Second time was the charm and then we met a few more times. Now 12 years later he still occasionally writes to me on whatsapp but I'm not really interested anymore.

Mine is "e" but because I am a tall guy at almost 6.4 feet I have a complex because of my size and I am very unhappy…

Love song to the Earth (collaboration song between more artists). It´s such a great song  :cheesy2:

Link anyone? And I don´t mean that slideshow.

@RectalTemp:

@987654:

Is this something any one else has gone through?

Yup, been there, done that, got several t-shirts. :poorthing:

Love this, thanks for the story :).

@Spintendo:

@hatrick:

I have read some reviews and the book doesn´t seem to be good.

Review from Stephen Hemrick:

Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men
by Jane Ward
NYU Press. 238 pages, $25.

The title of Jane Ward’s book is not meant to be ironic. Her argument is that while sexual activity between straight white men (SWM) does take place, it doesn’t mean that the participants are gay. The book is about exploring the circumstances under which this situation can be said to arise.

http://www.glreview.org/article/swm%E2%80%88looking-for-same [/nb]

Okay, that´s a very nice review. I have read plenty of shorter reviews and most people don´t like that book that much. But the author of the review said it himself. This books is unlikely to give us "closure" on the matter. It´s just complicated.