That last post made me wonder, what would happen if he asked you to be a third in a threesome?
Anyhow,, yeah, wait a while, like maybe a month or so when Christmas hits. The festive mood might put things in your favor and it can't hurt with the time passing for him to analyze how things are.
If my next suitor did that…I would be quite pleased for sure :clap2: :clap2:
I read your post and immediately thought of this story I have bookmarked as a happy reminder about the nuances of falling in love and declaring relationship status:
As fellow posters have stated, you have to be patient. The bright side is that once you wanted a commitment he didn't run for the hills immediately and continued to hang out and spend time with you. To me that is a greater indicator of one's true interest in commitment as opposed to the title itself. A guy who wants to be with you will make himself available. You've told him where you stand in the relationship so no need to bring up the topic for a while or worry about a white elephant in the room, unless you are expecting him to commit. If and when he is ready, he will tell you. Just be there, enjoy the moments, and don't fret about stuff that is out of your control.
It's about the journey, not the destination!
As a side note, How you will feel if you become aware that he is sleeping with other men while seeing you. He may or may not exercise the chance; however, it could happen and are you prepared for such an outcome. If that is an absolute deal-breaker for you, then you must consider whether things can continue as is. You shouldn't settle for less than you deserve but you can't expect him to commit when he's not ready either.
I know falling for someone can come fast and unexpected 
But once start making changes to the dynamics of a relationship, it's about reaching a mutual compromise with the person each step of the way or parting ways to find someone else who will be the right fit for you.
Eventually, there will be a time where you need to re-examine the direction of your relationship… BUT! In the meantime, really focus on the positives, enjoy the ride and continue having lots of sex!
I'm not opposed. As a former smoker, who has a cig or two when out drinking heavily, it's not that big of a deal breaker. I do like the fact that my clothes don't reek of smoke, but after traveling through Europe, to me, it really isn't that a big deal.
Plus, I do find smoking to be erotic at times. Hooked up with a guy who wanted me to service him while he smoked. That was a hot time!
I fall in and out of love with the game. I enjoy playing singles for the competitive drive; I love playing doubles for the social aspect. I get excited and want to play during the Grand Slams but then get suckered into another sport or activity.
I love :love: :love: :love: Venus Williams :love: :love: :love: and super proud of what she has accomplished in recent years after her diagnosis. Amazed and inspired by her competitive spirit and continued desire to win tournaments when she could easily retire and focus on less physically demanding activities. I really don't like Serena at all (but I do applaud her accomplishments).
Not a big fan of the men's side, particularly since the pipeline for American talent hasn't produced anyone really worth rooting for since Andy Roddick. Jack Sock :drool: seems to be the current American player trending up though. Plus, I really only watch the men's side to see if any of the players are hot :masbana:. I'm more prone to watching full women's matches than men's.
I would say British over American.
The vids by Liam Cole from TIM are mostly my favorites from that studio because many of the group scenes are reflective of a hot Saturday night in Vauxhall or Clapham.
And then guys from Triga Films… fuck. so. hot. I knew someone from Leeds and every time he wore a Fred Perry polo or track pants/sneakers I nearly died. Add that with his Northern accent... A shame he had a boyfriend though.
Although I much prefer German/French the most but that's a different topic altogether.
Thanks for the info
I abandoned my quest not too long after I posted my rant. I figured the incremental gain of compiling FFmpeg with that library was not worth the effort. Compiling is definitely a viable barrier to entry for noobs like me who don't really know how computer software really works haha.
So just happily converting my videos using the basic build. I suppose this detour in video editing/formatting was just a distraction from my earlier project of cataloging the collection.
I had this insightful post lined up earlier while under the influence (yet focused!) to QCDelight's commentary and exploring current issues in gay social norms and such. I'm glad I didn't post it because I started to sound like a cynical, bitter old queen.
Ultimately, the only way to combat these fears of loneliness is to work towards strengthening your own character and to not undervalue or overvalue your self-worth in the community. Don't settle for less than what you deserve, be honest with what you want, and don't be a douchebag and treat others like crap. Set the example and someone will take notice and be interested. But never expect an outcome because any manipulations made to increase your chances will taint the results.
In this era of swipe left/swipe right/who else is nearby mentality, it's all about instant gratification and a continuous and vicious cycle of social ladder jumping. I'm guilty of perpetuating the cycle and basking in the glory of thrill of the chase, but easily dismissing the reward once achieved. The grass is never greener on the other side. It's just that people are not honest with themselves about what they want and they play all sorts of games to rationalize their behavior and avoid facing reality. Oh and #FOMO. No one wants to be left behind.
It's not easy taking control over your own destiny and life, but it needs to be done if you want something that badly. Relying on chance (or worse, someone else) to make you happy is naive and lazy.
I have a friend who is always playing the "woe is me, I am single, nobody loves me/thinks about me" tune. He's in his 40s, average looking, but a very nice guy. Every major holiday (or every month or so), he hosts a pity party on Facebook about how he's not invited to parties or doesn't have someone to cuddle on a snowy night. At first it was kind of endearing (barely), but I refuse to coddle him and further promote him being a victim to single status. A mutual friend and I text each other when we see yet another sad FB status update and groan about his unchanging behaviors.
While I can empathize with others feeling hopeless about finding love in today's gay society (which is completely fucked up in many regards for various and obvious reasons), I have no sympathy for those who lament and don't take control over their love life and do something about it. There is someone out there who is going to like a high percentage of what you offer to the table. But you can't rely on Grindr, Scruff, or any social app to do the work for you. At some point one must take ownership over the journey and to not let things fall to chance or in someone else's control.
The cards are stacked against a majority of people dating today. I don't consider myself to be in a category of people most sought after by a majority of men in my city. I'm in my early-mid 30s, and have had 2 serious (short-lived) relationships. Been single for over 3 years now and content with it. Sure, it is nice to have a BF (or at least someone who will plow me consistently), but it's not in the cards for me right now and I don't really have the energy to go through the mental gymnastics to find a boyfriend who isn't an idiot or glued to scrolling on social media apps for immediate attention. I need to overcome a lot of personal hurdles in order for me to even consider being someone's other half. But until then, I won't worry about feeling sorry about myself for being single.
Maybe I will die alone. Maybe I won't. But I'm old enough now to not let it consume my ability to live a life worth living. I am enough until I meet someone who makes me believe wholeheartedly otherwise. [and hopefully before I become too cynical and rebuke love when it smacks me in the face (or his dick)]
besides, it's football season now! (LOL)…
GO CHIEFS! :cheers:
The Bears are beyond help if they keep clinging onto Cutler to be the savior of the team. :cheesy2: Oh well :crazy2: As long as I don't have to hear the words Tom Brady, NE Patriots, and Superbowl mentioned in the same sentence I am all good on football.
Now to catch up on Big 10/NCAA Women's VB now that baseball season is done :cheers:
That was the most nerve wracking, gut wrenching, roller coaster of a game last night. So proud of the Cubs! Especially my husband, Ben
Zobrist (omg I wish right?).
Although would totally bang
Joe Maddon, David Ross and/or Jon Lester in a heartbeat.
[RANTING HARD] I am quite ready to bash my head against a brick wall. I should probably just give up and move on, but the urge to complete the task at hand will not go away. I am making strides towards the end product but FFS, I wish I was more computer programming smart to know what I am doing…
So, my journey into torrenting led me to using FFmpeg. I have maybe opened the command prompt like 5 times in my life. Using FFmpeg is cool and I like it better than using Handbrake to convert stuff or to make modifications to videos. I can't even remember trying to install it the first time (which probably took a while because I think I had to find a website that had step-by-step pictures) but got it to work eventually!
So in recent days I have been intrigued by this whole libfdk_aac (because it sounded interesting when I was looking up audio encoding). Oh...I need to compile FFmpeg since it's not a standard library... how hard can that be right?
Whoever writes scripts/creates installers/does anything to help brain-dead people like me to install software...thank you for making it easy. Seriously. I'm like on day 3 of trying to figure out how to still get a build of FFmpeg with this friggin libfdk_aac installed.
I have probably downloaded like 12 pieces of software, sifted through countless Google searches finding answers to any error messages I have received, I probably would understand more if I knew particular nuances or just had a basic level of understanding of how software works. So quite a lot of trial and error & reading has led me to this point of frustration.
I'm going to figure this out if it friggin' kills me. :nutki: :balls2: /endrant
Now to go find some porn to alleviate the stress from this silly project 
:dick:
Well… Actually I had sex with my dad when I was a teenager. We started when I was 14 and ended when turned 18.
He had a very fibrous body, but not overly muscular.
He had developed arms and that does not allow him to wash his back. So he asked me to help with that body part. At first I was very shy, limiting myself only to scrub and rinse. Eventually I went down to his buttocks that were very hairy, also his legs. Never let me see the front.
Until once I turned and then I realized that he had a huge erection.
At that point I lost the little sense I had left because my brain was awash in testosterone, and without thinking twice I took his piece of meat into his mouth. I gave him a blowjob so delicious that ended in a few minutes, and my mouth filled with his semen. That was the beginning of our sexual adventure ...
Hot!! I have really been into reading a bunch of dad/son stories on the Nifty archives lately and many true/fictional stories have shower/bath time as a precursor to such fun as you described. Now i just need to find someone to do some hot daddy/son roleplaying haha >:D 
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I just gotta say…..
GOOOOOOOO CUBBIES!! :love: :blownose: :love: :crazy2: :afr: :hug:
But wow, Kershaw got knocked around and Hendricks was divine. 4 more to go Cub Nation! :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:
Oh, the Cubbies will work their magic against your bullpen :crazy2:
The Dodgers are going to down faster than me on a Friday night at the ABS! :cheesy2:
But seriously, Kershaw is a beast. We have to tap into your bullpen early for the Cubbies to win Game 6. Thank god I don't live near Wrigleyville cause it will be a hot fucking mess when they win the pennant :cheers:
Well, I'm certainly will take time to read all the links that you shared with me.
The thing is that I'm currently having forced holidays bc I'm not gonna start college until January of 2017, so these past few weeks I only had been jerking off (like 4 or 5 times per day) and watching TV shows or movies. I was actually scared that doing it too much per day would do a harm to my dick or the capacity of getting hard.
And that's why I stopped doing it since the beginning of this week, but… Idk. I guess that I'm still confused.
I doubt there are severe long-term consequences to jacking off that many times, especially for a young person. I definitely was that horny from 15 onwards. Perhaps only performance anxiety when having sex (maintaining proper stimulation to remain hard or to cum) can be attributed to porn overload, but then it's more psychological than physical.
Lately, I've been getting into edging so make my jerk off sessions from quick cums to a long rollercoaster of fun :cheers:
Go Cubbies!!!!!!!
Minor setback last night but we shall prevail!
I don't know…
The series might not even get back to Chicago.
GO DODGERS! :cheers:
Muhahahahah| Actually, I can't even watch the games…I'm too fucking nervous. Glad the Dodgers got spanked last night though :cheers:
Another +1 to UK NHS service. I had the worst case of Gonorrhea and I couldn't walk the pain was so bad. The time I arrived at the A&E up until the moment of release (which was the next day after having to stay overnight), I was taken care of quite well. Doubt I would have received that standard of care back here in the US. Although I was living in SW London where basically every stop along the tube has a GUM clinic nearby :cheers:
And yes, please test regularly! I contracted syph a few months ago. Those penicillin shots right in the ass hurt like a mofo.
I have abstained from sex for a period of 10 months before. There is no way in hell though I'd give up PMO for like a day. :cheesy2:
Although I think I recall a friend of mine giving up sex/jerking off for lent. Thought he was crazy but the lengths some people do to please a Jesus or two.