I went on a date last week with a guy that talked about nothing other than gay this and gay that and gay gay gay , i thought i was going to fall into a catatonic state of sheer boredom , how banal must his life be? surely one can do things and have activities that is not gay FFS , suffice to say i found out how to place calls and text messages in a spam list on my phone and utilised it.
Whilst it would be remiss of me to say i don't look at aesthetics
what I look for in someone i want to be with is personality and not physically based
these are a non negotiable
articulate ( intelligence is relevant, a fish cannot be a lion and vice versa ) , honest , must no lower my self worth
passionate , humble, passionate and caring .
Im 40 , but i dont look my age , i never really have , which is both a blessing and a curse , especially with ID's and Clubs thats me typing this post away
im a tad confused from the topic header , acts in public really shouldn't take SOP establishments into account as that's what they are for , but if you mean public as in the true sense of the term then that's something that i do not agree with regardless of sexual orientation , even overt displays of affection are a turn off for me , there is nothing worse than being on a tram or train on my way home wondering if the guy and girl or whatever is trying to suck the face off the other person or its the beginning of a Zombie apocalypse and there i am thinking they are just pashing ( making out really intensely)
where are you , if you're worried about naming your nation you could say something like MENA , which is basically the new term for the Middle East and Near Asia meaning Arab Nations and Turkey.
Secondly being a part of any society ,or clique is going to be hard , too fat too thin , too black white Asian or not enough is always going to be an obstacle of some sort, and whilst I admire the it gets better approach , as a mental health professional , it can be a phrase that's not always psychologically safe for your mental well being and is intrinsically western-centric , it doesn't take into account other cultural norms its easy to say it gets better in an environment like San Francisco , London Melbourne or Sydney but it really isn't something that helps in places like Oman or Dubai for example. I don't know you so i cant help you help yourself , all i can really say is be yourself , be safe and make intelligent decisions , if you need to be on guard ,especially if you're in a nation that is violent against non heterosexual people then act accordingly, and ,if you get a chance to change your surroundings to a more suitable and slightly safer environment then do so.
of course you can i dont buy into either groups , the religious that say you cant be gay and the gays that say you cant be religious
if you want to have a relationship with G-d then have one , you don't need to follow an organised religion to do that.
i was born into a Turkish multi faith home were my father was Muslim and my Mother is Jewish from very early on i was taught respect of faiths and people , of course you need to see why homosexuality is forbidden in a historical context , that is , that the Torah Bible and Kuran are texts that governed way of life at that time , and the most important thing was to procreate , ergo a ban on acts that did not create life , one has to remember its not just man on man or woman on woman sex that was frowned upon , but all sexual acts not leading to procreation.
if you believe , then dont let your same sex attraction force you to choose anything in life , ever.
your sexuality and gender preferences do not define all that you are and believe in .
Just as I don't need to apologize for having and expressing (albeit in edited format) my opinion or views.
I cringe, no, honestly I fucking die a little more inside (poke me in there and see I am pretty much dead anyway) with the amount of judging and blaming that goes on in what allegedly should be my community. Don't worry Muriel you won't need to roll your eyes or clutch your pearls or recoil in horror. My irresponsibility with regards to how I contracted the plague is totally my responsibility and I don't try to shift the blame on to anyone else nor do I offer up how it happened for you to deem whether twas a worthy seroconversion. One of the ways I take ownership is by offering myself up to the Mengeles of the world allowing them to pump me up with their experimental therapies and giving my very life essence over to them on a regular basis in the hopes that others may benefit from what is clearly my lack of concern for my own health.Take comfort in the fact, like everyone else on this nasty piece of rock, I will die eventually.
Next up on the docket, judging apples, the cause of man's descent.
If worrying about another human being is judgemental , then so be it , im judgemental
if trying to educate younger gay men that just because HIV may not be a death sentence , and that pills are available ,the who cares if you get it attitude is not fine
I dont take comfort in anyone dying , i have a lot of HIV+ people in my life and i care for them all , i would like however, for the lack of a better term , Gay youth , to wake the fuck up and realise that you still need to protect yourself , and yeah so what if i am horrified , a human being should care about another human being.
and Mr Mazda to answer your question ..for me personally undetectable is not safer sex , i will always use protection.
honestly, I cringe when i see sex ads on apps from guys you know the profiles that when you read between the lines is like…
hey im a slapper with an arse that is open to more traffic than a 7/11 store , but ya know i only bareback with neg guys so its cool
cringe worthy , I could say "oh well its their own lives", but unlike the US , people in Australia subsidise 90% of HIV medication
I lived for 11 years with an HIV positive partner who contracted HIV via molestation he always hated the fact that he was HIV+
he always said he wished that he could have dodged this bullet and would nevereven entertain the notion of risky sex knowing what he knows now
he would tell me some stories of when he would speak to gay youth for NAPWA , that used to make me roll my eyes in horror.
I just don't understand the blasé attitude of people who bareback , why should your irresponsibility for your own health be a burden on Medicare ???
I'm not going to apologise for being hard line about this ,and Ive been to many a funeral of older gay men that i have looked up to as role models, however they contracted the illness in the 80's before education about prevention , im not sure about education in other peoples neck of the woods but in Australia a lot of money is invested in HIV education in schools in public places , on bill boards and its not teaching abstinence either as ive read they d o in America, its teaching people gay straight or otherwise to not be ignorant and teaching different methods of safe and safer sexual practices
Ive over heard young gays guys in the club that i work in talking about it so casually, as if the meds are no big deal if you do become HIV + its really perturbs me.
i cant even count the number of times ive had to watch my ex doubled in pain from cramps , diarrhoea nausea and that's just side effects of the meds , im not even gonna list the anguish you go through as a sero-discordant partner staying by your partners side in hospital for 24 or more hours wondering if this bout of the flu that they have been smacked around by is going to evolve into p.c.p or some other HIV opportunistic infection.
selamlar arkadaslar Avustralyadan ;D
