Is it racist to post that you're not interested in black/asian/other non-whites?
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It's 100% racist. I think anyone who attempts to say that they are disinterested in a whole race of people is more racist than they'd like to admit, and is trying to make themselves feel better about their blatant disregard for a whole race. Think of how many times you see "no black" or "no asian", and then think about how many times you've seen "no whites"… The difference is quite obvious.
That's just an anecdote. We've all had different experiences. I live in a very mixed neighborhood in NYC and it's way more common for me to see black guys who are only into other black guys than any other kind of hangup. Just because you have not seen the same thing doesn't really make it a universal trend.
Every time someone says they aren't interested in a whole race, it's almost always people of color. Are people trying to imply that whites are better looking than everyone else? Does that imply that whites are better than everyone else? Doesn't that sound kind of racist to you?
Not really, like I said earlier, I see poc with non-white preferences ALL THE TIME. Having a preference =/= you hate that race or think it's shittier than yours or will mistreat people because of their race.
I myself don't typically date people of the same race as me, and neither has my boyfriend. However, we both have talked about instances of us being attracted to people of the same race as us. Yes, we both admit that they are rare instances of attraction, however neither one of us has completely disregarded a whole race as not attractive, because it's not possible to have judged every single member of a race. If you think you aren't attracted to a race, you're solely judging on stereotypes such as "chink" eyes, or big noses or big lips. If I didn't date white guys solely because I think every white guy has small lips and a small dick, I'd look pretty insensitive and ignorant, and like an overall jackass.
It doesn't have anything to do with disregarding a whole race as unattractive. I can acknowledge tons of guys who would generally be seen as attractive, whom I am simply on my own, not attracted to. Attraction is an important part of a relationship and the last thing I'd ever want to do is be with someone who's just with me because they don't want to look racist to people like you. If someone has never seen a black person they are attracted to, who are you to say they're not allowed to prefer nonblacks because they haven't seen EVERY black person there is out there?
I think it's fair to say that not everyone in a certain race is gonna appeal to you. I think it's also safe to say that members of one race are going to appeal to you more than members of another race. That's fine, not everyone has to be your cup of tea. But to say a whole race of people doesn't interest you is just ignorant. Think of how many different looking white people there are… Would it be fair to say that you aren't interested in any of them? It's exactly the same with different races.
So what about people who aren't interested in members of their OWN race? Is this also racism?… I'm personally in a situation where I'm not attracted to members of my own race (generally speaking). This doesn't mean I hate my own features, or think they are ugly, it just means I have no attraction for them.
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So what about people who aren't interested in members of their OWN race? Is this also racism?… I'm personally in a situation where I'm not attracted to members of my own race (generally speaking). This doesn't mean I hate my own features, or think they are ugly, it just means I have no attraction for them.
The fact that it's your own race doesn't really change things. You're using race as a motivation for what you find attractive. It's still just as implicitly racist as people who find their own race attractive over others.
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The word 'racist' means what again?
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The word 'racist' means what again?
Actually.. I think that's a good question.. can we at least get a consensus of how to define and characterize 'racist/racism' before throwing the term around?
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I don't like to date men of my ethnicity because I associate them with my male relatives like my dad and uncles, and that's a boner killer for me. It sounds weird but it's true.
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The word 'racist' means what again?
Actually.. I think that's a good question.. can we at least get a consensus of how to define and characterize 'racist/racism' before throwing the term around?
noun
1. a person who shows or feels discrimination or prejudice against people of other races, or who believes that a particular race is superior to another.adjective
1. showing or feeling discrimination or prejudice against people of other races, or believing that a particular race is superior to another.So based on this you cannot be racist against your own race for any reason as they are your own race.
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So what about people who aren't interested in members of their OWN race? Is this also racism?… I'm personally in a situation where I'm not attracted to members of my own race (generally speaking). This doesn't mean I hate my own features, or think they are ugly, it just means I have no attraction for them.
The fact that it's your own race doesn't really change things. You're using race as a motivation for what you find attractive. It's still just as implicitly racist as people who find their own race attractive over others.
Uhhh, this is probably the most ridiculous thing I've ever read.
And why exactly do you feel this way?.. It's almost like you've said "It's racist because I said so!".. -
Uhhh, this is probably the most ridiculous thing I've ever read.
And why exactly do you feel this way?.. It's almost like you've said "It's racist because I said so!"..You said that you weren't attracted to "members of my own race". Again, race matters to you. Something about people of your racial group doesn't appeal to you. You give others of a different race priority over others who look like you. Does that make sense to you now? Also, if you don't find people of your racial group to be "ugly", then why haven't you given them a try? I'm interested to know your reasoning because "I'm just not attracted" isn't sufficient.
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It's getting pretty heated in this forum post.
Personally, I'm only physically attracted to Asian people so when it comes to sex, I'll generally go for Asian guys (although I keep my options open). When it comes to dating or making new friends, then I don't even consider race a criteria.
If you say no to a particular race even for making new friends, then I would consider that racist as that is discriminating a race. If it's for just sex and you're attracted to a particular race/racial feature then maybe that's another case.
I honestly think it's best not to state that you're not into a particular race as that can seem quite shallow and close minded (even if you're not). But in the end, it's all up to you but I highly recommend to try mingling with people from outside your comfort zone. You learn so much and helps you see things from a new perspective :hug:
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I am attracted to certain features. Those features happen to show up more predominantly in Caucasian men. Beards, body hair, large frames, beefy etc. It's not that I find races in particular inadmissible for banging. I just find the type of guys I'm into happen to be a little more rare in other races. Soon I'm not discriminating against race. I'm discriminating against shape. Haha. If they fit the bill physically, then race isn't an issue. Does that make me a shape-ist?
I'm a slim smooth asian guy. Completely unattracted to guys of my stature.
I don't like to date men of my ethnicity because I associate them with my male relatives like my dad and uncles, and that's a boner killer for me. It sounds weird but it's true.
And 100% this. Boner killers. Once you make that association, it's never going away.
Some people have a wider range of sexual preferences. Or they don't see physical attractiveness as important as they are more attracted to the energy or soul of a person. Well good on them. I am open to friendships and conversations and personal relationships with all races sexes and religions. BUT. When it comes to physical attractiveness.. my tastes are very narrow. What can I say, I have a type?
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It's not racist per se, but choice of wording nevertheless determines how you come off.
'No X, Y and/or Z' comes off as mean-spirited and potentially offensive, since it focuses on the negative.
'I prefer A, B and/or C' is much easier to digest, whether or not you fall into the respective categories.
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It is racist in the sense of "defining something by race", but not racist in the "OMG I hate the useless blacks/asians/hispanics!!!111" sense. I think it's just as "bad" as saying "I don't like blonde/big/skinny" guys. Sex is a bodily (you were talking about having sex, weren't you?) act and you get to decide were you want to stick your dick in.
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This topic comes up on my list a lot… and I thought about it and i do think it is racist.. simply because of the following
You may generally find you are not attracted to asian/black etc men but to dismiss every single one, right now, without ever having met all of them is pure racism.. i generally do not like blondes but i cannot go out and say every single blond i have met or will meet in the future is not my type.. that's a lie.. one day i will meet a blonde i think is sexy.. and in the past i have found 1 or 2 sexy, will i actively seek blondes? No, I will not but to dismiss a blond before even seeing their face or even saying 1 word is pure prejudice
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I thought he was spot on with most of his answers. No matter how hard you try to shoe horn in a PC mindset, it still sucks for the majority and will fail.
It is not racist to not be attracted sexually to someone. That is stupid.EXACTLY - you said "It is not racist to not be attracted sexually to someone." - I agree 100% but that is VERY different to saying "It is not racist to not be attracted sexually to every single person of a certain race" - I am not attracted to a LOT of caucasian guys.. should I say "no whites"? - of course not - you said "someone" not "all people of a particular race"
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It's getting pretty heated in this forum post.
Personally, I'm only physically attracted to Asian people so when it comes to sex, I'll generally go for Asian guys (although I keep my options open). When it comes to dating or making new friends, then I don't even consider race a criteria.
If you say no to a particular race even for making new friends, then I would consider that racist as that is discriminating a race. If it's for just sex and you're attracted to a particular race/racial feature then maybe that's another case.
I honestly think it's best not to state that you're not into a particular race as that can seem quite shallow and close minded (even if you're not). But in the end, it's all up to you but I highly recommend to try mingling with people from outside your comfort zone. You learn so much and helps you see things from a new perspective :hug:
you stated you keep your options open.. and that, in my mind, means you are not racist.. you prefer asians but you are not going to completely dismiss a white guy..
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No. It's not racist. It's a preference.
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This topic comes up on my list a lot… and I thought about it and i do think it is racist.. simply because of the following
You may generally find you are not attracted to asian/black etc men but to dismiss every single one, right now, without ever having met all of them is pure racism.. i generally do not like blondes but i cannot go out and say every single blond i have met or will meet in the future is not my type.. that's a lie.. one day i will meet a blonde i think is sexy.. and in the past i have found 1 or 2 sexy, will i actively seek blondes? No, I will not but to dismiss a blond before even seeing their face or even saying 1 word is pure prejudice
same sentiment for me.
it's like saying you would never eat strawberries, while never having tried strawberries to see if you like them or not. and like the others have stated there are better ways to speak your preference and it does come off as close minded. remember these people "internet/grinder/hook-up" people dont know you personally. we only know you from what we've briefly glimpsed in said profile. then yes you gonna get called racist.
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This topic comes up on my list a lot… and I thought about it and i do think it is racist.. simply because of the following
You may generally find you are not attracted to asian/black etc men but to dismiss every single one, right now, without ever having met all of them is pure racism.. i generally do not like blondes but i cannot go out and say every single blond i have met or will meet in the future is not my type.. that's a lie.. one day i will meet a blonde i think is sexy.. and in the past i have found 1 or 2 sexy, will i actively seek blondes? No, I will not but to dismiss a blond before even seeing their face or even saying 1 word is pure prejudice
same sentiment for me.
it's like saying you would never eat strawberries, while never having tried strawberries to see if you like them or not. and like the others have stated there are better ways to speak your preference and it does come off as close minded. remember these people "internet/grinder/hook-up" people dont know you personally. we only know you from what we've briefly glimpsed in said profile. then yes you gonna get called racist.
Being called racist and being racist are two different things. And the question here isn't one of racism (that one race is better/superior to another), it's of preference.
Grinder, Gaydar, etc. are for hook-ups and generally, you know what you want for a hook up.
If you know you're craving a huge cock and you turn down the guy who says he's small, that's par for the course. If you want good sex with someone experienced and exclude everyone who's either young or just out, that's also to be expected. If your fantasy is, I dunno, a smooth Asian man then a white burley man isn't going to meet it. If there aren't any Asian men available and they wanna try the white twink who's willing, more power to them but in not choosing them they are exercising preference and maybe prejudice, not racism.
Words matter. They matter bigly. ;D
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This topic comes up on my list a lot… and I thought about it and i do think it is racist.. simply because of the following
You may generally find you are not attracted to asian/black etc men but to dismiss every single one, right now, without ever having met all of them is pure racism.. i generally do not like blondes but i cannot go out and say every single blond i have met or will meet in the future is not my type.. that's a lie.. one day i will meet a blonde i think is sexy.. and in the past i have found 1 or 2 sexy, will i actively seek blondes? No, I will not but to dismiss a blond before even seeing their face or even saying 1 word is pure prejudice
same sentiment for me.
it's like saying you would never eat strawberries, while never having tried strawberries to see if you like them or not. and like the others have stated there are better ways to speak your preference and it does come off as close minded. remember these people "internet/grinder/hook-up" people dont know you personally. we only know you from what we've briefly glimpsed in said profile. then yes you gonna get called racist.
Being called racist and being racist are two different things. And the question here isn't one of racism (that one race is better/superior to another), it's of preference.
Grinder, Gaydar, etc. are for hook-ups and generally, you know what you want for a hook up.If you know you're craving a huge cock and you turn down the guy who says he's small, that's par for the course. If you want good sex with someone experienced and exclude everyone who's either young or just out, that's also to be expected. If your fantasy is, I dunno, a smooth Asian man then a white burley man isn't going to meet it. If there aren't any Asian men available and they wanna try the white twink who's willing, more power to them but in not choosing them they are exercising preference and maybe prejudice, not racism.
Words matter. They matter bigly. ;D++1
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