Older/Younger relationships, do they survive?
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So I was wondering, there are many younger guys I've met that are dying to be in a relationship with an older guy (daddy) and I am one of them, but my question is - are such relationships possible on the long run? I always thought that it's not because most of the guys seem to be sexually attracted to daddies with hopes they've got that $omething $pecial and don't quite view their romantic-emotional side…
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In addition to the list as long as my arm of other things common in the gay community;
Ageism does exist. Younger gays usually hang out with younger gays. Older gays hang out with older gays. If a young guy is interested in an older man, there is misconception that he had father issues growing up and he wants a sugar daddy. If an older gay man hangs out with a younger gay man, it's sadly to some people seen as creepy.
Answering your question, the only reason as to why they wouldn't survive, is if people let the bullshit and stereotyping and misconceptions and the ageism take over.
Being that there are so few of us, I would take love as it comes. I wouldn't put age, body type, race, any of that into the equation. It sucks that people can't be open mined like that.
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mine does
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I doubt any relationship with a major age gap (like more than 7 years or so) would last. You'd start running into the problem of just having different priorities in life which would make it impossible to want to stay together.
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I doubt any relationship with a major age gap (like more than 7 years or so) would last. You'd start running into the problem of just having different priorities in life which would make it impossible to want to stay together.
Well…you're so wrong…
When we got together in 1982, I was 22--half his age at 44, and we're coming up on 35 years! :cheers:
However, I will admit, anybody else would've "fired" me long before now. >:D I always say, "Anybody could last in a relationship with a Bobby ("CrusaderRab")."
Here's a little history of us in some of my posts…
My “Live and Die Guy”
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=45569.msg241254#msg241254
Re: How old are you and your partner?
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=30415.msg215561#msg215561
Re: How old are you?
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=28066.msg215541#msg215541
Re: Do you cut your own hair or have it professionally done?
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=43089.msg237713#msg237713
Re: Have You Ever Cheated On Someone?
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=42780.msg221438#msg221438
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If there's a strong connection, then yes. It can.
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I've been with my partner for 8 years. We are 30 years apart, I was 18 and he was 48. It works,But a lot of work is always going to be needed for a happy and healthy relationship
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My partner and I are 22 years apart and just celebrated our ninth anniversary together. If it's love it will work.
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So I was wondering, there are many younger guys I've met that are dying to be in a relationship with an older guy (daddy) and I am one of them, but my question is - are such relationships possible on the long run? I always thought that it's not because most of the guys seem to be sexually attracted to daddies with hopes they've got that $omething $pecial and don't quite view their romantic-emotional side…
Good thought, however, look at it this way:
How many relationships last?
Every relationship has issues that tear it apart; the idea is to find a solution and make it work.Stop trying to live in another's relationship.
BTW I have had three long relationships with an older man, when I was young (16 years) and two where I am older than my partner (one of 10 and the current of 9 years and counting).
Good luck in your search, it is possible.I had to leave the US in order to find a more permanent one but that is just me.
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I've been with my partner for 8 years. We are 30 years apart, I was 18 and he was 48. It works,But a lot of work is always going to be needed for a happy and healthy relationship
Exactly right, every relationship needs a lot of work to be happy and healthy relationship. Me and my partner is 25 years apart and we are celebrating our 17th anniversary
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I prefere same age
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My relationship lasted for 11 years, we were 23 years apart. We broke up for reasons not related to the age gap
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I never had the opportunity to date someone who was much older than me, but honesty and a good communication should be even more valued in a relationship like this.
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Yes. My wonderful partner and I have 25 years between us and we have been together for 17 years.
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…most of the guys seem to be sexually attracted to daddies with hopes they've got that $omething $pecial and don't quite view their romantic-emotional side...
The "Sugar Daddy"/"Sugar Mama" speculation is common in perceptions of younger/older relationships–straight and gay. As I see it, that number is attributed more to the difference in assets over age–yield vs. years.
That “true love”–equal in age or older--can be a “gold-digger” just as much as that young hottie.
As it happens to be in our relationship, there is the age difference, and no doubt a big gap in our “net worth” as well–my “marrying well”--I guess you could say. That’s just how it is.
Believe me, there surely was no inkling that that “nooner” 35 years ago was anything but. (“How long have you and your partner been together?” - https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=49673.msg269126#msg269126)
Both hot and horny–age and income--definitely not on our minds! >:D
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I personally dont like people older or younger than me, but there are many people who likes older or younger. So they can survive but in a long term relationship, if there is a huge age difference, there may be problems.
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in a long term relationship, if there is a huge age difference, there may be problems.
There may be problems in any relationship–"long term" or otherwise--regardless of the age difference between the individuals.
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It's an individual case. So I think topics like that shouldn't exist. Any couple is different from one another. I, for example feel much better with older guys. Not old, just older. They're like pals to me but I can still feel a little authority towards them despite we're intelectually on the same level. I don't get along with younger. They're just too childish for me.
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i can accept a man that 20 years older then me
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i can accept a man that 20 years older then me
I think that Love knows nothing of looks or age… both change with time as does the heart.
