Bottoming??
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Why is it that so many attribute bottoming to being effeminate?? If anyone out there thinks that bottoming makes you less masculine, please explain because I just don't get it. I don't like strict anythings when it comes to sex, and don't think anyone should limit themselves, but I think that people having that mindset is the reason that most guys won't open up to new things. It takes a real man to bottom, trust and believe that!!
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It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship.
Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.
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It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship.
Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.
I really hate that, but I don't feel like the gay community has made it any better by accepting this. I hate when guys refer to their assholes as "pussy"!! But you hear it in porn, and all over the gay community. There's nothing attractive about that.
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Social attitudes man, I personally would like to be a bottom specially for a daddy but in a manly way kinda.
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It takes a real man to bottom, trust and believe that!!
Please explain because I just don't get it. What is so real about being a bottom? I'm sorry, but by taking such pride in bottoming you're only emphasizing your femininity imo.
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I LOVE bottoming (although I am a bit effeminate), but there are some VERY manly guys who like to bottom. I think some people take it as being effeminate because in straight relationships, the girl is the receiver all the time (excluding strap-ons).
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Well, I never thought of bottoming as being femine..
boifromaus86 - yes, there are blokes who like to bottom, but there are those blokes who have to be bottom because no matter how much they try, they can't top.
I'm more bottom then top but I enjoy it..
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i have tried to bottom for my boyfrend to giv him how it feels like, but i cudnt enjoy bottomin… :afr:
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Fuck society and their preconceived roles. i think only a real man can take a dick up in the ass and enjoy it
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Personally, I'm at least 70% top, but … once in a while, I get that itch. And there's nothing necessarily "feminine" about it.
There's something absolutely hot about someone wanting you so badly that they need to be inside of you. And knowing that you control their pleasure and sensation in that moment. It's a form of "control" in and of itself.
There's such a thing as power-bottoming.
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Saying only a "real man" bottoms is the opposite extreme and just as wrong. How much of a man you are is not related to your sexual role whatever it might be, there are effeminate tops and bottoms and versatiles, and manly tops and bottoms and versatiles.
I hate the assumption that there has to be a "woman" in the relationship as much as any other guy, and get just as pissed when somebody brings it up, but I'm not gonna say it's wrong for some guys to say they have a "pussy" or "man cunt" if they want to feel like women sometimes that's their business, I think we'd be very hypocritical to start saying something two willing adults do with their sex lives is "wrong", I get that most of us want a relationship between two MEN, but if a guy is comfortable and happy thinking of himself as "the woman in the relatinship" and his partner is also comfortable and happy, then what anyone of us thinks about it is irrelevant. -
I read the comments, and almost got upset, but let me be clear because some of you are taking my words out of context. First I am not glorifying bottoming in any way, and if by saying that I feel that it takes a real man to bottom is emphasizing my feminine side then whatever. I stick by my word. This is my opinion.
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I think it is society than we live in that build that kind of mindset into society mind. Sex is a love enjoyment and share our emotion. I know it sound so cheesy but it is trust.
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Olitommy hit it square on the nail. I tried to find a "like" button for his response, but didn't see it.
Across cultures we as a species seem to like to categorize things in dichotomy. Examples: Straight/gay, man/woman, good/bad, rich/poor, top/bottom, us/them, etc. I think it probably stems from the need for ease of identification. The problem is that such thinking, while easy and comfortable, is way too simple and doesn't reflect reality. And the values assigned to one side or the other usually cement these overly simplistic categories. In the West we're just starting to realize that humans are not dichotomies, instead we move along a spectrum. Look at the trans rights movement, and the awareness (and growing acceptance) accompanying it.
In most cultures, the top is perceived as masculine while the bottom as feminine. And we all know how women are thought of in may cultures. India, anyone? This is slowly changing in the West, although it still has a long way to go, as Danijelr15's comment shows. And it does take a "real man" to bottom. A "real man" in the sense that a Real Man doesn't give a flying fuck what other people think. To break a social norm requires guts and that, by my thinking, is "real man-ish," regardless of whether you prance around with limp wrists screaming "Oh Mary!", or go chugging beers with the bros wearing a flannel shirt and Levis.
A Real Man doesn't feel his masculinity is diminished by having a cock up his ass. A man who is insecure does. And that's the difference.
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Effeminacy has nothing to do with what your sexual position is.
There are total tops who are effeminate, and also total bottoms who are as masculine as it is possible to be. Just because you like getting fucked doesn't make you one or the other.
Perfect example is a truck driver friend of mine, fought in the first Iraq war, has muscles to die for, and loves nothing more than a dick up his arse, he looks, and behaves like a man, everywhere including the bedroom, there is NOTHING effeminate about him at all. Perfect husband material (if I wanted one)
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Social attitudes man, I personally would like to be a bottom specially for a daddy but in a manly way kinda.
Yup that's me too ! -
It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship.
Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use.
I really hate that, but I don't feel like the gay community has made it any better by accepting this. I hate when guys refer to their assholes as "pussy"!! But you hear it in porn, and all over the gay community. There's nothing attractive about that.
Indeed! I was once in a scene where one of the guys kept going on about my "pussy". At the first use of it, I excused myself for a couple minutes, second use of it I corrected him & third use of it I was out of there.
Also, real men take it up the ass!
