I'm not questioning anyone's preferences... nor making any rules... all I'm saying is that if you allow yourself to be objectified in your own relationships (sexual or romantic), you're making a mistake. And self-objectifying yourself is something ONLY YOU can stop!
My recommendation is to find mates (sexual and romantic) who like the whole you, not just your cock-and-balls. Your smooth (or bushy) chest, your round (or flat) butt, your blue (or brown) eyes...
So long as it's not REALLY out of balance, having a small dick (or small balls) shouldn't be a deal-changer for people worth your time! If there is a REAL issue, talk to a plastic surgeon - there are such things as prosthetic testicles... but IMHO, that's way overkill!
In my experience, guys who are attracted ONLY to "big, black cocks" (or "big balls") are not worth the price of a cheap dildo. (That's not to say that fantasizing about BBC is a bad thing - but fantasy should not control reality!)
There is that Armstrong guy on xvideos.com. He is verbal and abusive as xxx with a smile, but he is only a teaser, never getting out o his briefs or if he does something sexy he masks it as if it was japanese porn. And he makes so many video, they are interferiing with my muscle searches, so i thought about launching a campaigne to get him thrown out of xvideos for being softcore.
I know exactly what you mean.
It seems like when a video is a FETISH.. such as feet or spanking.. they leave out the SEX!
Something else I have noticed is that since the advent of Onlyfans, the volume of porn has gone up, but the quality has gone way down.
If I was a porn director, all of my performers would have a good haircut, be fit, no hair in asscrack, and they would not spit cum out as if it was poison.