You sound fantastic - i wish I lived in Spain and we could meet. I too am in my early 40's and am aware that one needs to settle down with a partner but I am in no rush. I understand your predicament though. It may be that you are not looking in the right places ? Surely there are dating applications you could go on and remember to play it cool if u come over too full on it may be a put off or smack of desperation. Sometimes things happen when you least expect it , perhaps you're looking too hard. Fulfill your sexual appetite with 'safe' casual meets until something better comes along. Sometimes casual meets can turn into something more long term. Always find common ground and same interests with someone else as this always gives you something to talk about and branch out from there. Remember it cuts both ways and someone deserves you try not to look at it the other way around. You never know-good luck and I hope you get the opportunity to meet someone simply wonderful. It's diffcicult as I don't 'know' you to say 'well you are doing this wrong or that wrong'.I hope you find someone and am sure there is somebody it's just you haven't met them yet, you will get your chance just simply let things happen 'naturally'….  :hug:

BG East and Can-Am especially king of frot Jarret Cole  :cheesy2:

No it would not as there are more things in life to worry about rather than something so trivial.

Although I don't agree there is too much of it , I do however reflect your sentiments on the quality of it. What I find annoying is the same thing coming round again after a short space of time. Just be selective in what you download or view and as simply put by another commentator avoid the section if you feel that strongly. The good thing is that there is plenty of scope to choose from and using the browse section means you can be interested in a scene by the picture whatever the section this relates to.

Hi, I see your problem and have experienced this. I do not have the solution but I can recommend some techniques. These may or may not help. The first is a furtive imagination , in your mind when the erection fades imagine you are with someone else whom you have always found attractive use the person as a substitute - but never reveal them the fantasies you hold in your head. You could put pornography on, pornography you think you may both enjoy then if you feel the urge dwindle then look at the pornography to keep your member from going to sleep. Never judge your own sexual abilities or prowesses by the standars of others. never think that in the pornography you watch that you have to sustain an erection for 30 minutes to an hour - these men ecome flaccid, have a break, get horny again after an unidentified amount of time and then the camera starts rolling again - porn actors, i would imagine, never really do everything in one take. Their sexual stamina and longevity is to do with the way the film is cut. Try blindfolds and work on areas of the body when you are flaccid and then build up to the erection - from reading your dilemma the issue is not being able to get it up at all but maintaining the erection in your cock. As the tide comes in and out so the penis ebbs and flows . It may be down for a short period but after resting time it may very well spring to life again. One natural remedy is Macca Root which can be used and these are easily available - search online about it . It needs to be taken over a period of time to receive the benefits. Another is using lube which has an active ingredient for mainaining an erection one contains guarana and is a massage and lubricant 2 in 1 this has a warming sensation which will assit to stimulate and maintain an erection. Finally a penis pump will help, this is exercise for the member basically and using this twice a week will help the blood flow in the capillaries. Should you resort to alcohol then this will do very little altough cannabis which is legal in some states of America is an excellent stimulant if used sparingly however constant use will have the opposite effect on your penis. A furtive imagination and some of the above may assist you. An understandning partner will not really bother whether you can get it up all of the time but will certainly look forward to the moments you can. It's the same as orgasms, I have had wondeful dry orgasms where there is little or no ejaculation but it doesn't mean I didn't feel the earth move. Be natural and remeber the ebb and flow .

Naked in the summer and with boxers in the winter. Naked is best as you don't wake up with sweaty balls which has been cocooned in fabric.

No not at all. I love the feeling of reeling with ecstacy after the orgasm and the calm feeling of completion. Pornography is a transaction. performers achieve this to stimulate the voyeur and the voyeur achieves and releases their pent up sexual angst. I find, and always have done, it to be the most liberating experience. No one should feel disgusted as there is no harm in thought but it depends on how you were brought up the only impairment that could cause disgust are the poor individuals that are shackled to the constraints of religion which, on the whole, is man made and has nothing to do with pornography. I feel sorry for anyone who does depending on a variety of reasons as they are missing out on an amazing experience which should always be guilt free.

Jarret Cole for sure  :cheesy2: