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So, some advice you asked for and some advice you didn't ask for.

I'm Jewish and was circumcized when I was 8 days old.  I have a very sensitive penis.  Talking with guys who were circumsized when they were adults - there is a higher possibility of problems with pain and infection as an adult but as an adult you are better able to take care of yourself and be aware if there are problems.  If it's done by someone who is a trained specialist you shouldn't expect any loss of pleasure.

The advice you didn't ask for.  It's a red flag when a person you are in a relationship with is telling you that you are "too unclean to touch" until you change an aspect of your body.  Do not get circumcised/a tattoo/a piercing that you do not want to please someone else.

Back in the late 90s I figured out that I have good Queerdar.  About 5 guys I identified as to myself as being Gay (over a couple of years) came out as Transwomen.
So, I can pick up something with men or women that might end up being Trans or Bisexuality or Gayness but I'm not neccesarily good at distinguishing 'Gay' in particular.
Except for celebrities - I even figured out Dumbledore from the books.

I'm going to mainly disagree with you.

1/  Is there no good gay romance written by (straight) women?
Brokeback Mountain, The Front Runner, the Nightrunner series, and The Catchtrap come to mind as good gay romance stories written by women.

2/  The Seme/Uke tendency of (mostly) straight men fucking chicks with dicks is something that gay men write as well.  The fantasy of straight men fucking other men is very popular even in porn for example Broke Straight Boys.

3/  Yaoi developed in Japan quite separately from the development of m/m in North America.  Here it came out of fanfiction culture, largely female but not exclusively, who write romance stories about their favorite characters.  M/M represents male with male, M/F represents male with female, and F/F represents female with female.  Quite often you'll see men forced into hyper-feminine and hyper-masculine roles but that's based on how heterosexual romance tends to be written:  Mr. Darcy is older, wealthier, higher social status and smarter than Elizabeth Bennett.  Women will write X-Files fanfiction where Scully is completely subordinate to Muldaur as well as fanfiction where Krychek is completely subordinate to Muldaur.

4/  Homophobia doesn't come out of reading YAOI.  It doesn't particularly get rid of homophobia either.  It's no different from straight men watching "lesbian porn".

#4

The guy who has had inflammatory bowel disease and would much rather poop in a public toilet than in his pants.

Fucking with a condom where the top doesn't pull out when he comes.  Let's see the condom filled with cum when he pulls it out of the ass.

It's not quite a turn-off but it's something that throws me off with condoms in porn.
1/  The magic appearing condom - putting on a condom can be sexy.  Having one just appear throws me out of the moment.
2/  Why, why, why doesn't anyone ever come in a condom.  Guys pull out, take the condom off, then jerk-0ff.  I'd love to see someone coming inside the bottom then pullling out with the condom full of his load.

OK, I'm going to be shallow. 
Long hair is a boner killer.
If I see a man-bun I won't even bother downloading.