Hi, i really have a turn on for beautiful scandinavian and dutch guys (Danish, Swedish, Norwegian, Finnish), and although these countries are super liberal for me it's still difficult to find porn stuff coming from those countries. You guys have any suggestions of scandinavian models or porn studios with hot movies i can look for?

I am gay and catholic, and after much thought about my sexuality i came to the following conclusion.

Let's be strict. According to the bible dogma sex before marriage without reproductive purpose shouldn't be done, and althought it seems completely different in practice, this has no exclusive or exception rights for straight people. Sodomy (what straight homophobes call us all the time) involves from masturbation to oral sex straight AND gay! Sex with condoms, having multiple female partners are technically sins a well! In a post-sexual revolution world we have a giant hypocrisy of a straight society that do as much "sin" as gay people and still externalize this to homossexuality as if this was a "special" or "worse" sin that ever existed.

I researched a lot and talked with catholics priests, and they explained over and over that in fact, chastity should be for everybody, but while straight people can have a marriage and can generate life, gay people fall on the problem of the need of eternal chastity. But this do not mean that a straight guy having multiple sexually active partners during his life is better than any "promiscuous" homossexual.

What happens is that straight people, and in fact, the average-joe, hates homossexuality purely by orientation repulse: "ew, i wouldn't do that so this means this behaviour is bad". And this kinda tangles with the notion of chastity of christianity that they themselves forgot and ends up in "gay are sodomites, but my masturbation is natural and ok, even if masturbation IS sodomy". Knowing that what homophobes and their alpha male complex says is not what the bible dogma is brought me back to christianity, made me feel not as an outcast monster as I felt before. I keep as a catholic, because protestantism in general the Catholic Church understand that humans have sin, and tolerate it way more than protestantism, that keep pushing this idea that their followers are holy and everyone else evil sinners from hell.

And the part of understanding sin nature of human is the most important. Just because it's wrong nobody expects you to have a holy life without sin, although it's desire of the church and from god that this goal become reality for many people as possible. If living a saint life was so easy, we would have way billions of saints. I value religion because it sets virtue "ideals" that are good to pursue, living a life in sin it's not nice, i know because i was really promiscuous and i always felt empty inside. Even in a non-religion sense we can notice that having and accepting lots of vices and addictions are not nice, but we know that living without them is almost impossible.

You need to repent from your sins truly at some point of your life if you wanna achieve heaven, this includes the blowjob of that girl a straight guy had, or the blowjob from thay guy a gay guy had. The homophobe that brags about fucking loads of women while discriminating gay people for having any kind of sex life is the most likely to go to hell, once he never repents and have pride in their sin.

That's my opinion, and this conceal pretty well my sexual orientation with my faith. Basically I don't believe i'm doing better or worse than any average straight single guy nowadays.

It's just frightening when you go to the place of the person, things are kinda dark and you only can think: Okay, what if he is a serial killer and kills me right now? Instantly i recap all my life, so most hookups on grindr (where i go directly to the person's house) for me have a bit of  passing-away experience for me. I generally don't like to go out at night, although it's more difficult somehow to find partners during the day.

But that's what gives us phobia, the unknown. It "might" be a psychopath, 99% of times may not be but there's still the 1%. I feel kinda scared too when i have sex with a stranger, even if it was safe-sex, and then some weeks later i get a flu or something. So far nothing happened with me, but i confess it's pretty terrifying.

How it was the relationship with the first guy?

Hi, i decided to extend something i posted on a comment:

I have a problem: my partner is an effeminate top and i am a discreet bottom. I like discreet tops and he likes it as well, so i take the top side of the relationship. This makes me so tired and made me loose most of my sexual interest for him, although we keep doing sex, fewer times than we did before, what makes him feel really bad about himself. He works hard at the gym and got a beautiful body, but still doesn't makes him desirable for me aesthetically.

I constantly deny and try to create this idea of "i don't like to make sex just for making", although if a hot top guy asked me for sex probably i would do it without second thoughts. But we both know that i don't feel that much attracted for him, i fear this is hurting our relationship. The problem is that i love him a lot!

He is a sweet person that understands me and i am an really attentive and caring partner for him outside sex. We work well together and in a world that have so many std's (i am kinda hypocondriac), its good to have a partner that you trust. I cheated on him? only once when i made a travel for other country but instantly regret it, he said that he would be ok with an open relationship, but this goes against all of my principles.

So, since then i kept loyal to him, but keeping a sexual life is difficult! I don't wanna break up with him because of sex, in fact i came from a previous abusive relationship where the person faked he was my boyfriend while had sex with more than 100 people (yes) in a year. Since then i grew to understand that sex should not be a focus of a relationship, I feel i'm loosing desire for being single, i want to have a serious relationship that makes me happy and that can endure for a lifetime. And it's not that i never have sex with him, i do! and i do it well! but he needs to take the initiative almost always.

It is being bad for him, because he associates sex with love, so he thinks i don't love him but i do and a lot! so much that i could have been cheating him lots of times but i don't do it and feel completely fine about it. I denied sex with really hot guys interested in me for a long time. The problem is, is this sustainable?

Any opinions?

It's sad, but i feel exactly that. My boyfriend is the sweetest guy you can imagine, on our first months we had a lot of sex but i lost sexual desire although im deeply in love with him. The problem is that i'm the discreet-looking guy and he is affeminate, but he is a top and i am a bottom. So, i don't wanna bottom for him because this is a total turn-off, so i force a dominant "alpha" top on bed, what he likes a lot actually, i like it too but it's tiresome sometimes. I really like to bottom, but to buffed and more masculine guys than me.

Everytime i masturbate, or we fuck, i only imagine college frat guys that i know fucking me in all ways possible. That's what makes me really hard and that gives me pleasure, and to top that, my boyfriend has a super hot twink like body but his face is not my kind. In short terms, he is almost but not quite what i seek on a partner for "fuck".

But i came to a conclusion that is not worth ending a really good relationship, specially after all the shitty relationships i had with guys that satisfied me sexually way more than he do.

I went to hook up with this guy that was older than me (like, 35… i'm in my 20's), he was a bottom and so buffed and i thought it would be interesting to fuck him. When i came to his house ( a really nice house!), he showed that i could dominate him and at first i felt good! The things went downhill from there, why?

First he asked me to rim him, not a problem, but i rimmed him for like 10 minutes straight and my tongue was almost numb by then, i finally made him give his ass to me, and he started to shout first... "breed me", ok that's hot! But 5 minutes after he was like.

"Are you a straight boy yes? do you like my pussy yes?" - YEAH I GONNA FUCK THAT PUSSY DO HARD BABY
"Suck my nipples, like you suck of a woman, tell me more about how you fuck them" - hot... yeah i fuck many women (lies)
"Tell me do you like it yeah?" - yeah i like it but you are so much better (trying to be cute)
"YEAH DO YOU FUCK PREGNANT LADIES, FUCK ME LIKE A PREGNANT LADY" - wha... I don't fu...
"I WANNA SEE YOU FUCK YOUR MOM, FUCK ME LIKE YOU FUCK YOU MAMMA" - WHAT
"Yeah, suck my PREGNANT LADY TITS BOY" - WHAT THE FUCK (emphasis on the shouting of pregnant)

By this time he was saying a bunch of weird shit about fucking a pregnant lady and the baby inside and i totally got turned off, and see that i'm into lot of roleplaying fetished (dad, son, brother, frat, teacher, sub, slave...), but pregnant-lady fucker? Hell no, everything has a limit.
I asked him to stop riding me, and dressed up as fast as i could and rushed aways as fast as I could. Why? For real, i thought if i stayed a bit longer he would kidnapp me and i would be gone forever. He looked kinda weirdo, i didn't notice this at first but he talked in a really weird tone of voice (not an accent though).

I remember talking about that with another hookup i had, i still laugh about it today. Someone could please tell me if this pregnant-lady-gay fetish is a thing?

I used to have + 600 GB, but i select rigorously all the videos. It's always on the best quality availabe, no duplicates, all the models are hot. One day, somehow i had lot of guilt and a bad feeling for having so much porn and i decided to delete almost everything from it. I left my skype recordings though (as i wouldn't find them anywhere else). Now im rebuilding my collection, but this time better!

I have a funny relationship with gay porn, i confess to you that i don't masturbate for porn in a while (like, more than 4 months for sure!). The best porn do for me is giving me ideas of sexual fantasies that i can have when i'm going to sleep. And the ammount of porn that i had and even the porn that i have now would take an eternity to watch.

But you know, i believe that collecting, and specially classifying porn has become a hobbie! It's so weird right? I naturally love to collect stuff, when i was young i used to collect rocks and stamps. The classifying part is my favorite though, i organize stuff in lots of different ways, now i'm trying to mount other scheme more based by actors (that is my favorite way to classify porn). It works like that: I select a pantheon of my favorite porn actors (Connor Maguire, Scotty Zee, Collin Simpson…), he being mostly top or bottom gives priority.

For example: if connor maguire and scotty zee made a video together where Connor is bottom, it would go to scotty zee file, but if Connor is a top, as he is mostly top on his videos, it would go to his file instead. I'm still making a more rigorous standard, because people like Tom Faulk that is bottom and top i classify by his looks, you know. More masculine guys take the top priority.

It doesn't give me much trouble though, generally one actor on the "pantheon" is always with other that is not.

I confess i am in a difficult moment and my life, i dropped out of college and i'm trying to enter in a new one, but this will take months and even with my job i still stay most part of my time at home. I love hot guys, so this has become a great past time for me.

If you curious to know what do i do with hot scenes that do not involve my favorite actors? I classify them firstly by fetish hierarchy: BDSM will have subfiles (edging, fisting, "rape"), Incest (brothers, dads, uncles - i don't bother with step-relatives), International (foreign guys is a fetish of mine, but falls in a lower hierarchy, only "non-fetish" sex scenes from international guys enter in this file, i classify by country)... Everything else that occupies most of it and do not involve any fetish (scenes from Corbin Fisher, etc...) i classify by company.

So its like:  actor > fetish > company

Sometimes i think about doing an thread about my perfection of the art of classifying gay porn haha, if some of you guys are interested just let me know.

This gives me some crazy post-modern insights. Sex has became so available with porn that now people like me see it as stamps or coins.

Hi,
I constantly think how i want to have children in the future with my partner, but it's still a difficult decision for me because i would not like to raise a children purely on egotistic desires. I want this kid to grow up and develop itself without major troubles caused by his or her family structure. The female figure seems still to me very important for raising a child, i don't think i would like to get my relatives involved, and maybe think to have a nanny that would take care of the home and be this figure.

I would like to know from you guys, specially if you have children without having a prior wife or female partner, if you find difficult to offer this side of parenting to them or if they show signals that they lack the figure of the mother. I believe a child may feel urge to search for his mom even if its adopted by a heterossexual couple.

Opinions anyone?

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