@spam17:

@I:

@acakbenak:

I'm negative, and my boyfriend is HIV+.
Before we started the relationship, we did check our statuses and both came back negative.
We did not use protection at all after that. I (always) swallowed his cum and I always cum inside him.

The following month, he had to go through a full medical check up for his work. His result came back positive.

We've been together for a year, and I still suck his dick without condom.
I checked regularly, every 90 days, and I am still negative.

To be safe, as recommended by our doctor and by the staff at a testing center in Sydney, we figured out safety measures: I suck his dick until he gets hard without condom first, and we will continue with condom – although they confirmed that swallowing has a very minimum risk of HIV contraction.

When it comes to anal sex, we always use protection, now. It felt weird at first -- I lost my erection every now and then, because I was so used to barebacking -- but it gets better. Our doctor recommended to apply lubricants to my dick before I put the condom on.

However, it all depends on ourselves. I mean, if it is a one night stand, I would make sure of his status and I would take more precautions. I would still do all, with protection.

We are in a monogamous-love-based-long-term-relationship, so you might see it as a different case.

I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?

I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..

@acakbenak:

Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.

Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.

Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.

Have you ever thought that 'things' could change?

Will you be or are you prepared for such an issue?

Sorry for replying so late.

When I met him, we had ourselves checked. At that time, the last time I had sex was more than three months. He, on the other hand, just had a one night stand a couple of days before. That's why, I think, the result came back negative.

When we found out that he is positive, he begged me to leave him. Yes, I had thoughts about leaving him. But it's not that easy.
I have just had a terrible relationship before I met him, and with him, everything seems just right. I did seek information on the matter, and I discuss everything with him. I know the risks, and I am prepared.

Wish me luck, guys.

@foreco:

@acakbenak:

@porkyV2:

being active in sexual activities i follow my social health doctor's advice for 4x a year. i have no problem with that since testing is free in my country and it also alleviates me of worries since i include the other std tests with it by paying a small amount. i really recommend having regular tests.

I am negative and my partner is positive. I get tested every 3 months, well, 4x a year.

so how do you guys do it? I always wonder. do you perform BJ with condom aside from the anal? or you wait until his viral is low?

Sorry to reply so late!

Well, technically, we would do the foreplay without any condom, but when I start to blow him, he always wear condom.
When I do the anal (I am the top) I always wear condom. There are times when I have to replace the condom during the intercourse.
If he bleeds, we usually cancel the anal and do other things.

However, as I was told by the nurse in an HIV/AIDS center, my chance of getting HIV from my partner is quite low. He even said that it is safe to swallow and to do the anal without condom, as long as my partner never skip taking the ART.

We don't want to take the risk, so we keep using condoms.

I was 15, to a female bestfriend, who unfortunately judged me immediately.

When I was 25, my parents asked me the nature of my relationship with my boyfriend at that time; whether it is just friend or more than friend. I haven't had the time to answer when my dad added: "If you want to return to the righteous path, we will help. If not, this is no longer your home."

So I went to my room, packed my bag, and left.

;D

I am in a long-distance long-term monogamous relationship, and my partner and I decided that it's better to masturbate to porn than having one night stands with strangers.

I don't feel disgusted afterwards; however, even when I thought "I'm so horny I will do it twice," after I finally cum, I immediately clean up.

The funny thing is, when I watch porn, I find that the actors don't matter to me anymore, but the audio. When I tried to watch it without sound, it took me way longer to cum. But when I just listen to the audio, not even watching it, I finish way quicker.

Maybe it's just me.

I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?

I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..

Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.

Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.

Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.

I'm negative, and my boyfriend is HIV+.
Before we started the relationship, we did check our statuses and both came back negative.
We did not use protection at all after that. I (always) swallowed his cum and I always cum inside him.

The following month, he had to go through a full medical check up for his work. His result came back positive.

We've been together for a year, and I still suck his dick without condom.
I checked regularly, every 90 days, and I am still negative.

To be safe, as recommended by our doctor and by the staff at a testing center in Sydney, we figured out safety measures: I suck his dick until he gets hard without condom first, and we will continue with condom – although they confirmed that swallowing has a very minimum risk of HIV contraction.

When it comes to anal sex, we always use protection, now. It felt weird at first -- I lost my erection every now and then, because I was so used to barebacking -- but it gets better. Our doctor recommended to apply lubricants to my dick before I put the condom on.

However, it all depends on ourselves. I mean, if it is a one night stand, I would make sure of his status and I would take more precautions. I would still do all, with protection.

We are in a monogamous-love-based-long-term-relationship, so you might see it as a different case.

@porkyV2:

being active in sexual activities i follow my social health doctor's advice for 4x a year. i have no problem with that since testing is free in my country and it also alleviates me of worries since i include the other std tests with it by paying a small amount. i really recommend having regular tests.

I am negative and my partner is positive. I get tested every 3 months, well, 4x a year.

I'm out and I have dated some closeted and outed guys.

Each has its own perks, I think. Living in a country where public display of affection is frowned upon, even for straight couples, and where homosexuality is considered a disease or mental disorder, it does not make quite a difference between the two.

It is indeed felt nice when my partner introduced me as his partner. I feel… acknowledged.
But it is also feel nice when I am introduced as a mere friend or cousin, because I don't think people need to know our personal life.

I am currently in a relationship with a closeted guy, and I enjoy it. We only come out as partners to a select few, those we actually care about and care about us. I did introduce him to my family, and he did promise me to do the same when he is ready.

I would not push him, tho. It took my parents three years from kicking me out of the house when I came out to start calling me again and welcome me home. It took them five more years to be willing to meet my partner at that time without showing their disappointment or even disgusted feeling they might have.

So, I'll let my current partner to take his time, even though it will take forever.

But then again, everyone will have different opinions and takes on this matter. As long as we are all happy with our choices, and understand the consequences, of course.

Love,
AB.