@koko4ryry:

You have someone that loves you. I'm fairly certain that when he looks at you, he sees the things that you can't see in a mirror. I have been in the underweight category my entire life, and I've always dated bigger guys. Bigger guys are more fun to be around. This thread seems to be all on the same page.

It seems to boil down to this though- you and your partner love each other. Ask him what he sees when he looks at you, don't ask a mirror… mirrors never have anything good to say

Hahah!  I like that.  I'll have to do that.

As long as my partner isn't trying to crack a nut, I'm very happy with ball play.

There's this great scene in United States of Tara.  Great show, I recommend it to everyone.
Background:  The show is about a woman with Dissociative Identity/Multiple Personality Disorder.  One persona thinks she's a 17yo slut.  Her and her husband have two kids, the younger being openly gay.
Son falls for boy. Boy is pastor's son.  Son tries to get closer to boy.  Become best friends.  Son makes move on boy.  Boy approves.  They have a closeted relationship. 17yo slut comes out, hits on boy.  Mom and boy make out.  Son sees.  Son flips shit.  Sister gets real:

Jason is nothing but a bi-curious church monkey who's using you to find some edge.
So maybe he will fuck some guys, and maybe you can get him to fuck you.
But he's gonna marry a girl, and he's never gonna love you the same way that you love him.

@SPT:

Lets put it this way m8
it's your body, it's your choice    if you don't like something about yourself change that.. but change it for the right reasons not for the wrong ones
change it because you want that because you don't like that
never change something about yourself because you think someone else might not like that.. not many people in your life are worth changing for and besides you might change something under the wrong presumption and end up losing someone might like about you

I should probably talk to my partner before I put too much effort into my build.  It is something I want, but we should probably talk before I commit to a gym membership or something.  We've talked about trying to get healthier together, but we've never talked about the kind of shape we want to work ourselves into.

@italianstyle:

Oh I know exactly what you mean! I'm on the verge of being a bear and my boyfriend loves the way I look: he keeps on telling me how sexy I am, and all I want to do is throw up everything I've ever eaten I used to be the slimmest of twinks and stayed thin until 6 years ago. Then I got sick, the weight piled on, and only bulimia can save me from crossing fully into bear territory  :cry2:

But it's weird how many young, goodlooking guys try to pick me up. When I look at a mirror, I'm heartbroken

I guess you'll just have to find a way to love yourself as you are. Booze helps

Happy to know I'm not alone.  I disagree with bulimia, but I know how you feel.  Everyone else has given me great advice: Don't look at yourself, look at your partner and don't do stuff for the wrong reasons.
At least other guys try to pick you up.  I know I shouldn't worry about that when I have a partner who loves me and I love, but it would be a nice little confidence boost… but a little weight just makes you more cuddly and less fragile.  Don't worry too much if you're working into bear territory, just work to keep it where you're comfortable and know that the few extra pounds say you're cuddly and can take or give a pounding. 
(And before anyone says I contradict myself, my BMI is Obese II almost Obese III.)

General rule of thumb would be 20.  I touched another dick at 16 though… If that counts.  Didn't actually suck or fuck until 20 though.

Added info:  I've always been more of a romantic, but all of my past boyfriends have been like, "You like me?  Well, you're cute, I guess.  Let's get down to it!"  At 20 I finally found someone that was willing to spend time to woo me and accepted that I was more reserved with my sexuality and treated me like a handsome king before we even revealed our feelings to each other, so I gave it to him.

So close, many times.  If my partner leaves for the store or something and hasn't been in the mood,  :fap: .  I think whenever I cum, it summons him, because he can be gone for minutes or hours, but as soon as I have a mess to clean up and porn to close, I hear the door unlocking.

Personally, I prefer to feel my partner shoot his load deep in my ass, but if it's a quickie, mouth will do.
Usually my cum finds its way anywhere from his face to his belly, but on the occasion that I get to top, I like to know I'm filling him with cum, but if he wants me to pull out, it's hot to see it on his balls and his hole.

In ascending order, watersports, scat and genital piercings.
Any kind of ball or dick piercing instantly kills any erections I'm going to have for the next 2-3 days.

@Olitommy:

@2222:

Sure, its though, been there, but the worst is loving a gay to pretend to be straight.

Or a guy who's so closeted that he never intends to acknowledge you in public as anything other than your frien

That hurts so much worse.  Falling for a straight man is just yearning for the unobtainable, but that's like having something that could, should and would be better, but you just aren't worth it to him…
That's how I felt about it anyway.

I have attempted to make this spoiler-free with the exception of names.  I still warn of mild spoilers.

I have played it and loved it!  Ian and Brad's routes are hot and sweet at all the right times.  The other 3 left a lot to be desired in my opinion.  It's great, the version downloadable from here lets you toggle chest hair, facial hair and condoms (which I personally love, because facial and body hair work for some, but not others, and it's nice to show safer sex, but I prefer to see BB).
Unlike other commenters, I'm happy it's more realistic.  Some porn illustrations have the guys' dicks bigger than their torsos.  Not that I don't think bigger is better, but at that point it's more comedy and cartoony than date-y or porny.
My only complaint is that there's such an expansive gallery.  This wouldn't be a problem if I wasn't such a completionist and felt like I couldn't stop until I had the full gallery.  Actually, after a month I'm still playing, because I can't get a certain jungle scene or fishy scene…  And I had to take Jed's route twice because there's two different routes you can take... I hated Jed.