Gay guys = turn off for me.
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Hey guys.. I have a strange situation. Maybe is my fault, maybe I just found only bad people but lately I don't like gay guys at all.. I am gay 100% In the past years I've dated only straight or bi-curious / first timer guys and I swear, sex with one of them is amazing. Sex with a gay guy is so boring, calculated and flat. Besides, it seems all the gays are so feminine in my city which is a huge turn off. I feel lonely and I would like to have a long term relationship but I don't like the sex part all.
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I'm not sure how to respond to any of that.
I can't believe that EVERY gay guy in your area is overly feminine. Nor can I believe that they are all boring in bed.
I seriously think it's some sort of mental block within you that makes you feel this way. It could be from a bad past experience. OR it could be that you are, deep down, putting up roadblocks to prevent you from having that relationship you want.
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yes, it can be because of so many bad experiences but believe me, this is a small city and the gay community is a disaster, even the top only dudes act like girls. :crazy2:
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Hey guys.. I have a strange situation. Maybe is my fault, maybe I just found only bad people but lately I don't like gay guys at all.. I am gay 100% In the past years I've dated only straight or bi-curious / first timer guys and I swear, sex with one of them is amazing. Sex with a gay guy is so boring, calculated and flat. Besides, it seems all the gays are so feminine in my city which is a huge turn off. I feel lonely and I would like to have a long term relationship but I don't like the sex part all.
Oh sweet lord, for a moment, I was like "When did I write this?". Okay, what you're saying there basically sums up my issues in the past.. four months.
I am also in a really small city, away from my home country (not too far, like one nation away ;D) and I was hoping that I wouldn't care about people here being jugdmental with gays. Frankly, I don't really care what the rest think, but as a student here, I also have to cope with potential rumors about me being gay. Since co-students are people I could work with, in the future, I'd rather delay or even sacrifice my sex life for that. The main reason however was that I couldn't really find a guy here that turned me on, most of them live an hour away, in other, bigger cities and I don't really like travelling to see my partner (nor do I believe that I am patient enough to make it work).After 4 months of introspection and doubting (as in almost hating) myself for being gay, I had mixed feelings and I told myself that I will not have sex again, until I am totally fine with my sexuality. So there was a girl we've been spending some with and I found out that she was asking if I am gay and this really saddened me. I am not feminine, she just inferred I am gay due to my alternative style (skinny jeans and matching t-shirts with shoes) and due to the fact that I apply hair products ("in a frequency unlike any other guy I've seen so far" - these are her own words).
I wanted to stop the rumor (don't know who she talked to, except the girl who told me about it) and there was another another girl who came in town. After some 'quality' time, she's now my girlfriend. I feel I am being unfair and selfish, but I honestly wanted to control the rumors and shut mouths, in case others talked about me too. So yeah, right now I am suppressing myself, we are having sex normally, but nothing's like a man. Some would say that deep inside I am bi and I don't recognize it or that I am experiencing a persistent denial, but no, I am a gay man and I know this for sure. I care about her and stuff, but it just… doesn't feel right.
Funnily enough, I tended to advise people in the past to avoid non-predictable incidents like this and I can't apply it on myself. But yeah, mainly it's about me having a relationship (no matter the fact that it doesn't feel right) and controlling the damage.
To sum up, I really know what you mean. I started questioning whether I actually liked other gay men for 4 months (and more, to be fair), mainly because I couldn't find an interesting gay person in this city or the ones I was aiming for were either straight men or not convertible (if you know what I mean :)).
Don't make the mistake I did - cause if I can't take it anymore, I don't know what's gonna be more unfair, the fact that I am not comfortable in my own skin or the fact that my girlfriend's gonna get heartbroken.
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Oh shit.. that is big. I understand you even that is not the right thing to do. You should end that relationship because it is not cool to lie. In that case you are lying not only to her but to yourself too and it will just make things worst. Better be single. :hug:
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Oh shit.. that is big. I understand you even that is not the right thing to do. You should end that relationship because it is not cool to lie. In that case you are lying not only to her but to yourself too and it will just make things worst. Better be single. :hug:
It's not lying really, it's just not telling her what the bigger picture is. She didn't ask me after all. I know, I make up excuses
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My friends often call me "The worst Gay Man they ever met" bit of a joke really. I am not camp, very rarely go out on the scene and don't generally act like what I like to call "Scene Queens" (No intention of offending anyone here)
My boyfriend is exactly the same. We do exist, but you got to turn over alot of rocks to find us ;D
Typically the type of guys you are looking for are hard to find as they don't submerge themselves in the gay lifestyle. They don't go to all the usual places. Most of my gay friends are the same as me really. I just kind of wanted to let you know that there are those of us that do exist and what you are feeling is perfectly normal.
I met my boyfriend 10 years ago (I know not the typical 3 to 6 month relationship) I met him through a female work colleague. We actually liked each other and thought we were both straight. It had come up in conversation with my work colleague and she quizzed me on if I liked him. I think she almost had heart attack when I said I did and "Why are all the good guys straight".
If you want any advice reply here (Tend to check forums weekly or at least try to) or send me a pm.
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You're gonna have to find someone that fits your needs. You need to find someone who isn't as feminine. I hate the term, but you need to find someone who "straight acting" meaning someone who is gay, but you would never know unless he told you.
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Hey guys.. I have a strange situation. Maybe is my fault, maybe I just found only bad people but lately I don't like gay guys at all.. I am gay 100% In the past years I've dated only straight or bi-curious / first timer guys and I swear, sex with one of them is amazing. Sex with a gay guy is so boring, calculated and flat. Besides, it seems all the gays are so feminine in my city which is a huge turn off. I feel lonely and I would like to have a long term relationship but I don't like the sex part all.
So you're looking for a romantic relationship with no sex involved?
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I get what you mean but I don't think you should be referring to them as "gay" guys since that makes it confusing.
I don't hate flamboyant/feminine men but I personally would not strive to date or have sex with them (circumstances might make an exception =p). I prefer more calm (normal?) sort of men? I'd rather not call them straight because I don't agree with the whole "straight" but having sex with other men idea.
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My friends often call me "The worst Gay Man they ever met" bit of a joke really. I am not camp, very rarely go out on the scene and don't generally act like what I like to call "Scene Queens" (No intention of offending anyone here)
My boyfriend is exactly the same. We do exist, but you got to turn over alot of rocks to find us ;D
Typically the type of guys you are looking for are hard to find as they don't submerge themselves in the gay lifestyle. They don't go to all the usual places. Most of my gay friends are the same as me really. I just kind of wanted to let you know that there are those of us that do exist and what you are feeling is perfectly normal.
I met my boyfriend 10 years ago (I know not the typical 3 to 6 month relationship) I met him through a female work colleague. We actually liked each other and thought we were both straight. It had come up in conversation with my work colleague and she quizzed me on if I liked him. I think she almost had heart attack when I said I did and "Why are all the good guys straight".
If you want any advice reply here (Tend to check forums weekly or at least try to) or send me a pm.
mattb, there are probably many more of people like us than anyone realizes. People are always surprised to find out I'm gay after knowing me for a while. I like to call myself "masculine gay", I really don't like calling myself "straight acting". I also attracted to "masculine gays". Truckers, auto mechanics, and other blue collar guys.
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Oh shit.. that is big. I understand you even that is not the right thing to do. You should end that relationship because it is not cool to lie. In that case you are lying not only to her but to yourself too and it will just make things worst. Better be single. :hug:
It's not lying really, it's just not telling her what the bigger picture is. She didn't ask me after all. I know, I make up excuses
It's incredibly selfish what you are doing. The girl doesn't deserve that.
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I think it's all in your head dude. I personally never go for straight or bi- curious guys cos most of the time they end up not knowing what they are doing, so I don't know where does sex with gay guys is boring comes from.
I don't know what place you live in, but everywhere where i've been there's plenty of feminine guys but a lot of manly guys as well.
So I think you are confusing your fetish for straight guys to gay guys being boring or too feminine. -
I have to agree with eboy here.
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In don't know how people see me because from my point of view I'm me and I think I am masculine, but I have the same situation… I know some gay that don't know I like men and they act almost all like women and it really bother me. They know this (that it bother me) and it seems they exagerate it even more...
Now I found a great guy (with a bigger cock than mine too and I'm a bit jelous ^^) but sometimes he has this feminine attitude that turn me off a bit...
