How much can you take?
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Hello all!
I'd like to share my case and hear your opinions.
I have problems taking long cocks or dildos. Anything over about 13 cm (5 inches) will hurt me, like if it reaches the bottom of my ass, and obviously I don't want to force it in as it can be very dangerous and painful. I've tried several positions but it is just not possible. Width is not usually a problem, with lube and patience
but I don't know if only 13 cm is common or not.So I'm just curious, how much can you take? Both in length and diameter would be nice
Thank you!
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First you said you already tried every position so If I said that you should avoid the prostate you'd probably have already tried that, 13 cm is actually pretty average and totally normal, what is happening is that the cock is hammering to the 2nd sphincter which links to the instestine and not the anus and has a slight curve, and it might cause disconfort when A)the top is an asshole ahah; B)You're just not relaxed or in heat, mostly It's hard to explain but some seasoned bottoms have a technique in which they relax and control those muscles and they allow for the extra inches, mind you that that is not always the best idea, and well it seams that when you're honestly in heat about a guy and the way he is making you feel that automatically opens may be because of the psychological relaxation, but don't guide yourself threw porn power bottoms getting a meter of cock jam up them for it's risky to say the very least.
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Hi myrea, thanks for your reply.
I think I'm avoiding the prostate, it's a different feeling from a prostate massage, for example, that is actually very good :cheesy2:
I've read about the second sphincter and it looks like it what's happening. I'm honestly in heat with my partner, he has about 17 cm (6 in) and he has to take care he doesn't pushes too much. I don't know it that second sphincter can be opened like the anus, slowly pushing with patience. I'll try to read about that on the internet, maybe I can find a technique or advices. Of course, I won't do anything crazy!
Thanks!
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From a Tops Point of View
I would take this problem of yours to heart and make it my job to help you thru this "block". Balls deep penetration can be quite pleasurable for both the Top and Bottom but does not happen instantly or even overnight for most bottoms. It takes some effort from the Top to create the situation where the bottom is actually begging for the balls deep penetration.
Getting fucked always starts in the Head and moves to the Asshole from my experience at least.
I think you should examine your fears and your partner should be working with you to get past them by using his skills to help you relax and be Hot enough to overcome this and enjoy the Balls deep fucking.
No insult intended or implied. This a real situation many go thru in life and as I said I would be concerned for you enough to help you thru it ~ for me this would be the Top's responsibility to improve. :hug:
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Thanks leatherbear, you are very kind!
It is true that we have some 'unaddressed issues'. The fact that we can't have sex very often (once in the weekend, not all weekends) makes it harder to practice
I'l talk with him and ask him to go slower (he usually goes very strong once inside me :bansex2: ) and we'll see if there are improvements. Maybe some dildo play at home will help. Well, it is always great even if it doesn't help >:D
Thank you!
Best regards. -
Thanks leatherbear, you are very kind!
It is true that we have some 'unaddressed issues'. The fact that we can't have sex very often (once in the weekend, not all weekends) makes it harder to practice
I'l talk with him and ask him to go slower (he usually goes very strong once inside me :bansex2: ) and we'll see if there are improvements. Maybe some dildo play at home will help. Well, it is always great even if it doesn't help >:D
Thank you!
Best regards.Dildo play surely will help you that is for sure… now up to practice >:D
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My husband is 17cm and i have no problem to take all of his cock. Maybe in the beginning, but its so many years ago…..
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My husband is 17cm and i have no problem to take all of his cock. Maybe in the beginning, but its so many years ago…..the biggest cock i take was 19cm...
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I also have an 8inch dildo, what i have no problem with :hug:
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For me things started out like you describe it when I started to be sexuall active! But for me it was a thrill to go deeper each time, the outch feeling beacame pleasure. Like leatherbear said Getting fucked always starts in the Head and moves to the Asshole. One can get obsessed about a certain thing and especially PAIN. So my tip for you relax and get in to it and try to readdress the pain and think about it as pleasure. I think you can feel the diffrence between: I'm geting hurt and outch pain (eg hurt pain = knife cuts you, outch pain = someone pinch you). That worked for me and dildos (start with thin but long ones and then upsize). Now days I don't get the ouch feeling anymore and sometimes I accually miss it (I'm able to take around 25cm).
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There is a reason why it hurts, go slow and lube up, the 2nd sphincter can't be hammered in, it has to be taken in a curved manouver, it gives amazing sensations however it can hurt like hell and give you a bleed or tear, so first adress it with a dildo and learn you anatomy which position and which direction to curve, and then with a trusted partner try to emulate it… and he will have to have a bit of patience believe me.
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10 INCHSÂ :cheers:
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I have taken at least 20cm/7,8in with ease ;D
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don't push yourself too hard
