attracted to younger boy
Hi. In my town there's a gay boy that I am attracted to. He is 18 and I am 36. He's very hot but, believe it or not, sex is not my main objective. If I had to choose between sex with him or just friendship, I'd gladly take the 2nd option. I just love his personality so much and would love to spend some time with him. I have no idea how to convince him to spend some time with me. Any ideas?
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Seems like you already know the person or have met the person. For me I always show someone I like the attention needed and the willingness to provide care then love. These 3 (attention, love & care) always work for me almost all the time and to some extent these 3 are a part of my everyday character that it always attract people I do not want to.
Show the person you like these 3 traits and he will eventually notice it. In time he will develop a response and you will get the signal but you must be careful and be sure. Young people these days are more straight-forward depending on how they were raised.
You also must be aware of young men who have needs or demands. Depending on how much you like or want that person, you must be ready to deliver or do not continue at all.
When you note that sex is not your "main objective," it also infers that sex could be a secondary objective.
So for heaven's sake, if things heat up, politely ask to see the younger person's legal photo identification. And check up on the age of consent where you reside.
If you live in a "town" (which denotes a small population), would public knowledge of any relationship put you in harm's way? These are things to consider.
And if the young man is 18, I'd stop using terms such as "younger boy" or "gay boy" -- again, to avoid potential problems down the road.
I'm not at my 30s yet, but I already have a distaste for "younger boys" as you say because it's an inevitable mess. They live in a different world, they have different needs and priorities. Hormones at its peak.
Regardless of any intention you might have, you need to be very clear and straight forward about it, there's no room for interpretations or you could literally undeceive them or have them thinking they've been groomed a few years from now.
If anything I'd just go for the sex.
In my corner of the world, a lot of "18s" are finishing up high school, living at home, and/or dependent on their parents for all or most of their financial support.
The comments in this thread have centered on the original poster's desires. The young man apparently has not signaled interest in a closer social or a sexual contact.
At age 36, I think any effort "to convince him to spend some time" with you has the potential for a number of unfortunate outcomes.
Here are some questions that need to be answered first:
Are you sure he is gay? nothing in your description mentions that.
Are you sure that he is over the age of consent? realy you need to be extra careful about that.
Suppose that he is gay and legal. Had he any sexual experiences before? The answer to this question leads to a different approach.
Now, approaching him depends on many factors, for example how open he is to older guys, the environment and social cycle etc. If you the town you live is a small town, and not very gay friendly, this could have severe consequences. 18 is still considered too young by some parents and it may cause drama.
Check his social media status and try to figure out were he stands. This is a good and safe start.
Again, be sure that he is over the age of consent.