Love or sex ?
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A title maybe a little confusing but what the hell.
I'm just curious what you guys think about love. Does it exist? You believe in one? How it affects the sex? You like those two to work in pairs or seperately ? Is it better to have sex with and from love or you just look for the hotness and get more amused by random encounters?From my experience having sex when being with someone is much better. Much more natural and I can enjoy it better. I just can't do casual hook-ups it doesn't work for me. I must know a guy, talk to him, then there is a connection and I can take it from there. I had a chance to sleep with really hot guys and totally my type but I just didn't because of that. Does a lot of you have that? And for me the sex was always better if I knew and felt more towards the person.
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I definitely agree with you- the sex is much better if you form some sort of connection with the other person. Not to judge random hook-ups: those are more for physical relief really. Sort of like helping each other get off.
Attraction is part physical and part social/emotional. That's why it's much better to have sex with someone you like- and the best sex is usually with someone who means something to you. ;D
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I had sex with strangers and only helped me to feel more lonely. So I stopped and decided that I would only “make love” since then. But with my ex bf's I didn't do it bc we didn't last long, so… I'm just waiting for now, two years without sex and counting.
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Just offering a different point of view - I love my partner.. crazily.. but I don't want to have sex with him.. we are in an open relationship and things are going very well.. 4 years and running..
Sustainable?
Point: Love and sex, although ideal when put together.. does NOT necessarily come hand in hand.. I'm hoping I'm not wrong down the road.
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From my experience having sex when being with someone is much better. Much more natural and I can enjoy it better. I just can't do casual hook-ups it doesn't work for me. I must know a guy, talk to him, then there is a connection and I can take it from there. I had a chance to sleep with really hot guys and totally my type but I just didn't because of that. Does a lot of you have that? And for me the sex was always better if I knew and felt more towards the person.
I am very much the same. I don't like hook-ups because I'm not at ease with random strangers. I am hardly at ease with people even socially, let alone sexually. Unless I am very intimately close to someone, I can never really feel completely comfortable in my own skin. But when I am intimately close to someone, it alleviates all the anxiety I would otherwise feel around another person. I'm more confident and uninhibited when I don't feel anxious.
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Love .
because in the end .. We need To feed our emotions more than we need to release our sexual energy .You can still live when you loss all the senses of your lower body .
But you can't live if you lose your heart . -
Just offering a different point of view - I love my partner.. crazily.. but I don't want to have sex with him.. we are in an open relationship and things are going very well.. 4 years and running..
Sustainable?
Point: Love and sex, although ideal when put together.. does NOT necessarily come hand in hand.. I'm hoping I'm not wrong down the road.
I will agree with this. I was with a guy for 3 years and I didn't initiate sex with him. I wanted his company but I sought sex elsewhere.
Hooking up can feel empty emotionally but the sometimes is AFTERWARDS. The thrill of meeting a new guy or the risk of getting caught and all that are BEFORE and that can be fun, if that's what you're after.
You can say it's different things.
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Just offering a different point of view - I love my partner.. crazily.. but I don't want to have sex with him.. we are in an open relationship and things are going very well.. 4 years and running..
Sustainable?
Point: Love and sex, although ideal when put together.. does NOT necessarily come hand in hand.. I'm hoping I'm not wrong down the road.
I will agree with this. I was with a guy for 3 years and I didn't initiate sex with him. I wanted his company but I sought sex elsewhere.
Hooking up can feel empty emotionally but the sometimes is AFTERWARDS. The thrill of meeting a new guy or the risk of getting caught and all that are BEFORE and that can be fun, if that's what you're after.
You can say it's different things.
I agree with you. I too am in love with my partner of 8 years but I no longer want sex from him.
I know he wants it with me but I just am not interested in sex right now. I work and I am studying for a master degree and the idea to stop and have sex, which is usually one-sided, just doesn't appeal to me.
I am not looking outside the relationship either.I think that there is Love, Love and sex, and just sex, whichever makes you happy don't let other people's opinions bring you down.
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Wow didn't actually expect such responses. I mean I thought people would be just single and looking for sex, not like you guys being in a relationship and not sleeping with your partner. Actually I have a friend like that. Their relationship turned 18y a couple days ago and he loves him but he's just like you guys, looking for sex with someone else maybe because he has much bigger needs than his boyfriend. And I think it's something common and natural in gay community now. I totally respect that
The most important thing is for both sides to feel comfortable and happy.Maybe I'll have that point of view too one day but for now, I just feel like the guy I love is the sexiest man alive. I mean everything is perfect in him. I love his personality too, but physically it's the best body I've seen. So sometimes it was like I had chances to do hook-ups but I just didn't want to be with any other guy to loose the memory and the touch of his body on mine. So it really does depend on a person.
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sex
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I like to be single and play a lot.
i'm not for relationshp, i would be free
