Sex!!! Condom or bareback?
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Well this topic has resurfaced.
Ok. I am married to my husband and we are different statuses. He's a HIV+ Bottom and I'm a HIV- Top.
Managing the protection is always an issue for us. Even though his viral load is undetectable, thanks to medication, that doesn't mean we can play around with risky play. We'd both rather that I didn't also have to take medications.
And for those of us who are in the 6% with larger and thicker cocks, it IS a problem to find condoms that are both think enough to enjoy the feeling, and actually fit without hurting me or making me go soft.
Best thing I can say, is as a top, go find yourself a comfortable condom, and make it work.
-K
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My BF loves to fuck me BAREBACK because he says it is more thrilling and has more feelings. As a result, I too like to feel his hot cock flesh inside me and moving in and out like a piston. With a condom wrapped around his dick, the warmth is not felt, just the thrill of the movement of his dick in and out of me. Therefore, I use a FLEET enema to clean up my lovehole so that BOTH of us truly enjoy the fucking and the love-making with lots of foreplay firstly.
IT IS SAFE TO BAREBACK WHEN BOTH HAVE TESTED HIV NEGATIVE TOGETHER IN THE SAME LAB AT THE SAME TIME. AND NO OTHER STDs TOO.
Hope this comment and advice helps.
Thank you for reading my opinion. -
My BF loves to fuck me BAREBACK because he says it is more thrilling and has more feelings. As a result, I too like to feel his hot cock flesh inside me and moving in and out like a piston. With a condom wrapped around his dick, the warmth is not felt, just the thrill of the movement of his dick in and out of me. Therefore, I use a FLEET enema to clean up my lovehole so that BOTH of us truly enjoy the fucking and the love-making with lots of foreplay firstly.
IT IS SAFE TO BAREBACK WHEN BOTH HAVE TESTED HIV NEGATIVE TOGETHER IN THE SAME LAB AT THE SAME TIME. AND NO OTHER STDs TOO.
Hope this comment and advice helps.
Thank you for reading my opinion.Well I'm glad you enjoy it and more power to you for taking the risks, but, it isn't accurate to say that "IT IS SAFE".
There is no such thing as absolutely "safe". There is "safer" and you may be engaged in one of the safer-sex as long as you and your partner remain 100% safe. Wait, didn't I say there is no such thing as 100% safe?
-K
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Connects to shower ~ Used for deep enemas!!!
didn't know that even existed! want one of those
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Always condoms. Unless we've been on a relationship and we're getting regularly tested. I mean, trust alone is not enough. I may trust you, but for all I know you've been cheating on me and not protecting yourself. Breaking my heart is enough of a price, thank you very much.
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I've just read through all these replies and found them very interesting..
I'm a bi-sexual who was married to a woman for 15 years (we divorced last year after a three year seperation), although our sex life was inactive after six - we only stayed together for our daughter (now 15). All the time, we used condoms, although my wife got pregnant because one split.
I've not had a steady gay relationship. I'm more bottom but anytime I've had sex, it's always been with a condom. When I've met people via websites, I've told them I have a rule and that when doing oral sex for the first time, condoms must be worn, by the two of us.
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For me, condoms for blow jobs are unnecessary. The science is sufficient to show your mouth to be chemically incompatable. So unless you've an open sore in your mouth, or bleeding gums, I'm not worrying about blow jobs.
But that is just me.
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always condoms :blownose:
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condom is mandatory, bareback only if i know my partner is tested…
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Most of my life was bareback
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Always condom except in a serious relationship.
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Always with condom!
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Actually I think there is a survey suggesting that in your combination of hiv status and top and bottom unprotected sex could improve your resistance to hiv through a slight exposition to the virus in non-infecting amounts. Like a vaxine, if you will. But I only remember reading of one survey and it also stressed out that this was not without risk.
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I prefer bareback whether I'm top or bottom. It has to be one gorgeous cock for me to suck it with a condom on! Usually, I find it not worth the effort.
Others have described the difference in feeling and I agree with the ones who've said that it feels much better; hotter!
If my play partner wants to use condoms, I respect that and we'll play wrapped. As long as the decision to go raw or wrapped is an informed one, honestly made, fully taking into account any and all possible outcomes, I respect that decision. As such, I'd hope that anyone I encounter would similarly respect my decision, even if they disagree.
There's always the option of saying, "Thanks, but no thanks," and walking away.
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bareback all the way….
it feels right -
condom with a unknow , bareback with my boyfriend
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I used to have a rule i'd top bare if the guy wanted and id bottom bare if i felt comfortable with the guy cause aids transmission is far more likely from top to bottom than it is from bottom to top.. anyway long story short met a guy who was into some of the more obscure fetishes i am let him top me bare with his magic penis and got the clap from him… twice oops any way now i only play safe and with a small group of people
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Always comdom, even in a relationship
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The majority of the posts have been "Always use a condom unless you and your boyfriend are tested" From what i read they are tested, Top is Neg, bottom is Poz.
Now let talk about risk, everything you do in life has a risk, something more than others. Living in LA has a risk, so does living in the country. Just different risks. Not too many street gangs in rural Wyoming, there again few people have been killed by a tractor in downtown LA.
If you are Neg and a Top you partner is Poz, bottom and undetectable they chances of the Top contrating HIV is so so small it is almost not work talking about. If the bottom was Neg and the Top Poz and undetectable current stats suggest that the chances of the bottom contracting HIV are small. That being said the statistics are only suggesting this, no formal study has been done for obvious reasons. HIV follows the line of the body fluids, so if the Top is fucking the bottom 99% of the fluids are going Top to bottom. There are issues like Tops with foreskins (wash under your hood good after just to make sure none of the bottoms fluids remain)
In the end, we all have to decide what risks are acceptable and which ones are not.
Oh and for the record. The pups Master fucks it bareback all the time using only spit for lube, pup alergic to most lubes, has been for 5 years now and he is still Neg. Your milage may vary….
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a guy who says he's negative is only as accurate as his last HIV test (which itself may only have been accurate a few weeks before the test actually happened)
So unless he's been celibate since the test before last (and can prove it) assume he's positive and you'll not put yourself at riskpersonally I bareback whenever I can, and much prefer it
