Penetration
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Penetration. I can't put the thing in the hole.
Hi everyone, I'm pretty new here and this is my first post. I'm clearly only posting because I'm distressed, and I'll try to keep this inquiry short and sweet as to not take up too much of your time and energy on my ridiculous, idiotic obsession. I'm a pretty young guy, I'm 24. But y'all.
I started having sex at 21, and sometimes I have trouble inserting my penis into an anus. I am not promiscuous; I do not have sexy times very often at all. I think I've had sex maybe fifteen times in my entire life to be honest, this post is about penetration. I'm versatile and my penis is 6.3 inches long approximately and many times I can't get it in. Not successfully getting-it-in wouldn't be a problem if I could stay erect despite of it. If I don't get it in, my penis turns into rubber within 30 seconds and I can't even further my attempt because I'm not hard enough. I've topped six times, sexually satisfying the bottom until he reached his orgasm, but honestly as of late I haven't been able to put the stick in the hole, ya know?
During foreplay I'm super hard. All I want to do is fuck, but when push comes to shove, I'm not confident 100% that I will do it. What do you think? Am I doomed to bottom? What do you guys do? My plan of action as of now is to stop watching porn, stop jerking off, and save it for when I plan to have an encounter. I only care because a guy I'm interested in asked me out and he is also verse and he really wants to bottom for me, and I don't want to let him down.
I haven't tried erection pills? SOS.
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It sounds like penetrating a guy doesn't turn you on enough to get/keep you hard.
It could also be the lack of confidence you mentioned. This is something you'll have to work on (unless above is also true). If the person you are with knows the situation, then most likely they will understand and not expect the most perfect performance. As you do it more, your confidence will grow.
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Penetration. I can't put the thing in the hole.
Hi everyone, I'm pretty new here and this is my first post. I'm clearly only posting because I'm distressed, and I'll try to keep this inquiry short and sweet as to not take up too much of your time and energy on my ridiculous, idiotic obsession. I'm a pretty young guy, I'm 24. But y'all.
I started having sex at 21, and sometimes I have trouble inserting my penis into an anus. I am not promiscuous; I do not have sexy times very often at all. I think I've had sex maybe fifteen times in my entire life to be honest, this post is about penetration. I'm versatile and my penis is 6.3 inches long approximately and many times I can't get it in. Not successfully getting-it-in wouldn't be a problem if I could stay erect despite of it. If I don't get it in, my penis turns into rubber within 30 seconds and I can't even further my attempt because I'm not hard enough. I've topped six times, sexually satisfying the bottom until he reached his orgasm, but honestly as of late I haven't been able to put the stick in the hole, ya know?
During foreplay I'm super hard. All I want to do is fuck, but when push comes to shove, I'm not confident 100% that I will do it. What do you think? Am I doomed to bottom? What do you guys do? My plan of action as of now is to stop watching porn, stop jerking off, and save it for when I plan to have an encounter. I only care because a guy I'm interested in asked me out and he is also verse and he really wants to bottom for me, and I don't want to let him down.
I haven't tried erection pills? SOS.
Don't wank for a few days before you see him. Your erection will be rock hard, and have more confidence in yourself. Have fun.
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You're putting too much pressure on yourself man. Sex is as much in the brain as it is in the dick. (more so, actually.)
First, don't worry about it. There are worse things in life than being a bottom; so if it turns out that you go that way, enjoy it!
Second, it isn't too clear what about topping is the kill point. I've found that I much prefer topping, ehrm, from the bottom. (Lying down and letting my guy sit on me.) So change it up; see if some other position is more to your taste….
Any way you cut it though, try not to stress out over it; that way lies madness!
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I've had this problem too. It's worse with a bottom who is uncomfortable or not relaxed or inexperienced. Much easier if the bottom is at ease and knows how to loosen up and be penetrated. So choose your partner wisely. Also if it keeps being an issue, try not masturbating for a day or two beforehand and make sure you're not too tired, drunk or high. I find those things greatly increase my chance of successful penetration.
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Is there any advise on what position to do first?
