Kicked out of the house?
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There's always the story of being kicked out of home because you were gay and it probably happened a lot in the past but does it still happen now-a-days? I feel like our society has gotten at least accepting enough to keep your child under your care but I just need to know if it still happens regularly?
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I would assume it still happens today, sometimes we take for granted the lucky bubble we live in being in heavily populated liberal cities, my heart goes out to the people that have a rough time.
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I haven't told my parents because I want to financially independent before anything happens and they want nothing to do with me.
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I have a friend who was kicked out of his house 4 years ago at 16 for being gay, this year for the first time since his family asked him to come home for the holidays. he basically said fuck you.
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well surprisingly here in middle east is doesn't happen that much i have a lot of friends who are out to their parents about their sexual orientation and their family is okay with it? but speaking for myself im not out to my family but i guess think have some clues about it but yet their are in denial. i would never tell them cause first this is a private matter that belongs me to decide what to do in my own bed or whom i sleep with plus i dont want to lose my financial aid and the life style im living from being out so late and having my friends over plus i dont want to hurt them if they knew it would devastate them
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At least in the United States, a parent or guardian is legally obligated to support a minor until they turn 18 (you can literally show back up at the house after being kicked out by a pissed off Dad, and watch that purple-faced, apopleptic Dad be hauled off in cuffs). Few people seem to take that recourse.
If you're a college kid or something and still living at home, though … it's a different story.
Long story short, our culture is one that seems to put a lot of pressure on coming out, and it is an important step for any LGBT person to truly step into adulthood and live an at-peace, happy life ... but there's a reason to time it properly. It can be outright dangerous for someone too young to support themselves. If you're over 18, you have to make a decision about what's more important to you -- that rent-free roof over your head, or self-honesty and freedom (at which point it's on you to start making alternative living arrangements; you're legally supposed to be able to handle that task from there, anyway).
It sucks, but we all get to this point where we have to decide in some way or other whether we're happy with our parents' rules any longer, or if we'd rather tough it out, suck it up, and do what's necessary to be completely free. For the most part, I would think that anyone in that situation would know very well how likely it is that they'd be kicked out after revealing their sexuality. I have a lot more sympathy for people that are accidentally revealed.
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Hi
As much as I like to think that being gay is no longer Taboo (and for the most part this is true). Sadly it does mean you are sometimes met with a never ending parade of stupid. Sadly people being kicked out still happens, I am in the UK and have a had a few friends who were kicked out by their parents. Mostly they were religious households. I don't want to say it doesn't happen, not going to lie about that. What I will say is that it happens less often than it used to.
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I'm in Australia, and even though most people are accepting of it here, there are always going to be those who don't respect it - at my Uni, it's pretty clear who those people are; they make their disgust pretty clear - kinda hurts tbh…
I think therefore, that the "kicking out of the house" thing still happens, even here, but there's a helpline which helps deal with this, and kicking an adolescent out permanently has its legal ambiguity as well
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Facing the consequences of being kicked out is stil not so easy..
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it is highly probable i get kicked out of the house since an asshole living near me saw me cruising. i always thought he was a closeted married dude until yesterday,as i got off the bus he was also in, as i was walking he screamed hey madman, where are you going?
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i always thought he was at least curious because he would always watch guys having fun in the restroom while he was smoking. he never seemed to be bothered by it so i can't understand his hateful comments towards me.
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I am sorry you had to endure that. Comments can really get under your skin. But don't let it break your spirit
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I am sorry you had to endure that. Comments can really get under your skin. But don't let it break your spirit
Thanks, that is really nice. I must admit that I have taken a few precautions like today renting a bank locker to safely store my academic certificates, also have some money I saved. However, I do hope this does not come to this eventuality.
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I am sorry you had to endure that. Comments can really get under your skin. But don't let it break your spirit
Thanks, that is really nice. I must admit that I have taken a few precautions like today renting a bank locker to safely store my academic certificates, also have some money I saved. However, I do hope this does not come to this eventuality.
where do you live? by the time you're adult (I suppose youre not if you still live with parents) you will move out eventually ?
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Thanks God, anything like that happened
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Very isolated case of being kicked out in our country. My heart went out to those gays who have been kicked out just for being gay
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It does happen. I have read several stories lately about cities that are dealing with LGBTQ homeless issues.
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I live in an Indian household in the middle east. The chances of me not being kicked out of the house when I come out are very small (5% in my head).
So, whenever I think about coming out, for me, the scenario is almost always when I've graduated from university and have a steady job to at the least support my basic necessities.
It's definitely hard to think about, but I've just kind of come to the conclusion that my parents will not/ won't be able to accept me being gay.But my advice to everyone, me included, is to make sure that you don't lose hope. No matter how small, there may be a chance that your family will be able to look past what society thinks and accept you for who you are.
Nevertheless, just for precaution, be sure that you can support yourself if you are kicked out.
Much love to all the people struggling with coming out!! :love: :love: :love:
