Does your taste change as you get older?
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Can you go from liking bears to cubs to regular guys as you get older?
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Can you go from liking bears to cubs to regular guys as you get older?
Sure, why not. Nothing is written in stone.
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Definitely. Was 100% bottom sub in my teens, now in my 20's I've done a 180 and become a keyholder Dom!
Remember, we like what we like, and no sexual taste is better or worse than any other. A bear isn't better or worse than a cub, and neither is preferring one to the other.
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my taste in men and my preferences in sex change all the time. Specifically the older I've gotten the less attractive I find skinny Twinks. When I was in my teens and early twenty's young looking guys like that were so hot to me and now that I'm older they don't turn me on very often and I'm usually thinking "HE LOOKS SO YOUNG" and not in a good way.
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I've been all over the map through the years, I get a 'craving' for a certain type or another, sometimes completely getting polarity reversals in terms of being drawn to a type that would've been completely uninteresting to me in the earliest days of me realizing that I had a sex drive. When I first got access to porn at 18, I was highly drawn to the bronzed, perfectly chiseled Euro look of Bel Ami … but as I got older, I got a crush on a sassy twinkish guy (not too much younger than me, but he had a young look and vibe), and I suddenly developed a thing for very effeminate, petite, scrawny guys with no muscle tone at all.
I actually wish I could find more porn with highly feminine bottoms (not trans, but just very cute, very smooth, very non-masculine guys ... I've known men in their 50s that meet this bill, they don't have to be young), but I do seem to be in the minority with that particular taste -- most gay men I know are openly contemptuous of feminine guys, but I love 'em. Ironically, it's some of the most flamboyant guys I know that seem to have this prejudice.
I never used to be attracted to black men at all, either, but as I got older, that hangup rapidly went away. I'd happily date a hot man of color as readily as I would a white guy. I also stopped caring about perfect bodies so much; a little padding doesn't make-or-break it for me anymore. Oh, and baldness ... it used to look "old" to me, but now, I honestly don't care if the guy knows how to stay on top of it and rock a shaved head.
Now, there are still types I absolutely don't feel attracted to and don't think I could even get it up for, but my range has definitely broadened.
The formula for attraction is complex indeed. Maybe it's a little bit like learning to like different types of food? When we first become sexually active (whatever age that is for any one of us), we're essentially that toddler in the high chair flipping their plate up if they're offered anything but chicken nuggets and chocolate milk. You get older, you learn other foods aren't toxic, and can actually be pretty enjoyable. Just a theory.
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my taste changes daily hehehe
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You Won't Stay The Same, Study Finds
by John Tierney of The New York Times
JAN. 3, 2013When we remember our past selves, they seem quite different. We know how much our personalities and tastes have changed over the years. But when we look ahead, somehow we expect ourselves to stay the same, a team of psychologists said back in 2013. They described research conducted on people's self-perceptions. They called one phenomenon the "end of history illusion," in which people tend to "underestimate how much they will change in the future." According to their research, which involved more than 19,000 people ages 18 to 68, the illusion persists from teenage years into retirement.
"Middle-aged people often look back on their teenage selves with some mixture of amusement and chagrin," said one of the authors, Daniel T. Gilbert, a psychologist at Harvard. "What they never seem to realize is that their future selves will look back and think the very same thing about them. At every age people think they're having the last laugh, and at every age they’re wrong."
Other psychologists said they were intrigued by the findings, published in the journal Science, and were impressed with the amount of supporting evidence. Participants were asked about their personality traits and preferences — their favorite foods, vacations, hobbies and bands — in years past and present, and then asked to make predictions for the future. Not surprisingly, the younger people in the study reported more change in the previous decade than did the older respondents. But when asked to predict what their personalities and tastes would be like in 10 years, people of all ages consistently played down the potential changes ahead.
Thus, the typical 20-year-old man’s predictions for his next decade were not nearly as radical as the typical 30-year-old man’s recollection of how much he had changed in his 20s. This sort of discrepancy persisted among respondents all the way into their 60s. And the discrepancy did not seem to be because of faulty memories, because the personality changes recalled by people jibed quite well with independent research charting how personality traits shift with age. People seemed to be much better at recalling their former selves than at imagining how much they would change in the future.
One reason for this is the well-documented tendency of people to overestimate their own wonderfulness. Believing that they just reached the peak of their personal evolution makes them feel good. The 'I wish that I knew then what I know now' experience might give people a sense of satisfaction and meaning, whereas realizing how transient their preferences and values are might lead them to doubt every decision and generate anxiety.
Or maybe the explanation has more to do with mental energy: predicting the future requires more work than simply recalling the past. "People may confuse the difficulty of imagining personal change with the unlikelihood of change itself," the authors wrote in Science. The phenomenon does have its downsides, the authors said. For instance, people make decisions in their youth — about getting a tattoo, say, or a choice of spouse — that they sometimes come to regret. And that illusion of stability could lead to dubious financial expectations, as the researchers showed in an experiment asking people how much they would pay to see their favorite musical artists.
When asked about their favorite artist from a decade ago, respondents were typically willing to shell out $80 to attend a concert of that same artist today. But when they were asked about their current favorite artist and how much they would be willing to spend to see the newer artist's concert in 10 years, the price went up to $129. Even though they realized that favorites from a decade ago like Shakira or Justin Timberlake have lost some of their luster, they apparently expect Beach House and Katy Perry to blaze on forever. Thus, the end-of-history illusion seems to represent a failure in personal imagination.
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for me no, i still love twinks and probably always will haha
